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It seems strange for her to mention it, especially when it was candy that the company provided. I probably would have joked it off, because that's my personality. But totally not her place to say?

I agree with you entirely! Totally inappropriate and none of her business!

I would make a point to have a bag of candies around every time you see her next.... LOL

My coworkers and I give each other crap about what we eat (like today, cough, jelly beans) but it would be super weird for someone to specifically express "concerns" to me about what I was eating. Maybe the candy was loud and disruptive?......super weird.

I bet your boss' boss is the epitome of health, since she's the Health Nazi and all *eye roll*

@.twist.: ditto!

If she thought it was rude to eat candy during the meeting, sure.

Talking to you about your health habits? TOTALLY none of her business.

I agree it's COMPLETELY inappropriate, but I am stuck on what to do.

What did you say to her? Maybe discuss it with your boss and how it made you uncomfortable and also a that it felt inappropriate? He or she may help guide you.

I had a boss once, after a conference, have a meeting with me about healthy eating and etiquette. Yes, seriously. I'm a VERY picky eater. At the conference there were often things (banquet settings) that I did not like. I politely ate what I would/could, and didn't complain, or act like a toddler, etc. But she (and others) would be like, "WHY DON'T YOU JUST TRYYYY IT" (which I find mortifying and rude, as a picky eater who wishes she wasn't, but has severe anxiety, especially regarding food.) I was blown away by how bold it was of her to go into that. It was a horrible job and I was on my way out anyway (I was barely doing my job, while job hunting.) They didn't have an HR department and the "legal counsel" who served as it was pretty much just as bad, so it's not like there was anyhing I could do. I felt that it became an issue because she didn't like me as a person or an employee. Do you think this person has an issue with you? How is your work relatinoship?

Was she joking?? I would have no idea how I'd respond to this if I felt like they weren't joking and I couldn't just laugh it off!!

@ShootingStar: Umm, that's pretty weird. Do you have a lot of time off sick (clutching at straws here!)? That's the ONLY time I would mention that to one of my staff - as part of a return to work interview after one of many periods of minor sickness.

Uhh, that only is that weird, that is completely out of line imo. Your snacking on candy or whatever you want is none of her business! If there was some policy about no eating in a meeting, then ok, but other, noooooo.. just no! I'd be so annoyed if I was in your position.

seeing as how it's acceptable to eat in these meetings, i'm not sure why she would think it's appropriate to comment on your snack choices, that's just rude! if she was so concerned about employees eating healthfully, maybe she should start some sort of healthy choice snack overhaul in the provided snack areas, but singling you out for eating what they've provided seems insane!

@ShootingStar: DH says you should take the issue to human resources and tell them that she made you feel uncomfortable (that is harassment- it doesn't matter the intent, it is how you receive it).

I find that very unprofessional and she is making assumptions. Totally uncalled for. I'm sorry

Your health is your health and it isn't anyone else's business. Maybe the company should be more proactive about making sure there are more choices available- some people have medical issues that cause them to need to eat (like breastfeeding!)

@ShootingStar: that's why I wrote "to the extent" . . . in case you weren't.

This is one of those times where I wish social norms could go out the window and you could have responded with something to the effect of, "Your face concerns me." But, y'know.. that's my immature side talking. That's very weird that she brought it up to you.

I definitely would have called her out on that - in no way is it appropriate for your boss to comment on that. And I think that saying it might be appropriate if you're on a company health plan is BS - that's skating pretty thin ice there, what's next? Stop hiring anyone who isn't in shape, has diabetes, is in their child-bearing years, etc., because they might need more health care?

I would probably stop by her office and say something like, "I've been thinking about what you said yesterday, and honestly it really bothers me that you repeatedly commented on my eating habits. I understand that you are just trying to express your concern, but it made me uncomfortable and I'm asking you to please refrain from making such references in the future."

Here's a bold question. Are you a full figured woman? I am plus sized and have noticed recently a lot of "fit" people feeling some type of obligation to remind people of their overall health. Is she one of those boney I run daily and only eat salad types? If so I would bring it up to your manager at your next opportunity that she made you uncomfortable and didn't appreciate her wording. It could be an HR issue if she's not careful (discriminatory).