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No. I would respect my friend's privacy. ESPECIALLY if they told me NOT to tell my DH.

You know how much it pisses me off when I tell a friend something, swear her to secrecy, then find out she told her mom or husband afterwards?! It makes me NOT tell them secrets anymore! And it's usually something personal, too My friend's mom knew about my pregnancy before mine! Rage.

And with personal stuff it's like...TMI, husbands don't need to know. My husband doesn't need to know all my friends' business. And 99% of the time, the guys don't give a shit, anyways

@blackbird: Only 99%?

I don't often keep secrets from DH, if someone wants to tell me something that I can't tell DH, I usually just say never mind, I don't want to know. I'm terrible at keeping secrets from him.

@mrbee, ok 99.999% ?

Well, my friend said, "well i tell my mom everything". Well, some people tell their husbands everything. Doesn't really make it OK to the person whose secret you blabbed. I was really pissed about that! Now she's on my "friends not to tell stuff to" list.

I tell my DH everything

if it wasn't anything that would hurt anybody - and my DH isn't friends with my friends really - I don't see the harm in telling him. if it was something terribly embarrassing or something that might hurt someone if I told him, I definitely wouldn't.

@chopsuey119: me too!

If I'm specifically asked not to tell my husband something then I respect my friend's wishes and I don't. But I do tell him everything unless I'm specifically asked not to. And I assume all of my married friends will tell my secrets to their spouses unless I ask them not to.

I don't tell because I would want my secrets to be kept, too.

i always say don't tell me if you don't want me to tell my dh. i tell my hubby everything.

i assume that my friends tell their husbands everything because i tell mine everything. if a friend told me about her clitoral piercing though, i probably wouldn't have an issue NOT telling my husband.

@MamaMoose: This exactly. I tell my husband unless you ask me not to, and I think most understand that's just how marrieds do.

If its something shocking that has made me feel strongly about something, then I'll share with DH (as long as it wouldn't hurt the other person). If it doesn't have an effect on me then I usually don't share.