My baby is just shy of four months and she has been particularly UNHAPPYfor at least two weeks. She is unhappy anywhere she is put down or even when held. Her awake time is around an hour and a half. Ten minutes is nursing, ten minutes is semi happy, and an hour plus is nonstop whining unhappy. Even when I try to hold her or directly interact and play with her at this time is is non stop whiNing. occasionally by the end of the day it is even all out hysteria. Naps have gone from 40 minute cat naps to 20 minute micro naps so perhaps this is her version of the 4 month sleep regression and I'm sure she's over tired by the end of the day but not sure how to change this. This is starting to take a toll on my 2.5 year old who has to deal with crying and whining baby all day and a mommy who is tired. I have family that comes over to help at least once a week but the help is with my toddler and I'm left to handle the baby because even family doesn't really know what to do with her. Not sure what I'm even looking for in this post except a place to vent or hear others stories.... Thanks for listening...
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That sounds really tough. Could your family tough it out with the baby so you and LO1 could have a small fun not whine filled outing? I've found just a little quality time with my older one helps her reset when she's annoyed by the baby.
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I'm sorry- that sound exhausting. My LO was a lot like that at that age- but I only have one baby to deal with. I tried everything to figure out what was wrong and finally, she just grew out of it. It's so hard and I can't quite imagine doing it with a toddler.
I agree with seeing if a family member could take the baby for an hour or two so you can have some happy quality time with your older LO.
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@autumn865: have you talked to your doctor about it? Maybe check her ears, her poops, check for early teething, a food intolerance, etc?
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Thank you for the responses to my vent. I know everything with a baby is a phase that will pass but sometimes a mom needs to vent somewhere! We are going to the pedi next week so I will run all this by her then.
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sending you hugs. it is so frustrating when they're relentlessly unhappy and wen're not sure why and/or it's just a phase that we have to bear. hope she feels better soon.
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is she still hungry? I don't breastfeed, so I don't know much about timing, but 10 minutes seems like a really short time to be nursing. She's probably going through a growth period right now and might need more to fill her tummy. Have you tried lengthening the nursing sessions or offering again after the "semi-happy" time ends?
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Sending big hugs! I wrote this exact post at around the same time.....! My baby was miserable for the first year of her life - I think she just hated being a baby! She's super happy these days. She will come through it, I promise.
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@autumn865: sorry to hear your dealing with this, it's so stressful to have a fussy baby! Sounds like it hasn't been going on too long, but if everything checks out fine with the pediatrician then check out this website for more info on why some babies are more fussy:
http://purplecrying.info/sub-pages/crying/why-does-my-baby-cry-so-much.phpI found it helpful to read through this website when my baby was fussy (most of the time) at 3-4 monhs
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Sounds terrible! I'm so sorry you are going through this. I saw you have an appointment coming up because I was going to suggest running this by your ped.
Sending you lots of hugs! DD was like this so I totally feel your pain. She was somewhat happy when I put her in her k'tan and went for a walk outside.
I'm wondering if she has a tummy ache. DD had terrible pain when she would nurse, try doing some colic massage you can youtube it.
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Every baby nurses differently but I was also wondering if she might be hungry after nursing only 10 minutes. But I had a really slow nurser who spent more than 45 min on the boob!
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