My little sister is adopted. She's three years younger than me... we adopted her when we lived in Korea.
Adoption is a very personal experience, and I don't want to post about it here without checking with my sis first. I'm always curious though what other peoples' experience with adoption has been! Adoptees, Siblings, and Adopting Parents... would love to hear your personal experience with adoption!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
My husband is adopted! His parents adopted him and his twin brother from Korea through Holt International. My in-laws also adopted a girl from Korea before having 2 biological children. We hope to adopt 1-2 children as well.
cherry / 171 posts
My cousins are adopted and it's like they were always meant to be with us. It's funny to see the family mannerisms and faces. I can't imagine them not being part of us.
kiwi / 500 posts
My sister's bf is a Korean adoptee. You're right that it is very personal experience. But it is part of his story
And we love him for all that he is and isnt. I think adoption is something I would really consider some time in the future.
pomegranate / 3980 posts
My husband was adopted and while he didn't have a goid experience with that I am still thankful that it brought him to me
coconut / 8854 posts
My father is actually adopted and so was my grandmother on my mom's side. Which makes it really hard when doctors ask about family medical history.
grape / 83 posts
I am a birth mother and am always willing to help others or answer questions frorm a birthmother side. I try to make my wonderful and difficult journey a help to others whenever I can.
If anyone ever has any questions, you can post to my wall here or PM at WB at the same name as here.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Yes, my aunt adopted 2 little girls from China. I live across the country from them so I don't know the exact situation but I have only heard positives so far. The girls are 7 and 2. They look like one big happy family to me.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
my younger sister is adopted. the first question people ask when they find that out is, "wow! where is she from?" well..a couple streets over! she was my mom's preschool student (several years ago) and needed a home.
grape / 81 posts
My DH's older brother is adopted and we'd definitely consider adoption to add another after the horrific pregnancy I had.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
My aunt adopted my older cousin when he was 5 or 6 from her husband's brother who couldn't take care of him. Not the traditional adoption, but it worked out for them.
pear / 1852 posts
Before my grandfather was born, when his parents were newlyweds, his cousins were orphaned when their parents died in a believe a car accident.
They did they only thing they could and took in their nieces and raised them as daughters. My grandfather grew up with them as his sisters, and never thought of them as anything else.
pear / 1639 posts
My cousin and her husband adopted a little boy from China. They chose him because he was deaf and knew that others would rather choose a child that didn't have any disabilities. He also needed glasses when they finally got him over here, and now he wears the cutest glasses and has cochlear implants to hear. He is the CUTEST little guy ever!!!!!
pea / 9 posts
My older brother is adopted. I always thought being adopted was so interesting and cool and I used to be very jealous that I wasn't adopted too!
cherry / 235 posts
We always joke in my family that we are the "adoption experts." Obviously not really, but...
My mom was adopted, my dad was adopted AND more recently my youngest sister was adopted! My sister is 15 years younger than me - sounds crazy, but I do have brothers in between there. I'm the eldest and she's the youngest.
pomelo / 5791 posts
Both my brother (non-biological) and I were adopted. We have the greatest parents in the world, and I know I was meant to be with them!
grapefruit / 4669 posts
I have an adopted cousin, and my parents kept several foster kids when I was young but didn't adopt (thankfully these kids were able to go back to their families!).
apricot / 348 posts
I have an adopted brother and an adopted sister. I can't tell you how glad I am for the process of adoption and the reality that love is more than blood ties! I can't wait until my husband and I are able to adopt ourselves
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
I love adoptions!! It weighed heavily on my mom's heart but they never could afford it - she still wishes she could and def would if she had the opportunity!
I'm hoping to adopt one day...
clementine / 972 posts
My dad is adopted! He's never been able to track down his birth mother (never really wanted to), but sometimes I wish I knew, from a medical perspective. She had issues which is why they gave him up, but that's all we know.
Seriously love adoption and would definitely consider it in the future.
persimmon / 1150 posts
my two little sisters are adopted and my soon to be SIL is also adopted.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
DH's dad adopted him, but his mom is his bio mom. Other than that, my cousin adopted their first son. He's such a good kid. My plan has always been to adopt at least one, so now we are planning on adopting a girl when we're ready to expand our family again.
squash / 13199 posts
we dont have adoption in my family, so I dont have much first hand experience with it. I have friend a friend who adopted two children though
pomelo / 5331 posts
I'm adopted I was adopted at birth by my parents. I always knew I was adopted, and that my birth mother was about 16 when she had me. It wasn't until after my mom died that my dad gave me some paperwork they had on my birth family, and a letter my birth mother had written me. My mom had been afraid to give it to me because if I went looking for my birth mother I might not love her anymore. Which really made me mad at first, but now I understand that sort of thinking. I did end up locating my birth mother through some research and a last name my dad had accidentally overheard (I was adopted in Oklahoma in 1980 through Catholic Charities, so closed, closed, very closed was the norm back then) and located one of my biological siblings' postings on an adoption forum. I contacted him, and was put in touch with my birth mother.
DH and I actually met her, a biological sister, my biological grandmother, and her husband (my bio-mom's stepfather) this past May. It was an unreal experience! Nobody knows where my birth father is, from what I understand they had a lot of difficulty locating him to sign the paperwork when I was adopted.
I used to feel weird about it when I was a teenager (and felt weird about everything) but now I'm so grateful that my birth mother made the choice she did, because my parents are wonderful and just wanted a child they couldn't have themselves. My birth mother shared with me that she had considered several times keeping me, but knew that she couldn't do that because she wouldn't be able to give me as good of a life as older married parents could (ETA not at all an indictment against younger or single parents whatsoever, but that was her personal feeling, that I would have a better life elsewhere). The way she put it was that, she figured she could have a shot at meeting me again someday, but if she chose to keep me, then my parents (who had already been chosen and lined up by the agency) would never get to meet me, and that wasn't fair. That kind of thinking for a 16-year-old is staggering.
ETA: Wow, sorry, novel.
coffee bean / 41 posts
My sister and I were both adopted from different Asian countries. I love reading all of the other comments about adoption!
coconut / 8483 posts
2 of my first cousins are adopted, and 3 of my moms first cousins are adopted as well! Everyone adopted because of fertility issues, so I would definitely consider it if I was in that position.
pomelo / 5791 posts
@ladyfingers: We have an insanely similar story! I always knew I was adopted, my birth-mom was 16 when she had me, and I came from a catholic charity as well (in 1981)! My parents had given me the letter from my b-mom when I was very young though, as she (b-mom) died at a young age as well (which I also always knew about). I've met her family, and well as my birth father and his family. Love your story and your b-mom's rationale. It's very mature for a 16 year old!!
pomelo / 5331 posts
clementine / 826 posts
My DH was not officially adopted but he lived with his grandparents for most of his childhood. It was very hard on him.
I have a heart for adoption. I would love to adopt a child. But DH says two is enough.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
My mom and aunt were adopted by their step dadMy grandma left her husband and when she remarried her new husband did the official paperwork. It was really important to them because they said it meant they were truly loved like daughters not step children.
My cousin was adopted from Japan while my aunt and uncle were stationed there.
My husbands cousin adopted a little girl about ten years ago.
My oldest son is adopted and it was one of the best decisions in my life!
nectarine / 2152 posts
My husband was adopted at birth, domestically, down in FL. As far as I know, there's no info on the birth mother, who was 16 at the time, and DH has no desire to get in touch with her. It has definitely meant that adoption was always (and perhaps still will be) an option for us
pomegranate / 3516 posts
My husband just found out a few months ago that his grandfather is adopted! He's never really talked about it so we don't know any specifics though.
honeydew / 7667 posts
@mandb36: My grandma was adopted but we didn't find out until she was on her deathbed.
pomegranate / 3604 posts
I'm adopted Open adoption from birth in '87.
My sister is also adopted ('89)- when my birthmom found out she was pregnant again (different guy) she asked my mom&dad to take her too. Parents thought siblings should be together so they did.
DH has 2 adopted siblings too.