It is 4:37 and my MIL called me a few minutes ago to invite us over for Easter dinner at her house at 5:30. She says she cooked a feast! Sigh, I guess we are going...I already had my heart set on being a bum at home.
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Ummm..... especially for a holiday shouldn't she invite you ahead of time? What if you already had plans or started making your own dinner?
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Dang isn't that close to bedtime? Sorry!!
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Me too! My MIL & SIL do this often! Most of the time they're plans are later though so P is already getting ready for bed or asleep so I get out of them. hehe.
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@artbee: We don't really celebrate Easter so I'm surprised that she is making a special dinner. I already planned our own meal but I will save it for tomorrow!
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@mrbee: LO sleeps at 7:30 and usually gets a bath at 6:45!
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My in laws are like this.
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My extended IL family is like this. We just started making our own plans without them since they can't get their shiz together.
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Ugh, yeah that would annoy me. You're nicer than me, I'd decline at that point.
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@katiew92081: We live really close so I would feel bad if we didn't go! I'm at her place now and food doesn't look like it will be ready for some time.
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My in laws are like this as well. It's so annoying! I'm not a fan of not knowing what's going on ahead of time.
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I'd get bent out of shape for sure!
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My in-laws do this all.the.time and it drives me INSANE. It's my biggest pet peeve about them!
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@autumnlove: I hate when I go to in laws and then she starts cooking. So annoying. Have it ready if u want us over!
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So f-in annoyed! LO started to get cranky after 7:30 so MIL obviously wanted to feed her cake with lots of frosting. I told her no thank you...it is past her bedtime and we are going home right now and she doesn't need any sweets. MIL made some stupid comment about just wait til you aren't around and I will feed her whatever I want.
DH was quiet on the ride home and I asked him if something was wrong. He said "great, my family is going to think that you are the mom from hell" and "why can't you just let my mom do what she wants from time to time" and "I don't like the tension when you tell my mom no" and other stupid crap. I am so upset right now!
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@autumnlove: First, your MIL shouldn't plan on feeding your kids whatever she wants when you aren't around. Second, your husband ought to be more supportive. Giving your kid a sugar high is probably a bad idea, especially when you are going to be trying to get her ready for bed.
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@autumnlove: I am sorry. Your DH should have had your back:( I would be really upset too.
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@MaisyMay: @mrsmenow: I didn't have a very good reaction to his comments.
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@autumnlove: Did he thank you for even going to the dinner at the last minute, so late in the evening?
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@mrbee: Yes, he did before we headed over!
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@autumnlove: wow! I'd be SUPER annoyed. I am the type that wouldn't allow comments like that at all. I would def say something to MIL and don't get me started about hubby. Sorry you didn't get the support you were looking for
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@autumnlove: I don't think I would have either.
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@autumnlove: I would be super pissed at that too. Your MIL was very disrespectful to say she'd feed LO whatever she wants when you're not around and DH's comments would have made me mad. Sorry, I don't have advice because I don't react particularly well in situations like that but sorry you had such a crappy end to Easter!
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Sure, she feels like she can feed your LO whatever and whenever she wants, she doesn't have to deal with the meltdown afterwards. If my husband defended that, he would be locked out of our room and sleeping in the nursery for the night. I'm sorry you had a sucky Easter!
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Ugh I'm so angry for you! Nobody gets to do whatever they want with your kid!
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@travelgirl1: @lemondrop: @blackbird: Thanks! I went to bed mad..something I never do!
I'm just so worried about my upcoming C-section because MIL will be watching LO. We have told her several tines that we don't hit LO when she throws food or feed her junk close to bedtime and she just rolls her eyes.
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Ugh! That's so annoying! I'm sorry u have to deal w that stress!
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@autumnlove: That's silly, you should be able to tell people, especially family, that you don't want your LO to do something. If I let my mom feed LO whatever she wanted it would be cookies all the time, "it makes her happy!" she says. Just last week my parents took LO out to dinner so DH and I could go out, on our way home I saw them stopping for ice cream..... it was 5 minutes until bed time. So I stopped in (I wanted some ice cream too
and my mom's friend's grandson that they were with tattle taled right away that LO had already had a cookie. I get that I can't always control what goes on when I'm not around, and since it's not too often I'm ok with it. My mom isn't fooling anyone though, you can tell when LO is on a sugar high after she gets home. But when we are with my parents, or DH's, they always ask us first when feeding her. "Can she have a cookie? Can she have ice cream?" And DH and I both have no issues saying no, it's almost nap or bed time, and that's that.
I feel like when your MIL is watching your LO she will quickly learn the consequences of feeding her cake right before bed..... and then hopefully understand where you're coming from.
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My MIL does this all the time and my DH just declines the offer and tells her we need much more notice if she expects us to show up. Whew!
and my mom's friend's grandson that they were with tattle taled right away that LO had already had a cookie. Reply
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