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My DH and I had a huge discussion this weekend about our whole IF journey. I had a pity party which started the whole conversation. We have a MF issue so he told me that he really does blame himself for us not getting pregnant. It was the first time he actually told me how he was feeling about this.

Mrs. Someone is right, it does take 2 and you are in this together. I think you have to keep the lines of communication open. If it is overwhelming for one of you, it is ok to take a month off. As much as I didn't want to take a month off, it really did both of us good. It felt nice to not have to time when we were having sex and just reconnect with each other. If a month off is not in the cards for you, then take time not to talk about IF or when you are ovulating. Try to enjoy this time together without a baby as much as possible. We have been doing nice dinners out and last minute weekend trips. We figure when (not if, but when) we do have a baby, we won't be able to do these things as much. And I always remind myself and him that no matter what, we love each other and that is all that we need. As tough as this journey is, I couldn't imagine doing this with anyone else.

Ahh, your poor guy. Speaking as the person to "blame" for our IF issues, it has really helped me to hear from my DH that we are in this together, that he loves me unconditionally, and he wouldn't want a life without me even if it included children.

@raintreebee: Ditto. My husband has never uttered a word of blame or regret and has showered me with telling me how much he loves and supports me no matter what.

What a wise and loving wife!! It must've taken so much restraint to let that go. Kudos to you, @math.nerd, for knowing exactly what your husband needs.