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I'm a high sleep needs person and the whole staying up late/getting up early doesn't work for me if I'm not getting enough sleep. I think in your situation you have two choices (neither is right or wrong)...
1. Sleep train. If your kids are sleeping through the night, and therefore you are getting a full nights sleep you will have a lot more energy to do other things and will be able to stay up/get up more often.
2. Stop even trying to do projects and things. Give yourself some grace, and allow yourself to be exhausted and go to bed. This won't last forever, and your kids will eventually sleep. You can do all the things you want to do then.

We sleeptrained both our kids and I prioritize my sleep. I might be able to push through for a short period on 5-6 hours a night, but I can't do it longer than a few days before I crash. DH knows that my mental health is very closely tied to my sleep, so if we're going through some phase or illness with the kids, he will be mindful to taking more on so I can get more rest. To be at my best, I typically need 7 solid hours a night, and usually need naps on the weekends to make up any deficits.

We haven't done anything on our new house since we moved in August, but since the beginning of the year, I've been carving out 30 minutes to run on our treadmill every other day to do the C25K program. I keep meal prep very simple for our family. Generally I reheat something I made the night before for dinner, get the kids to bed (I handle DS2 who is quick to sleep and DH handles DS1 who drags out bedtime a bit more). While DS1 is being put down, I pack lunches, figure out dinner for the next night, and then run or relax. I would say my chores are done by 9pm most nights and I can typically choose to go to bed by 10-1030pm if I wanted to, but between messing with my phone or running to the grocery store, its more like 11pm during the week. But I can get ready very fast in the morning so I don't usually get up until 6:30am.

DH does the dishes before bed and usually handles the laundry. He also makes sure the cars are gassed up so I can get to and from work as fast as possible. We have a housecleaner who comes every 2 weeks and a lawn service.

Basically, if we have food to eat, clean clothes, and I can get to work on time, I consider it a win. Someday the house will get decorated and fixed up, but for now, we're just surviving while I work insane hours (busy season at work) and trying to get enough sleep so I can function without losing my mind. I have two boys who are 3 and 1 years old - everything in my house/car is going to look thrashed anyway!

I am a high sleep needs individual and right now I keep projects to a minimum and I don't exercise. I know I should be putting it as more of a priority but for now I just feel like it's the PHASE I'm in. I'm in the "survival phase". I know I don't look my best and I know I should be doing something about it but right now I am surviving. I am surviving an 11 month old who doesn't STTN, a 4 yo who occasionally wakes as well, an hour commute each way and a full time job.... I'm quite frankly giving myself a pass until things get more calm and I move out of this phase. The problem I have is.... is when does this phase end??????

@Jennibenni: honestly, I didn't until my kids were much older - once my kids were around 5 and 7 life became so much easier and that's when I started to focus on myself again

No solution here We sleep trained early, at 4.5 months, but it took until almost year before he was super reliable about STTN. I start to mentally break down if I don't get 7 hours a night and my husband refuses to help at night, so training was non-negotiable for me, and I think it has been wonderful for my baby, he gets so much more rest and better quality this way.

As for projects and exercise, it's a bummer but I just don't do them at all. We both work out of home full time and have long commutes, and my priorities are spending time with the boy, keeping the house clean and organized which keeps me sane, and keeping my job. Fitness and friendships have suffered, which is a bummer. I think if you are in this stage all you can do is pick the one or two things that you absolutely need and try to squeeze those in while you keep your head above water on everything else. I'm pregnant now with #2 but really hopeful that in a few years it'll be easier.

I didn't. DD finally slept through the night around 16 months, and at the point I worked on getting all caught up at work. Around 2 I added some reading for fun and projects back in, and now finally at 2.5 I am getting back to exercising regularly. Until those milestones, however, I decided sleep was way more important than projects or exercise. I did try to walk a lot with DD at least.

I am a high sleep needs person with a full time job and 2 small kids who wake multiple times a night and are up for the day super early. Most days I am exhausted and can barely make sense when speaking at work. But on nights when I manage to get to bed early and the boys have mercy on me and only wake once or not at all I am #winning. On those days I prioritize projects or errands that I know wouldn’t be possible on little sleep. Every other day I do what I have to do to get through without saying anything too idiotic or exploding at anyone. I hear this is just a phase and we will all eventually sleep. I really hope that’s true..

Not sure if you work or SAH, but I work so I exercise during lunch. That is the ONLY way I actually exercise. Otherwise I'm too tired.

If you SAH, could you do a quick workout during naptime?

@Jennibenni: My kids are a similar age gap and I WFT. The first year was REALLY HARD. I had to let a lot go and focus on survival instead of anything "extra". My husband has always been involved, but he really stepped it up after #2 because I just couldn't do it all.

For exercise, I highly recommend Mommastrong.com - its 15 minute workouts designed for busy Moms. The owner, Courtney, is a Mom and she talks a lot about "winning ugly" - so working out even if that means your kid is awake and climbing on you and self care (figuring out what you need to be doing to take care of yourself and handle life). Its only $2 a month, so its not a huge financial commitment and if you are interested in working out at this stage in your life, it may be exactly what you need. I've come to realize that when I'm getting regular exercise, I eat better, I sleep better, I have more energy, and I have more patience. So even though things are still crazy, I know I have to find a way to exercise to take care of my physical and mental health.

I hope this helps.