...I might just lose it. L is 6 weeks old.
How did you cope with this fantastic helpful advice?
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I just say "she's my first, I'm allowed to" and cuddle her tighter, ha ha. I refuse to apologise for treating my child well. my family can suck it up
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@travelgirl1: great response.
I feel that statement is a mean spirited compliment more like a playful tease. You are taking care of your baby so well, what a lucky baby!
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They will get a dirty look and something along the lines of "Science has proven that you cannot spoil a newborn. This is called love, and it helps her develop."
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@travelgirl1: that's a good response. I need something nicer to say than "actually, you can't spoil a baby this young." Bc they just don't believe it.
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@Arden: yah, that's the route I have been going without success! That answer gets a "oh, you'll see in a few months..."
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@Arden: I love your responses to rude people! I get a kick out of them on every thread. I feel like I need to make a set of Arden flashcards because I just freeze and smile awkwardly when people say dumb things to me
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I'd just say, "well, I'm the one who will have to live with it, and I'm ok with that."
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@grizz: Haha! Well if it is any consolation, I also lose my nerve sometimes and just mumble something as I walk away. But then I get mad at myself and vow to stand up to them the next time!
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LOL seriously, how exactly do you spoil a 6 week old who is completely reliant on you for food and care? That's ridiculous. Sorry I don't have any advice, just think that's crazy!!!
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@Arden: I used that response, too. I held my lo as much as I wanted during her first 3 months (and after). I'm only having one so my other response was, "If I'm only having one, I'm going to spoil her with as much love as I want. If it means trouble later, we'll deal with it. Thank you for your concern."
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This isn't advice, this is *assvice* (!) and it's promptly ignored. My last response was something along the lines of *you've already raised your children, let me raise mine*
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grr i hate this. i just say either "oh well!" and smile or if I'm feeling wordy, go into an explanation about the 'fourth tri'!
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I like to say that their Doctor told me that with twins you need to get to the point with each of them that you are spoiling them because twins loose out on the individual attention a singleton has with Mom. Either that or I'm their Mom you had your chance already.
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My mom hasn't said it to me (though I know she's thought about it), but I did overhear her say it to my step dad, who kept picking up my LO (6 weeks old) whenever he fussed. I yelled to her from upstairs, "It is psychosocially impossible to spoil a 6-week old baby! All he understands is that he is safe and loved, which is exactly what we want him to feel!"
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this is my biggest pet peeve, and i STILL get it all the time at almost 4 months. so i like holding my adorable baby, sue me!! she is only going to be little for so long, and i love holding her and cuddling with her. i'm sure when #2 comes along, i will not be able to devote as much time to them, so i really want to enjoy her and cuddle her up!
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@MsLipGloss: omg. you are genius.
I usually just smiled and shrugged it off, but if I felt the need to respond, I said "you can't spoil a newborn."
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Ugh. My dad is all about CIO from birth. Don't even get me started.
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@mrs. wagon: If you are referring to the *assvice* (which there seems to be a surplus of these days!), I can't take credit for the genius. I discovered that little gem from one of my favorite bloggers, Amalah.
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I just smile at them and snuggle my baby.
@MsLipGloss: heh heh assvice
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@MsLipGloss: My sister told her MIL "Thanks, but I live with a child you raised and there's definitely room for improvement. Please let me parent my own children as I see fit."
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@grizz: Doh! annnnd Huzzah!
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@grizz: Ha. Ha. Ha. I might have to use that on FIL when he starts getting on to me about eating habits again. He's thin as a rail, but all of his children (except DH) are morbidly obese. DH was very overweight when we met to and is now very fit, because of me helping retrain his eating habits.
FIL is always whining about how we have to force our children to clean their plates, eat anything that is put in front of them, etc.
I always want to say "Yeah, because that worked so well for your kids. It took years to get DH to realize he needed to stop when he was full - I'm not going to ruin my kids the same way."
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