it is for us!
we haven't had any fertility issues, but even aside from our biological child(ren); if we can financially afford it, we'd like to adopt as well in the future.
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Yes.
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Yes. We dealt with infertility for quite awhile on the road to conceiving this baby, and we have always known that adoption is a possibility for us. We may adopt in the future, even if we don't have any more fertility issues.
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We aren't ruling adoption out, but I doubt it.
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I'd like to try for biological children first but we've talked about adoption and are definitely interested in doing it whether we have bio children or not.
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I was unsure about it before but now that we are dealing with IF, we are definitely considering it now. (I mean, adoption would be something we could think about after we had our biological kids but money wise, it wasn't a definite yes. Now that we spent money on unsuccessful IUIs, I think adoption is the next best thing for us.) I don't know how many IUI cycles I can emotionally handle. I'm going to take a break from TTC but when we are ready, I'm going to get started on the adoption paperwork
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For me, absolutely. For DH? I think it's more iffy for him. He has expressed that he is afraid he wouldn't be able to love an adopted child as much as his own.
I think he would.
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It's an option for us.
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I think we're done with our three, but if I was younger and had more patience, I definitely would.
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If we had fertility issues it would definitely have been an option. At this point it is unlikely that we will go down that road though.
@zippylef: Dh has expressed the same fear. I think he would be fine but it's something he is worried about.
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We want to.
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At this point it's unlikely but I wouldn't say never.
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@zippylef: Exactly the same issue with my DH.
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We plan to in the future, via foster to adopt.
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I grew up open to it, but DH is not.
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We have adopted and it's one of the coolest things we've ever done. I think fears of loving an adopted child less are completely unfounded. I love that girl with the intensity of 1000 suns!
@bluestriped bee: I'm so glad you are getting there. You are so ready to be a mom and I feel like it's time for you to have something tangible to look forward to!
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Yes but realistically I do not think we can afford it unless we do foster to adopt. We def want to foster a child though hopefully in a couple years we will.
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It wasn't until our recent loss. It's now on the table, but trying again, I think, will come first.
We also are open to be foster parents.
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I put undecided. Now that we have successfully had a biological child adoption isn't something I see us actively seeking out. However if there happen to be a child in our lives who came into circumstances where they didn't have a loving home to go to, we would provide that to them to the best of our ability.
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@zippylef: same situation here
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We've never even considered it but we didn't have any problems with TTC and pregnancy. If we had IF issues, I'm sure it's something we'd talk about.
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Yes, but would prefer at least two bio kids first - if this isn't possible, we'd definitely consider adoption from the get go.
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Hmmmm. I think if we didnt have H, then it would be. I want 3 kids, but if we had secondary IF, I think I would just be grateful for her and call it a day. I just don't feel that hunger or need that I felt for a baby like I did when we were so desperately TTC. I'd love to have more, but she makes my heart swell and would be more than enough if TTC didn't work out for us:).
But I remember that ache. That obsession. And if I ever got there again, then we'd talk about it!
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I don't think so. I truly think we'll stop at two. I also don't think we could ever afford to go through the adoption route.
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If we have a third we might adopt. I have health issues that get worse when I'm pregnant, so I'm not sure my body could handle so many pregnancies. I'm nervous about just 2.
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Yep. It's always been an option for me. I'm so thankful DH has warmed up to the idea and now he's on board.
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Yes! We're definitely adopting after our 2nd biological child.
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Yes. It's definitely an option.
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I have always been in the camp of wanting to adopt regardless of our ability to conceive. I think I still feel that way. I'm not so sure if DH is on board. He had a lot of uncertainty last time we discussed it. My heart has always been drawn to Africa. I would love to go on a mission trip there at some point. I've always wondered if I feel such a connect because we are meant to adopt from there some day!
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No.
I could do it but DH already made it clear before we got married that, if we couldn't have kids, he would want us to be happy with what we have in life & not to "force it". I think he says that because he fears he would never feel like dad to that child.
However, we both agree that we would gladly take in a child of a relative's if that child was being abused or left orphaned. -
@MamaMoose: That's pretty much exactly how we feel about it.
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I voted no only because we have DS so if we couldn't get pregnant again we just would only have 1 child. But if we had had problems getting pregnant with him, I would have preferred to adopt than go through fertility treatments. So it was definitely an option before.
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No.
Before DH and I had LO we discussed adoption as it was something I wanted so badly to do someday, I always said I wanted to have bio children and then adopt a child (from children's aid) the same age as our oldest. DH was/is on board.
Knowing the process of adoption, how long it takes and how pretty impossible it would be it wouldn't be worth the effort/stress, etc (so awful typing that) and we would just have another bio LO. Unless you foster for like 5+ years, adoption isn't really possible without major process, which is crazy, I get it (sort of) but it's crazy.
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Yep.adopting my son was one of the best things I ever did. I hope someday to foster or foster/adopt. So many kids need a mommy it hurts my heart.
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@Mrs. Jacks: I was reading through the responses and wanted to say this same thing to everyone saying they couldn't love the same.
I understand it isn't for everyone, but I can't help wanting to try to show people how it really feels.
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I think it's hard to understand adoption when you're not directly involved. I know firsthand that my son is my child in every sense of the word and I could not love him more. Mr P told me the other day that he would be fine if we could never have biological children. I feel the same, and trust me, that's huge.
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@Mrs. Polish: beautifully said, mama!
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