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Yikes. To be honest, your friend sounds incredibly rude.

Wow.... I think talking about a friends struggle with breastfeeding IS talking about the mom! Her life now is 24/7 baby related so there isn't much else going on.

Wow. What a weird response.

Wow. Harsh words!! It definitely seems like there are some underlying issues if she willingly throws away friendships because she doesn't like babies.

Would you want to/ be able to delve further into the issue...especially if you want to maintain her friendship (although it sounds like it doesn't matter either way?).

I think the way she expressed her feelings was harsh, but in general I don't have a problem with how she feels. I can understand how, if you're childless by choice, it can seem like your world is turning upside down when all your friends are having kids. That said, she really needs to consider the fact that he is seriously limiting her options for friendships if she does not want to be friends with any women with children.

Wow!!

@Cherrybee: I just focus on the other things we have in common. It didn't cause us to drift... my lack of time did though!

I understand if someone isn't a baby person..... But when you have a newborn there really isn't a separation if you and the baby. If all is well with baby, all is well with mommy. If baby is fussy, mommy is upset too. You WERE just telling her how your friend was doing.

@cherrybee, lol, yes definitely! I only share stuff like that with my mom friends and I was really disturbed when my mom friends would share all the gross stories with me! Like no please don't! They'd laugh at me but it's just so traumatizing when you're not "there" yet

like mrbee said, though, I think guys are better at separately "them" from "the baby" versus women, though. Well, maybe some women. I don't think guys who have kids get together and only talk about their kids in the way that women do

hahahahaha. I completely understand P. I used to be one of those people. HAHAHAHHA

I used to hate babies and kids! Hate! I'd stand at the furthest corner when someone is playing with a baby/child. I also didn't understand back then when someone became pregnant / have a kid and when you ask them how she was, their life is basically consumed by the baby and that's who they are now. I got my very good friend upset at me because of that (that when I ask her how she was she started telling me about her baby and I said I am not interested in hearing about her baby!) But then I got my own and I became a different person.

The other day i was thinking babies/kids are like art. You do not appreciate them if you do not have any contact with them. But once you do, you start liking and appreciating all kinds of babies and kids. it is very weird.

It sounds like she could have been a bit more tactful, but I kind of get her point. I have a LO and it's nice when people ask how I am doing vs. just how the baby is doing. I love talking about my LO, but even I want to talk about non-baby stuff sometimes. I can imagine it must be frustrating for a person without kids who doesn't like/want kids.

I don't think she's bitter or twisted, inconsiderate maybe, but she just isn't a baby person.

I think the rant was a little odd; but I also see her point. You know she isn’t interested in kids and intimate details like bf and she asked specifically how mom was doing. Starting with pregnancy it seems like the woman sort of stops existing – everyone asks about the pregnancy and then the LO. Hardly anyone actually stops to specifically ask how MOM is doing; outside of how her feelings might relate to baby. I’m still my own person with lots going on; and honestly, it’s really, really nice (and rare!) when anyone actually thinks to ask how *I’m* doing these days.

She's wasn't very tactful about the whole thing though, but I don't think she sounds bitter or twisted.

I feel like it's her prerogative to feel that way. She did overreact and did take it a little far though.

She does have a point though. I'm a mom and have an infant and I don't really want to talk about poop and breastfeeding either. I see where she's coming from.

Even if she's not a baby person, that's a rude way to respond. Talk about being overly dramatic. She could have said, "I asked about my friend, not about her baby," and left it at that. No need to immature ranting and raving about how you can't stand babies. I have co workers like her- when I brought my baby in to visit, they stood there with their arms crossed and acted like I'd offered them poison when I asked if they wanted to hold him. Rude, rude, rude. There are more mature/polite ways to act.
I would have been offended... I don't care if you don't like babies, but you don't need to be so rude about your distaste. I don't like talking about football, but I don't sit there with my arms crossed, giving people the stink eye while they're talking about it either.
She sounds like a treat... hopefully, she will feel better now that she's unloaded her feelings on the subject (maybe they were pent up?) and will be able to handle the baby subject better going forth. She's going to lose a lot of friends if she just stops talking to her friends once they have babies because pregnancy and babies "freak her out".

Um. Wow!!! I have a couple friends who don't want babies, and aren't really baby people, but they'll hang out with the kids and buy them presents for birthday/Christmas. But this... Wow. haha!

Well, that sounds intense.

@Cherrybee: I have a lot of friends who for one reason or another can/will never have children, so I can understand somewhat where your friend is coming from. It makes me sad that I'll never be able to talk about baby stuff with them. I know they won't be able to fake any interest in it and it's not because they're mean, bitter people. I don't want them to think that I'm leaving them and our friendship behind for a life that may never be an option to them, especially when for so long I thought this wasn't open to me either. Maybe there's a way for you to keep in touch with your friend in a way that focuses on the two of you as friends and not your transition to motherhood?