So, I want to TTC again next summer, which would put C and our next baby about 2 years apart. How far apart are your kids? Pros and cons? If you had to do it over, what would you do?
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21 months here. I'd say 2 years is probably perfect, since Lala wasn't quite developmentally ready at 21 months... BUT I do think with closer age gaps, they adjust more quickly, so by the time Lala turned two, she was completely adjusted to having her sister!
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Hubby and I want our kids to be 2-3 years apart.
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@zippylef: that is my ideal age gap for children.
I think 2 under 2 will be hard initially but it'll pay off when they're teenagers/adults.
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I want them 18-20 months apart!
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@regberadaisy: That's what I'm thinking. I want to get this baby stage over with. We were originally thinking 4-5 years but I don't want to get one kid out of diapers only to have to start all over again.
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About 3 years. My sister and I are 3 years apart and I think we're a good age difference.
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DH wants one year (!)..I'd prefer 18-24 mos. We'll see where we are after number one arrives in January.
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I want my kids to be 15-18 months apart, ideally. I know it will be hard initially, but I really want my children to be close in age and be good friends. My brother and I are 16 months apart and we're SUPER close. I want that for my kids.
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@oliviaoblivia: !!!!!!! one year? If hubs suggested one year to me, I would probably faint.
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@Rubies: I've tried to explain the biology of it but he thinks we can do it. He's crazy.
How was BR's #1 bday party?
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My siblings and I have age gaps across the board (1.5 years, 4 yrs, 3 yrs, and 2 yrs between each). I don't really think the gap made too much of a difference in how close we are-- we are all close, but my older sister and I (4 yrs, 5 in school b/c of birthdays) are by far the closest friends. So, i think as far as them being friends, it can work out good or bad with any gap, but in terms of your own sanity, that's where it comes into place!
We would like our kids to be 2-3 years apart-- seems the most convenient, one is just starting to get out of diapers, you don't really need a full double stroller, just the ride along board or rumble seat. We'll see how it goes though! -
I'd say 2.5 years! My LOs will be 21 months apart..!
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@Mrs. Jacks: Good to know! So curious to see how my LO takes to her little bro/sis!
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@oliviaoblivia: If you're breastfeeding, you may not even be able to get pregnant 3 months after giving birth! And I know that Canada's maternity leave is different than the US, but would you be able to take another set of maternity leave so soon after having your first? I know for me, I would need to put a full YEAR between when I RETURN from maternity leave before I go on maternity leave again, so for me, I HAVE to wait at least six months before getting pregnant again in order to have a full maternity leave again.
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@oliviaoblivia: Heh heh, if he's having the kids then he can decide to have them that close together!
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I dont want mine any closer than 4 years apart if I even have another one. Right now I have zero desire for a second (or to be pregnant again) and Liv just turned one year old. The in and out of diapers thing doesnt bother me in the least. I get why people have them so close together, but I dont think its for me.
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We have always said around two years. Course that might all change after we have the first baby.
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@Adira: I know this, but DH thinks he super sperm will somehow induce my ovaries into production. Men.
Our maternity leave is based on a certain number of hours worked so in order to be eligible again I'll have to go back to work for a few months. Doesn't stop DH from daydreaming. haha.
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@oliviaoblivia: hahahaha, I love that your husband things his super sperm will get the job done, regardless!!! I suspect once you have your hands full with one baby, he'll rethink his stance on when to have another!
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@Adira: I hope so!
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charlie and olive are 22 months apart, though if olive were born on time, they would have been 23 months apart.
i think no matter the gap, you make it work and there are pros and cons. it's a good age gap for us... i like that they're close but not too close, and are 2 years apart.
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I always thought 4 years, but now I'm leaning closer to 2 1/2-3 years.
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2 years!
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@Alivoo01: This is what we are thinking. I think by her second birthday we will start trying (maybe a bit earlier if our financial situation changes sooner).
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so many moms I know always recommended the 3 year age gap as being perfect.
in family planning, I just always waited til we as a couple and we as a family of 3 were ready for another one. So a few months after #1 was 2.5 yo, that just happened to be the right time to TTC again. My LOs are 3 years, 5 months apart... I love it.
I'd say right around 3 years works well for a lot of families!
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I think that there is no ideal age gap. It is whatever works for your family and situation.
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@oliviaoblivia: oh my gosh, I could never. That would mean I'd have to be pregnant right now.. and I'm still trying to lose the baby weight! GAH no.
@zippylef: It really depends on the person, in general 2 years is a really good age difference.
For me personally - I want my son to be out of diapers before having another one. And I'm fine with have the baby stage multiple times! It's my favorite stage, so I'd like to savor it with each child. I'm thinking 3 years
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My lo's are 3 1/2 years apart and for me it is perfect! I didn't want 2 in diapers and my older daughter is old enough to help out a little bit. It also helps that she understands a lot and is a little more independant therefore isn't jealous that I spend more time taking care of baby. She just loves being a big sister!
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We are TTC for our first, and we are on the fence about having more than one kid. If we do decide to go for a sibling, it will be no less than 4 or 5 years from the first's birth. I want to focus on one kid for as long as possible, get through day care & my grad school, etc. I think it's great when siblings are close, but it just isn't what we are planning on
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Like Mrs. Jacks, mine are 21 months apart. I think it was just about perfect, but we'll shoot for closer to 24 months when we try for #3.
Honestly, 2 under 2 has been much easier than I thought it would be. I'd say the first 8-10 weeks were tough, but now that we have a good routine going, it's hardly more difficult than just having one.
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@Honeybee: I guess I was surprised taht after an initial adjustment phase that things have gone so smoothly for us. Initially it was a little tougher than expected and now I think it's easier!
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@Mrs. Jacks: Ditto.
I've always heard the first few YEARS of having 2 under 2 is difficult, but once we passed the adjustment period, it's been smooth sailing.
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I want my first baby to be potty trained and old enough to understand basic things before the 2nd baby is born so I would like an age gap of 3 years or more. I dont know how people manage with more than one baby at a time, because I am exhausted with just one!
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DS will be a month shy of 4 when LO is born. He is at a perfect age to understand what is happening and really understand a baby is in my tummy and is going to come out. I do think he may have a hard time adjusting once LO is actually here. If we decide to have another child (DS is from a previous relationship) I think we will plan to have them 2 years apart instead of 4.
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I just don't want two kids in diapers!
I am one of five kids and we are all 24 to 26 months apart from each other, and my mom never had two in diapers. That is my goal!
However, I wouldn't be too upset if I just got pregnant now and got it over with.
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My LOs will be 27 months apart and I think I like that age gap. My son is still in diapers but starting to get potty trained. Hoping he wont' be diapers too much longer! They will be 2 years apart in school which is nice.
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