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I haven't had this experience yet, but can I suggest lots and lots of lube?? I know that when I'm not in the mood (but am willing to do it for Hubs), lube is KEY to our success. I know that's not the same as having just had a baby, but it should be able to help!

@Coco Bee: Hmm... Maybe you just need to take it slower? I know that it's going to be hard for your husband to one to slow down when he's used to not having to, but this is like your first time all over again (except worse), so he needs to be patient with you. Use LOTS of lube and try just taking things slow. Like don't expect either of you to be able to orgasm the first few times. Maybe as long as he knows you're willing to try as long as he's willing to take things slow, that will make it easier. Then if you take it slow a few times, you'll get more used to it and it will stop hurting as much (hopefully) and eventually you'll be back to normal!

We didn't resume relations until LO was out of our room at 4.5 months.(We went away on a weekend trip without LO at 3 months but I had AF!!) I was tense the first time but now it is back to normal!

We were too tired the first few months to even think about sex, any time we were in bed we were sleeping!

Physically, we waited until after I got the all clear from my doctor and I felt better from the lower back pain I was experiencing. I would guess it was around the 3 month mark when we tried, my husband used his fingers first to make sure I was ok.

@Coco Bee: LO is 3 months today and we have maybe tried about 6 times, and it has been successful maybe 3 or 4 depending on the measure of 'success'. It can be good one weekend and then the next weekend not work out, so I am sure there are multiple factors at play.

@mrsjazz: 3 months today?! Hey birth date twin!!!!!! We share a room with baby, but have a guest room downstairs, which is now the sex room.

@cvbee: I didn't realize our LO's shared a birthday! Isn't 3 months so exciting?

We do have an extra bedroom that has become our baby storage/guest room/cat room so we might have to try this.

Ugh sorry! 2 mos post Partum and we haven't even tried. DH is waiting for the green light from me but I'm too frigging tired as LO doesn't sleep through the night yet. Also I'm not into condoms and haven't started my mini pill yet bc am nervous it will mess with my milk supply.

I don't think we tried until 7-8 weeks pp and it definitely hurt...and the next few times after as well! Now it doesn't hurt that much but we still don't do it as often as we did pre-baby. I think we are just old and tired! Haha

it does get better and better with each time. Maybe things are bad because you waited so long? We did it at 6 weeks pp and it did hurt, and hurt the next few times after. Now, however we are at 9 weeks PP and it is just like old times.

The first couple of times we did it it was definitely a little painful, but those were both just a few weeks pp. The first time we did it was 3.5 weeks pp, but we too got interrupted! Now, at 4.5 mos, it's usually great. In fact, I think some times it feels better than before. That said, if we go to quickly or I'm not revved up enough it does hurt a little before we really get going.
@Mrsbells: That's really interesting about BF impacting moisture levels! Did your doctor say why? I'm totally curious about the physiology of it!

We got cleared yesterday. We are waiting till I get my birth control shot tomorrow before we DTD. I'm a little scared because we haven't DTD since was pregnant and I know it's going to hurt. I had a lot of bleeding 1st trimester and then DH was freaked out I would go into pre term labor.

I'm still sort of tender when I poop, there's no way we're doing it anytime soon! Also, totally the last thing on our minds right now. Poor dh when it does happen, no play with the girls. He will be so sad. Haha.