So...I was totally birth plan shamed last night in my child birth class. The class is only us and one other couple so the instructor gets very interactive with us.

Last night, she goes "ok I just want to spend a few moments and go over birth plans and any questions about them you guys may have"...she looks at the other mom to be and says "tell me about your plan if you are comfortable". The girl launches into a 15 minute dialogue of all the must haves and demands she would be making - while I have different opinions I nod and smile along and respect her decision to have whatever she wants as a birth plan. The instructor is clearly engaged and going through the items with her. Most of the items I am familiar with - some were outside my level of knowledge so I was actively listening.

After this dialogue is over she looks at me and says...ok how about yours, lets walk through yours in detail. I kinda embarrassingly smile and say "well I guess mine is pretty boring - our birth plan is for a healthy baby...ideally I'd like to go medication free for as long as possible but since this is my first birth I dont know what to expect. I plan to breast feed - so as soon as feasible I'd like skin to skin to accommodate that with support from the nurses". She looks at me and says "well thats ok if you haven't given it much thought...but make sure you look into some of the things "so & so" mentioned and start drafting something more detailed and concrete so that you can be sure your doctors know what exactly you need for a successful delivery"...

Starting to feel a little judged, I responded back with "as long as I survive and have a healthy baby I will consider my delivery quite a success". Again, trying to be polite and let her know that I just have a much simpler approach - seriously lady to each her own...back off.

Her response back was "well thats certainly the right mindset but just make sure to do some reading and have prepared some more specifics for your doctor and nurses to follow as they help you through birth. Its important you are aware of some of these new thoughts and ideas "so & so" mentioned because otherwise you may find yourself wishing you had done things differently"

Uh...excuse? I am all for everyone having their own opinions and beliefs but just because mine happens to be going with the flow and trusting my doctor doesn't mean I am going to regret decisions or that she can imply by my not demanding x, y or z I or LO is going to be long term affected by it. WTF.

DH could tell I was fuming so he turned the conversation onto a different topic to save me from going crazy pregnant lady batshit on her. The crazy thing is you would think teaching these classes she would know better than to anger a 8+ month pregnant woman!!!

So not cool!