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@Mrs. Pinata: Hahahaha.
DH also asked once if he will have to cut the Fallopian Cord after our baby is born. I looked at him horrified before I realized he meant Umbilical Cord.
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@SweetiePie: Ha! Yes! I was like, "did you NOT pay attention in your HS or college biology classes? Other than the cervix, it's just from uterus to vagina. So, NO. As a C-Section baby there was absolutely no birth canal for him.
(Sorry for the bold language, but it's just anatomy, right?)
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@Mrs. Polish: I know! My mom and sisters were telling me how nuts it is up there. We only missed the front by a few hundred miles which I'm grateful for.
@SweetiePie: I don't blame you for not waiting, I wouldn't be able to either! I can't wait to see what the results are! Fingers crossed for you.
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@Mrs. Pinata: @SweetiePie: LOL!!
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@mrswin: I'm not too worried about the pain. More worried about the results.
@Shutterbug: I do hope that there is a small block and that is our problem and that the HSG will clear it out.
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@Happygal: Blood work and SA were normal. This is our first "big" test. Hope the TWW goes by easy peasy for you. You do sound relaxed.
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@MrsTal: I've never had an HSG so no advice, but hoping it clears you out and you get your BFP
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@Mrs. Pinata: Bahahahha. Oh, men. We should start a book of silly things they say
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@Mrs. Polish: That's awesome about your cycles!! Hopefully it's a new change in things! I know there are other possibilities but I'm being extra-optimistic
@MrsTal: I'm in the same boat as you... I'm mad/frustrated/whatever that we're still TTC but having a hard time facing the fact that there is a "next step" appointment next month.
@Happygal: What's the workbook about?
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As for me, I'm sitting here all progesteroned up at 10DPO. I'm set to test this weekend before stopping the progesterone to see either good news or let AF arrive a couple days later. I have one more natural cycle after this before we go back to my doctor.
I'm kinda meh lately though. I don't feel optimistic or anything about this cycle. I just feel neutral. I don't really like the POAS threads as much. I'm one of the oldest/longest members on there and don't know the participants the same. It gets hard reading the "but it's been 2 cycles and I'm not pregnant and I'm so impatient!" posts and comments. I want to be like ummm, hi, way beyond 2 cycles over here, STFU? Sorry if that's rude =/
Otherwise, on a better note?... DH really stressed (pun intended?) that I try not to stress as much this year. I stress a lot from work, whether I realize it or not, and he said this can't be good for TTC or a health environment once I'm pregnant. So I'm trying to relax more! I might give acupuncture a try one of these days too, we'll see.
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@LindsayInNY: I totally get the POAS thread fatigue. I gave those up a long time ago. Now the sad thing is I'm one starting to feel like one of the oldest/longest members of the IF threads, haha. I know you don't like the labels, but there's something to be said about sharing with people who get it (and don't constantly think they're pregnant LOL)
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@Shutterbug: I agree. Labels or not, it is what it is! And it's easier in the company of people who understand. Although, to be honest, it does annoy me when people who can't relate chime in on certain threads/posts... I want to be like "you don't belong here, you got pregnant right away, how could you possibly understand??". Nice of me, I know...
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wow there have been some amazing discussions this week already
in Boston I would not say we really got the polar vortex - getting some tail end cold weather but nothing like the midwest.
no updates here yet, but my CD11 ultrasound is Saturday (what better way to start your weekend than getting up early for a wanding?). hoping to see enough progress to trigger and have my IUI before the next update! would be really nice to only have to go in once to monitor but that's likely wishful thinking.
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@bhbee: hey, I don't think I realized you were in MA too! I'm gonna wall you
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@LindsayInNY: Yeah, the POAS threads are hard for me. If I'm in a TWW, I might pop in there but since it doesn't happen often and I don't know people, I just pass over the thread. I know there are non-IF users who are rooting for me, so I think if I'm in the mood, I'll venture into the thread and post. But, yeah, it hard seeing users get pregnant within 3 months of trying.
@Shutterbug: Yeah, I feel like I've been posting on the IF threads for so long. I think the fact that I started the 6 month + thread a long time ago and have since stopped posting on that, that it gives me another reminder how long I've been trying.
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@bluestriped bee: at least we have each other
haha. Seriously though, I hope we both get to move on to the pregnancy after infertility support thread soon!
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@Shutterbug: Yup!
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I love this group and am really loving this thread--it's got me laughing after a long day.
@LindsayInNY: in a nut shell, the workbook helps you to calm down. It discusses and validates the difficulties of infertility (there's one chapter titled "emotional roller coaster") and works you through thinking out your emotions and learning how to handle them. The tone is appealing to me--not sappy or kumbayaish, but still gentle and informative. Let us know how the test goes this weekend! I remember feeling "meh" and being bummed out.
I stopped the POAS boards awhile ago. When someone would say, "Sorry it didn't work--bummer!" it felt like being brushed off. It's just the nature of a fast moving thread, but when you're feeling so sad, it's not a good feeling. Nor could I handle questions about CM, preseed, sperm meets egg, etc.! And when someone gets pregnant after their first time trying...
@bluestriped bee: @Shutterbug: I so appreciate how you both have been supportive and welcoming. It's a strange thing--of course I want you both to get to leave soon, but I"ll miss you when you do! I was thinking about this mix of feelings the other day when I thought about how I miss seeing Mrs. Someone around these parts.
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@Happygal: Yeah, it is the nature of the thread.
One BFP and you see 20 comments of congrats. If there is a BFN, you'll see a couple comments about how sorry they are and then just move on. I appreciate the thoughts but there's definitely more emphasis on
If I post on that thread, I'll comment then usually exit the thread and don't look back. It sucks but it's so hard seeing the BFPs.
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@bluestriped bee: @Shutterbug: I feel the same way! I recently looked back at the original IF thread. So many users that posted there are pregnant or have babies now. I thought I was the only one who wasn't and threw myself a big pity party!
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@bhbee: a "wanding" is a wonderful way to put it! I have had to go in for my last three cycles on a Saturday. I know the weekend entrance code by heart. Please keep us updated! Would you possibly be triggering this weekend?
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Since we're telling husband stories, here's a non-infertility one: I'm about to head over to a dinner with friends. The girl hosting eats like a bird, and I always feel self-conscious about taking more food than her and wanting more! So he has headed out to grab a couple of slices of pizza so I can have "a little padding," as he put it, before heading over for dinner. I love that man.
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@Happygal: possible but I'm betting I have to go back Monday before triggering.
also, your husband is awesome!
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Hi, everyone!
I have been around HelloBee kind of lightly for the past six months or so, posting here and there. I've never posted on this thread before though! I guess that makes me new here.
Briefly... My husband and I have been trying for about a year and a half, at this point. We did successfully get pregnant last summer via IUI, but we found out at 9.5 weeks that I'd had a missed miscarriage. I am now in the middle of my 5th cycle back TTC after the miscarriage.
I have PCOS and a super wonkily positioned left ovary, which my RE says has been the overall problem. We've gone through four IUIs total. The first was successful (mc,) but two afterwards were BFN, and I just had my fourth IUI a couple days ago. If this one fails, we are off to IVF land. That's my IF background - in normal life, I'm a writer and photographer, and love running/racing. Excited to get to know you all!
For the polar vortex, it was pretty hairy in Chicago for a couple days - hopefully, thing'll clear up soon! At least now, I can walk to my car without fear of frostbite...
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@Happygal: yeah, the dreaded wait !! I am currently on 100mg clomid. I just feel cramps and blah! I tested yesterday and obviously it was neg. duh!!
I just had to!
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@FaithFertility: thx so much
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@Happygal: Verdict was I am good to go and start clomid tonight!!!
Florida weather today I don't think it ever stopped raining today.....flooded streets and all....worse then some of our hurricanes......crazy!!!!
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@Happygal: @bluestriped bee: I just need the self-control to stop visiting and participating in the POAS threads at this point... I do it to myself so I can't complain really.
@Happygal: Awww, love DH for that! I'd probably shove my face full of food in front of her anyways, LOL!
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@LindsayInNY: I have hidden almost all of the pregnancy and ttc boards....I check in once in a while but in general I stay away because of course I'm happy for the other ladies but kind of sad at the same time for my own selfish reasons
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@LindsayInNY: I agree with the POAS threes at times it is hard.....to follow! IM optimistic for you and hope your BFP is right around the corner!!!
I just started massage therapy because I can't do acupuncture because I HATE needles......the IF meds and such are enough for me....but I too made it a point this year to relax.....
This IUI cycle only DH and my mom knows we have started I am happy that way...less people to explain myself to!
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@FaithFertility: I am beyond terrified of needles and I did acupuncture. I still can't believe it did it. The first few times I couldn't even look at the pins when he put them in. My gf was telling me about giving herself a trigger shot and I almost threw up lol
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@babycanuck: You just spelled out my thoughts exactly. I've debated re-buying a gold membership more so that I can block threads.
@FaithFertility: My ob/gyn had recommended massage therapy too but it costs more than acupuncture so I'm reluctant now. =/
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@ShayNanigans: Welcome!!!!!! Keep us posted on your TWW do you POAS or wait for betas? I usually just wait for beta I can't see a BFN....lol
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@LindsayInNY: stinky.....I was shocked when I found out ours covers it ...........go figure..well at least they cover something....lol
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@babycanuck: hahaha you sound just like me.....I can't watch DH give me shots or when I get blood work done I look the other way..... once I could hear the blood gushing and I turned stark white...the nurse saw me and said breath breath....lol
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@FaithFertility: Yep! You might be surprised trying acupuncture. I will say, the weirdest feeling is the ones they put around your belly button. I lay down for blood and look away. And I have tattoos - I have no idea how I managed that but I did.
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@Happygal: Love your DH story.....
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@babycanuck: omg, your better than me! But then again I never thought I would have been able to do any of the meds and such I have solo I surprise myself too!!!!!
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@Happygal: first of all, your husband is awesome. Secondly, your friend is my favorite kind of person to go to dinner with. More for meeeee!
RE: the other posts about POAS thread - yeah, it's sometimes hard for me too. I also get frustrated when people get pregnant easily and without issues! But then after a minute it usually subsides and I feel happy for them. The people who post about being frustrated that it's taking so long (after a couple months) or get KU on the first try...they aren't trying to hurt anyone's feelings, and no one knows what IF or miscarriage is like until they experience it for themselves. And my bum chromosomes aren't any of their faults either. Note that I also try to tell myself that about people IRL. Doesn't always work through
Don't get me wrong, sometimes I read those posts and want to fling my iPad and scream! But then I stop and think that everyone's journey is their own and they know nothing else outside of their own experience. I'm sure that if some of them were to end up on the IF board a year from now, they'd look back and say "what was I thinking, complaining about 3 months of ttc?" But, it's all they know right now.
Sorry for the novel! It's just something that resonated with me since I have similar feelings, but also wanted to share what I'm *trying* to accept about it. And I am certainly not on a high horse because I just accepted this train of thought about a week ago and still relapse. Lol. Baby steps. (Pun intended)
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@SweetiePie: I love your way of thinking....I totally agree with everything you said!!!! On the days I can handle the BFP I will go on and congratulate, because like you said everyone journey is their own!!!
I saw this one time and it sticks with me:Infertility: To those who don't know you can't understand and for those who know, you can't explain!!
It is the absolute truth!!!
(Sorry for the bold language, but it's just anatomy, right?)
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