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@Snowdrop: I know this might be crazy but try to approach all of those blood draws and wandings with a sense of humor. Joking with the staff made the process easier for me. I just went back and the PA told me she missed my sense of humor.

Find someone IRL to confide in beside your SO. DH was just as overwhelmed as I was. It was helpful to trust in someone else who was a neutral party.

Believe that your time will come.

Just relax!
(Don't worry, I'm kidding! See the sense of humor suggestion above )

I also agree that it helps to have close friends to confide in. I had 2 friends that I talked to along the way, and both were very helpful and supportive. But make sure you talk to friends who won't give you advice for things they don't understand. I also found a meetup group that was helpful in itself (but the "organizer" wasn't).

Another thing that helped a little is that I would picture myself pregnant or holding a baby. After trying for so long, its hard to believe that its ever going to happen. And even being pregnant now, its still hard for me. But in those days of doubt, just picturing it was a little comforting.

I also agree with Swedishfish on keeping notes. I'll add, try and get a copy of every set of results you get: blood tests, HSG, etc. It will make it that much easier for you do advocate for yourself if needed. I ended up noticing one critical "gray area" that my NP missed at one point, just because I looked at the lab results.

Also, it is absolutely okay to do your own research and be your own advocate. Your doctor is your doctor but no one cares more about your treatment than you. It is okay to want to know more about your meds, the protocol, what other protocols are out there, what other diagnoses could be possible, and to ask questions. If you want to try something different or you want another consult, it's okay to ask for that.

I agree with everyone else so far. Like @swedishfish: said, keeping a sense of humor goes a long way while someone's all up in your bits. Especially the delightful wanting.

One thing that that I struggled with for a while was knowing when it was time to take a step back/break & distance myself from certain people/activities. And, not feel guilty about it. For a couple years I was inundated with baby showers, activities with small children/pregnant friends and things that just made me feel worse. I finally got to the point I realized that these activities only added to my sadness/depression and made me feel worse. Perhaps I'm an idiot or a glutton for punishment but eventually I took a step back & ultimately, this helped bring me a bit of peace.

Eta: oh, yea, and "just relax" like @mrs. someone: said...she actually beat me to that

@Snowdrop: Thanks for this thread! It made me smile.

@LMOG47: Hahah! I went yesterday for an u/s to see how things are progressing... Everything is inserted and ready and the computer thing wouldn't work. Only me! The doctor and nurse tried for a while, removed wand and said we'd have to change rooms, then computer started to work and back in it went. Seriously?! LOL.