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I hate the "the world owes me something" mentality!

  1. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    I think everyone is going to have a different POV on this topic just because we all come from different backgrounds. I am definitely no expert and I think those that have to analyze this and make decisions about it have a very hard job.

    Even though I'm a republican and think I'm taxed waaay too high, I think it's ludicrous how low our minimum wage is. You should be able to work 1 minimum wage job and support a family. Not lavishly, but feed and clothe them without having to take on debt or get further assistance. I worked my butt off and went to college and now make a good living, but what if I were laid off and forced to take a min wage job? It could happen to me just like not being able to go to college in the first place could happen to someone else. I see a trend in this country of big companies becoming monopolies and not paying their fair share in taxes. All the money goes ot the people at the top, while the everyday workers starve. That doesn't apply to every company, but it's definitely becoming a trend and it's troubling.

    But I am angry about the amount I pay in taxes. I don't think I'm allowed to keep a living wage considering where i live and how expensive it is. So stories I hear about birth rates for welfare moms going down in areas where the local govt decided to not give any additional $ for additional babies make me mad. Because clearly that shows once the $ burden is on them, they finally decide to change their lifestyle. But then again I know that's just one side of it. I joke that i want a receipt showing where the 40% of my paycheck goes lol!

  2. jedeve

    pomegranate / 3643 posts

    @Modern Daisy: here it is! http://www.whitehouse.gov/2011-taxreceipt

  3. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    @jedeve: That is awesome, thanks!! I will look at it more later..

  4. JoJoGirl

    cantaloupe / 6206 posts

    @mediagirl: oh sorry! not you! I meant the OP

  5. Boheme

    papaya / 10473 posts

    Ehhh. I can't say political party has anything to do with anything, because I was raised by Democrat parents who were strict and raised me to work my ass off. By contrast, I have cousins whose parents are extremely wealthy (and Republican) and they feel like they are entitled to everything their parents earned. I feel like our culture as a whole has several generations that have an entitlement complex, regardless of political party.

    Disclaimer: I actually don't subscribe to the views of any political party

  6. Bao

    GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts

    @andrea86: My dad never went to college but makes way more than some people who did go to college. I don't think it is fair to say since he didn't go to college he should make less than someone who did. My parents struggles beyond belief when my brother and sister were little (I am the youngest), but they are not in a good place and have nice things, even though my dad does not have a college degree. He is good at and takes pride in what he does, regardless of a degree or not. College wasn't an option for my dad. I am so glad he is able to provide (and some) now, and would never want him to struggle just because he didn't go to college.

  7. LuLu Mom

    GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts

    @plantains: 100% agree, my grandpa owned his first home with children on a minimum wage salary, that would never happen today. Most can't afford rent and food in the same month.

  8. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    I'm not saying that you HAVE to go to college, but if you don't you should be prepared to start at a low paying job. If the minimum wage is raised what do you suggest we do when small business owners can not affford to hire help and go out of business?
    @BAO I'm guessing your Dad did not start out making what he does now.

  9. Mrs. Jacks

    blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts

    @andrea86: but how is that fair if you CANNOT go to college? There are so many structural barriers that make college impossible for low income folks, including having poor credit that precludes student loans as an option. Everyone should get a fair shake.

  10. Arden

    honeydew / 7589 posts

    I believe that a parent should be able to support their family on a minimum wage salary. I'm not talking about buying new cars, I'm talking about covering rent and food. That's nearly impossible on the current wage. History and the rest of the world shows us that raising minimum wage does not hurt the economy, it improves it.

    It's also becoming increasingly clear to me that many Americans (and many bees) don't understand the reality of the struggle low-income Americans face. It's not as simple as "Go to college". That's completely off the table for many - it is obscenely expensive and if you are a young person with no credit, you don't have options. It's not like it used to be. "Work hard and you can make yourself successful" is no longer true - many Americans work their butts off for decades and still struggle to put food on the table.

    The entire system is flawed, yes. Many people feel entitled, yes. But that doesn't mean that every American can just "make it" on their own. We need to make it possible for every person to have a chance if they are willing to work at it.

  11. MsLipGloss

    GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts

    @Andrea86: Even college grads should expect to start out at a "low paying job." That's part of the problem with the *entitlement* mentality.

    Entitlement is a problem that has plagued generations - it is certainly not a recent phenomenon.

  12. Bao

    GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts

    @andrea86: No he did not, but he built his way up by working hard, despite going to college or not.

  13. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    @MsLipGloss: Well said.

    The problem with entitlement is that anyone and everyone feels it. It's not only those who didn't go to college or those who did...conservatives or liberals...it comes in all shapes and sizes. I don't think it's fair to say that only liberals feel entitled...there are plenty of conservatives I know who feel the same way and it annoys me all the same.

  14. Bookish

    GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts

    @MsLipGloss: Very well put. I am a (somewhat recent) college graduate working full time while also getting my Master's and I have a very low-paying job that I am extremely grateful for. My DH did not go to college, and he makes double what I make because he worked his a** off climbing his career ladder.

  15. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    @Mslipgloss: I agree that college graduates should also start off at *lower* paying jobs, but if they too should expect minimum wage, why go to college? Should we be paying doctors, lawyers, and others who have worked their way through years of college the same starting salary as those who chose to drop out of high school?

    I dont know how you can calculate how much money it will cost to support a family? Are you referring to a family of 2, 4, 6, what if the family has 12 kids? Should they make more than those with no kids because everyone should be able to support their family.

  16. Charm54

    cantaloupe / 6885 posts

    @Mrs. Jacks: Well put. . As a teacher, I see that there are many barriers for children and it's not as simple as just wanting to go to college. These are smart, bright, clever kids who get stuck in a cycle for a number of reasons.

    It makes me realize how fortunate I was to grow up middle-class in a family that valued education. Not every child has that same opportunity.

  17. MsLipGloss

    GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts

    @Andrea86: I didn't say that college grads should expect to earn minimum wage (although realistically, based on the degree, some should not expect to do much better right out of college). A college degree does not guarantee (or *entitle*) you the right to make more money . . . it simply doesn't automatically eliminate an opportunity to make more money when the access to same is controlled by an education requirement.

    "Low paying" is all relative and about perspective. You can't compare "low paying" for a HS graduate to "low paying" for a person holding a doctoral degree (which is, btw, only about 2% of the U.S. population . . . I think about 25ish% of the pop holds a bachelor's degree) . . . or "low paying" for rural Wyoming versus "low paying" for a large metropolitan area.

    FWIW, I am an attorney.

  18. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    @Mslipgloss: If "a college degree does not *earn* (or *entitle*) you the right to make more money" then why can't we "compare "low paying" for a HS graduate to "low paying" for a person holding a doctoral degree".

    That is my point - if you want a higher paying job you are either going to have to start at the bottom of the pay scale and work your way up to a higher paying job or go to college. Going to college isn't going to guarantee a large amount of money, but it is going to open many more opportunities, which more than likely will start you off much higher than minimum wage.

  19. MsLipGloss

    GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts

    @Andrea86: I think you are I are defining terms differently. For me, low paying is not limited to minimum wage. Rather, low paying (to me) is income that is disproportionate to the level of education--or experience--for a position. That is why you can't compare "low paying HS" to "low paying doctoral." They just aren't comparable.

    And, (as I stated in my previous post), I agree that a college degree may provide access to jobs that have higher starting salaries, although not necessarily "much higher." (An example would be a corporate environment where a college grad and a HS grad start out in the same entry-level position, but the college grad likely has more opportunities for advancement due to his/her education . . . their starting salaries are likely similar, with a small advantage being given to the college graduate).

    ETA: Last question removed, as I realized that you are not the OP!

  20. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    @andrea86: "That is my point - if you want a higher paying job you are either going to have to start at the bottom of the pay scale and work your way up to a higher paying job or go to college."

    And see, this to me is a sense of entitlement. You believe that because you went to college, you're entitled to a higher paying job right off the bat...when that might not always be the case.

  21. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    @2Peasinapod: I actually am still going to college, so I do not believe that I am entitled to anything of the sort. However, yes I do think that if somebody obtains a college degree they should be given an "advantage" for that. I also said that someone could work their way up so I do believe that work experience can be "substituted" for that college degree. What I am saying is people should not be able to finish high school (or drop out) and suddenly be making close to $20 an hour. Why shouldn't someone that spent years in college and sacrificed their time and money on their education be able start out higher than those who choose not to go to college? Those sacrifices should be for nothing? They should still start at the same pay level as those starting fresh from high school with no work experience or training? If thats the case, then why even try to get a higher education, training, work experience, or anything that generally would give you an advantage and opportunity for higher paying jobs? What it sounds like you are saying is that we are all *entitled* to the same thing, regardless of the work, effort, or sacrifice that we put in.

  22. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5257 posts

    Yeah, I went to college and grad school, and my first job in my field was still minimum wage -- $7.25 an hour in my state. I'm sure there are lots of people who didn't go to college that made more in their first job but I don't resent that. I chose to go into a field that I'm passionate about, knowing that I would never be rich (I'm a journalist). But I'm lucky that I had a boyfriend and now husband who made a lot more so I didn't struggle. I can't imagine trying to survive on my own making that much, let alone with kids. I don't think anyone should have to struggle if they work long, hard hours -- regardless of whether they have a college degree or not.

  23. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    @Mslipgloss: Yes, I was using the term *low paying* in an overall sense.

  24. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    @andrea86: Actually, I'm saying that no one is entitled to anything. I'm not any more entitled to a job b/c I went to college and got a degree. If you have two people working a minimum wage job, one went to high school, but works their butt off at that job, and the other has a college degree but is lazier than anything, the person who is working their butt off should be the one getting paid more. Just saying.

  25. sunny

    coconut / 8430 posts

    @andrea86: I would think that if the minimum wage was $20, we'd see an across the board wage inflation.

    I think the salient point is more about bringing up the minimum wage so that it is a living wage, and that we see a smaller gap between the lowest wage earners and the highest ones.

    The USA has one of the highest pay gaps in the world between CEO and worker pay. Part of that is the stratospheric CEO pay, but part of it is also on the low end--that minimum wage is abysmal.

  26. Arden

    honeydew / 7589 posts

    @andrea86: Nobody is talking about raising minimum wage to $20 an hour - they're talking about raising it just enough so that someone who is working full time will not be living well below the poverty level as it is now.
    $9 an hour is not going to compare to what those with graduate degrees are making - it's just going to give hard-working people who couldn't go to college for one reason or another enough money to get by.

    Obviously those who spent years in college should be compensated for their time and effort with higher wages, but that doesn't mean that those who didn't attend college should be living in poverty despite working full time. The pay gap will always be there, but it doesn't need to be as huge as it is.

  27. MsLipGloss

    GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts

    @Andrea86: What I am about to say should be taken with a grain of salt, but nonetheless . . .

    You seem to be operating under the guise that the world is a fair place. It is not. Everything in life is a roll of the dice . . . Most people do what they can to slant the odds in their favor (, i.e., whether it be obtaining a post-HS education or trying to get the best paying job possible for their skill set, etc.), but nothing is guaranteed. You are not guaranteed to make *a lot of money* (which again, is based on your definition of *a lot*) simply because you are educated, work hard, etc. At best, all you can do is increase your access to/opportunities for better paying, more stable jobs and increase the likelihood that you will, in fact, be successful and able to be financially stable.

  28. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5257 posts

    @MsLipGloss: "Everything in life is a roll of the dice" -- AMEN to that!

  29. MsLipGloss

    GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts

    @ModernDaisy: I, too, would like a *receipt* to show where my tax dollars are going!

  30. sunny

    coconut / 8430 posts

    @Arden: I was with you until here: "Obviously those who spent years in college should be compensated for their time and effort with higher wages".

    People ought to be compensated based on how much their skills are valued by society and the supply and demand for those skills. I don't think education or hard work automatically mean that you should make a high wage.

    Case in point: my mom used to be one of the last in her field who was trained in a particular skill: mainframe programming. When the Y2K frenzy hit, she was a hot commodity and could command a ton of money since companies were launching competing offers for her. In the decade+ since Y2K, the market for her skill slowed down and she hasn't worked much since. It's all supply and demand.

  31. MrsH

    honeydew / 7667 posts

    I'd just like to clarify that regardless of wealth, status, political leanings, education, etc. (I'm lumping in everyone here because entitlement knows no bounds) I dislike entitled people who feel they are owed.

  32. jedeve

    pomegranate / 3643 posts

    But what if you just aren't smart enough for college? Shouldn't you still be able to earn a living wage? Shouldn't their kids be able to afford necessities? Why should kids be punished because society assumes the parents are lazy?

  33. Ree723

    grapefruit / 4819 posts

    @jedeve: Exactly. Some people are not book learners but are incredibly talented in other areas, or even more important than that, have a good work ethic and put their all into their job, even if it doesn't require years of education in order to do that job. Why should those people be paid a pittance compared to someone who has letters after their name? Hard work is hard work and it should be compensated as such, whether it's filing someone's taxes, removing children from an unsafe home, or shoveling gravel in the hot sun.

    I will be honest, it kind of disheartens me to see some of the elitism on this thread. Thinking that those who have higher degrees are better than those who do not just makes me sad....and this is coming from someone who highly values education and has multiple degrees to show for it.

  34. lawbee11

    GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts

    @Ree723: I completely agree with your previous post and this one. I have my BA and JD and I actually feel bad some days that I sit behind a desk all day and make so much more than someone that does manual labor all day. Sure, I worked hard, but so do they.

  35. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    I think the sense of entitlement goes hand in hand with the mentality of keeping up with the Jones's. I agree that political affiliation is a non issue because there are abusers on both sides of the political spectrum.

    I get beyond frustrated with some of the things I see on FB. I grew up in a working class town and many of my HS classmates did not attend college or get associates degrees instead opting for minimum wage jobs. Which is fine, and I personally think if that is the path you have chosen or are on (for one reason or another) you should live accordingly. Just because you want the new iPhone doesn't mean you should go get it. As a recent example, a girl I went to HS with recently was complaining on FB about her inability to get her children a game console for Christmas that they had been asking for for months, she posted this from her iPhone 5. Seriously....live within your means people.

    Sorry...probably a bit off topic...but yes the "entitlement" coupled with the need to live outside ones means really stresses me out these days.

  36. lomom

    nectarine / 2127 posts

    What determines the amount of money you make? For me, it's supply and demand. My skill set is in high demand and there's a low supply. The government doesn't dictate what my employer pays me, why should the government get involved and dictate what any company pays any of their employees? Why not allow market forces to determine wages?

    In response to the idea that not everyone can go to college... This is very true, but there are many highly respectable careers that demand high salaries, plumbers come to mind, as well as mechanics. What barriers exist to learning a trade like that? In my area, there are vocational schools that you can attend in lieu of your junior and senior year of high school to prepare for a career as a plumber, mechanic, nursing assistant, etc., all professions that pay well above minimum wage starting out. It doesn't cost a thing. Even if your parents and home life were severely dysfunctional, at some point, you have to pull yourself up out of that environment and pursue any and all opportunities available, or accept that you will continue the cycle.

    Both of my parents grew up in abusive and low income families where education was not valued (and was discouraged, both of my parents were told they should drop out of high school and get jobs) but they both hold Masters' degrees and have been very successful. Both earned their degrees while serving in the military. That is NOT an easy life, but it is an opportunity available to nearly everyone. Given these two as examples growing up, I really struggle with the idea of handouts and the idea that people are helpless and unable to change their situations. I would never say that everyone has the same opportunities, but there are opportunities to lead a successful life. So I have quite a difficult time feeling any sympathy toward people who do not make any effort to better themselves. I do, however, have a huge amount of respect for people who do try to better themselves and their lives. I really believe that hard work begets success. Even if you begin at McDonald's making minimum wage, if you work hard, do you really think you'll continue to just make minimum wage forever? Heck no, companies like McDonald's snatch up dedicated employees and train them to be store managers (which actually can pay pretty well).

    And to the idea that people "deserve" a living wage that they can raise a family on... Why did they have a family before they were able to support a family?

  37. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @septemberlove: agreed 100% on everything you said. I work for a fortune 100 company and our current CEO is a lifer who grew up in a bad part of town, worked his butt off to get scholarships for school and ultimately grad school and has earned his way to the top of the corporate ladder through hard work and drive. Like you I feel for those who really want and try to better themselves, I would feel a million times better about my tax dollars going to those individuals as opposed to the individuals who give government assistance programs a bad name,

  38. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5257 posts

    The biggest thing I've learned from this thread is a little bit of empathy could go a long way in this country. Just because you know someone who was able to pull his or herself out of a bad childhood/economic situation doesn't mean everyone can without help.

  39. andrea86

    cherry / 134 posts

    @Septemberlove: My thoughts exactly!!

    It seems like everyone is picking out parts of my posts to scrutinize with out reading them entirely. I have expressed several times that hard work and work experience can be used as a "substitute" (for lack of a better word) of a higher education. However, people with no training and no higher education can not expect to make a lot of money. There are opportunities for EVERYONE if they are willing to make the sacrifices required.

  40. plantains

    grapefruit / 4671 posts

    @MrsSCB: exactly, the lack of compassion for fellow humans is staggering.

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