I LOVE to schedule intimate time with DH........"Friday we both get home by 5, so meet me in the bedroom." DH HATES it! If we didn't schedule it, I'm always too tired, we're too busy,we're too fill in the blank. How do you keep the spontaneity alive if you don't pencil it in!?
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It was easy before we had LO! We would do it whenever. Sometimes we'd even wake the other up in the middle of the night to do it - that was always the most fun!
But now that we have LO I think we'll be having to schedule it. Or else take advantage of the few times LO takes a nap on his own. Sadly he didn't at all this weekend! Boo.
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@miss-spunkin: Waking the other up in the middle of the night!?!? That sounds fun! DH would probably push me out of the bed if I tried that!
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Haha. We don't schedule it. We usually just talk about it/do it before we go to bed.
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@hunni: lol that is us, but its me pushing dh outta bed
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@hunni: haha well sometimes one of us will start and the other will be like seriously?! I'm sleeping! haha but I've never really known DH to turn me down
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@miss-spunkin: That's always a plus! I'm hoping that starting to wear sexier underthings on a daily basis will keep me more in the mood for spontaneity!
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oh my... before bed?! @chopsuey119: I'd die.
I'm so exhausted by the time we put Mavrick to bed at 8ish.But then again, I'm not a reference. We rarely do it. (37 weeks and still going...) le sigh.
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We do a little dirty texting on occasion and then once the LO's go to bed around 9pm we are normally ready to go.
We had to get out of the routine of just doing it in the bedroom right before bed because it got boring. And since we are TTC we can't have boring with as much as we are doing it lol.
Random waking up the other person in the middle of the night is one of my favs! lol -
@Crisark: this is exactly what dh said last week! He is tired of right before bed in the bedroom! I can't imagine what scenarios we will have to invent once we start ttc! Although I know I will want to keep a bd scedule even though dh says he wants no planning!
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@blushink: lol! We would do it before bed if LO didn't sleep with us, that's actually when it happened most often before LO came along.
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No, not typically. We're more for spontaneity! It was actually getting hard keeping the routine part out of it while TTC.
It'll be interesting how it will change when our baby arrives.
I'm not too worried bc pregnancy didn't dampen our sex life -
We don't schedule it. When I'm ovulating it's a little different though because I tell my husband and we know we'll be doing it that day. Sometimes we send text messages back and forth during the day to set the mood.
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We never plan it, it just happens. I could never get into it if it was planned.
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Loved spontaneous sex before LO came along but there's just too many things to do and I'm just too tired these days. About 6 months ago, we decided to pencil it in for every xxxxday (keeping the actual day to myself, lol).....meaning if we haven't been intimate by this day in the week, we would both set aside some time to be intimate on xxxxday.
It's actually been working out really well. We can be spontaneous if we feel like it but there's always xxxxday as a back-up. Of course, if it's a particularly rough week then we'll just skip it. I think it's a good way to carve out some quality time cause like they say, you gotta make time for it if it's important to you, lol. =D
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No, we don't schedule it. However the spirit moves us at this point. There's a balance. I pay attention to DH's needs, but I don't force fill a quota either. If I don't feel up to it, I don't make myself do it (like this week, when I was feeling nauseated in the evenings). Intimacy is a marital obligation, but shouldn't be a chore.
@regberadaisy: Glad to know DH and I aren't the only ones! I'm happy not to be bleeding/tracking my fertility, he's happy not to be worrying about getting me pregnant. Good times to be had for all!
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We don't. But if one of us is in the mood, we'll say something flirty before DH leaves for work so we'll both be ready for it later that night.
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If we do have sexy time, it's while we're laying in bed getting ready to sleep. Usually the hubby makes the first move. Otherwise, we don't. It's sad. When we both worked at the shop (I was laid off from my previous company and was searching for a new one), and had similar schedules, we were spontaneous and did it more frequently.
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I feel like we need to schedule intimacy now...baby, different schedules, and exhaustion!
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We don't usually schedule, we didn't at all before LO was here lol but now sometimes we make general plans "this weekend before your family is all here"! I like spontaneous though
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Well now that I've been cleared for sex again after my last U/S we have been like teenagers! haha but we've never been ones to schedule, we are very spontaneous, but DH knows to get to me before my shows come on since I usually fall asleep on the couch when that happens! So we are usually early evenings people! haha kind of strange but it works for us!
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We don't schedule it, but I could see that happening after the LO arrives. My favorite time to do it is in the morning when I'm feeling refreshed and ready to go.
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