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IL's don't support my gender reveal idea.

  1. wonderstruck

    pomegranate / 3791 posts

    @Danizaur: "I planned the party honestly because it would be awesome to me to see everyone's reactions at once"

    The thing to keep in mind with this though is that not everyone may have a big reaction like you want. IMO you're kind of setting yourself up for disappointment once you start having expectations for other's immediate reactions other than your own and your DH's. But I'll admit that I'm not big on the idea of a gender reveal party, personally I feel that inviting cousins and everyone is a bit excessive. We just had our parents and siblings over for dinner and did a cute little reveal with them when we served dessert. But DH and I already knew, it was a moment where I didn't want to feel like I or my family felt like they had to have some specific reaction for everyone watching.

  2. Reese

    pomegranate / 3521 posts

    @Danizaur: I don 't see how this party could suck in the slightest. Food, games and gender reveal sounds like a good time to me. Especially since you have specified not to bring gifts.. people shouldn't feel obligated to do anything except show up and share in your happiness.. Not too much to ask IMO

  3. HLK208

    pineapple / 12234 posts

    Have the party!!! It sounds fun and I would be so excited if someone in my family/close friend had a reveal party! My family has parties for everything though. Maybe your IL's are party poopers

  4. hellocupcake

    persimmon / 1171 posts

    @Danizaur: if you want one, I would totally do one. My MIL thought I was crazy for wanting to reveal the gender in a fun way. She wasn't even very excited that we waited 3 months to tell her we were pregnant. My only suggestion would be to maybe do something that would include everyone...

    Example: have you seen the silly string gender reveal? Or the pink/blue in desserts (: Oh, take a box to a grocery store and have them put pink or blue balloons to float out when you open it? (: just something to maybe make everyone feel like they're included in the fun? I love the outfit idea too...whatever happens...you'll be finding out the gender...who can really ruin that?! (:

  5. artsyfartsy

    cantaloupe / 6692 posts

    @DigAPony: @wonderstruck: Thank you for mentioning that. That's something I haven't thought of.

  6. Mrs. Lemon-Lime

    wonderful pea / 17279 posts

    Have the party. It's not for them it's for you. If they chose not to come so be it. No one is going to be more excited for your upcoming baby than you and your husband. So take their lackluster attitude in regards to the build up events with a grain of salt.

    Gender Reveal parties and announcements seem really fun.

  7. T.H.O.U.

    wonderful clementine / 24134 posts

    Personally, the parties aren't for me.

    Is there a way you could remove the word "Party", so it doesn't seem like such a big to-do? Maybe just a family dinner where you will be all finding out the sex of the baby together.

    I agree, I wouldn't expect people to get too excited. I mean its fun, they are excited for you, but it really doesn't matter to them whether it is a boy or a girl. And thats ok. Remember that these people still love you and your baby no matter what sex he/she is.

  8. littlek

    GOLD / squash / 13576 posts

    @Danizaur: If you want the party, have the party.

    But as PP said, I wouldn't expect people to get too excited. TBH, it's really only exciting for you and your DH. So, if you and your DH want the party, do it for you.

  9. purrpletulips

    pomegranate / 3414 posts

    It's your party, have it if you want to. I'm sort of surprised by the reason they don't like the idea. I've heard of people being upset about a gender reveal party but that was because they thought the couple should be team green. I've never heard of someone being upset because the couple was waiting 4 days to find out.

  10. swurlygurl

    honeydew / 7091 posts

    I think it sucks when people rain on someone else's parade. Not everyone likes all the same things, and that is totally fine. No need to be snotty about it though. I can certainly understand someone not liking the idea, but keep it to yourself and if you really don't want to go, then don't!

    If you think it sounds fun, then you should do it because you can't go back and change your mind afterwards! If it ends up not being as awesome as you imagined, at least you won't regret not doing it, and you can still hopefully have a good afternoon/evening of eating and hanging out with friends/family

  11. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    Oh my goodness, DO IT!!! We had a gender reveal shower and it was one of the most excititng moments of my life. And we already knew the gender, the reveal was for everyone else!

    I anticipated that a lot of people would try to talk us out of it or make rude/negative comments, so what we did was we just kept it a complete secret until the week of the shower. It was really hard, i mean we found out the sex at 17 weeks and our shower wasn't until 27 weeks - so for 10 weeks we were just super vague. At first we kept saying we didn't know the gender yet, it was too early to tell, etc. then when we hit about 23/24 weeks people wouldn't accept that as an answer so we started saying we knew but were keeping it a secret until the third trimester so as not to jinx anything. We were hounded almost daily about the gender by multiple people, but we still didn't announce our plan to have a gender reveal shower until just a few days before, and it was a surprise for most of the guests.

    I'm telling you - it was awesome. Everyone got so into it and it was worth all the hard work and frustration of keeping the secret. I'm glad though that we didn't tell anyone our plan to have the party since it kept people from being vocal against it, which would have made me second guess it.

  12. Arden

    honeydew / 7589 posts

    It's not their baby. It's yours. They can deal with it.


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