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@looch: true

I don't know if it's true or not but what I'm unsure of is why any celebrity would go to a site like this? The people who respond and hook up with people looking to cheat clearly have no morals. So wouldn't he have been taking a huge risk that someone would recognize him and perhaps try to get paid off, or famous for being the other woman in a Duggar marriage?

@yoursilverlining: I would like to give a huuuge +1 to your whole first paragraph. If it really was him, his hypocrite status just increased tenfold.

@Mrs. Pen: I agree with you... I totally get why the public is rejoicing/relishing in this b/c of how he all of his choices/actions. But it's definitely just sad and not something you want to see happen to families. I do hope that their story serves as a lesson for many others to please not sweep these issues under the rug in order to uphold some image!

Oh dear, his poor wife.

I don't have any sympathy for Josh Duggar, but I do have sympathy for his wife and kids. And I think that @Ra is right - because of the nature of their relationship, she's going to feel as if she didn't fulfill her wifely duties and forced him to do this. As if she drove him there. I hope for her sake, some of this starts to die down so that she can move on with life.

@Ra: agree that his wife will blame it on herself.

One of my husband’s cousins married into a weird, but mainstream branch of fundamentalism, which is certainly more liberal than the Duggars in many respects, and at their wedding ceremony the pastor spent a LONG time talking about how it is the wife’s job to “stay thin”, “always wear makeup” and “keep her looks up”, otherwise men will cheat, and basically are entitled to cheat. It wasn’t couched talk either, he straight up said women must stay skinny and pretty at all times, or men should be able to cheat. It was *insane* - but totally accepted and expected talk for a wedding ceremony.

Needless to say, the congregation probably heard me and DH’s jaws drop at that!!!

So yes, I’m sure that no matter what PR-spin the Duggar’s come out with publically, she already knows that his cheating is her fault and that she needs to be a better wife.

It's just so sad, but then again, I think she buys into it as well, and at some point my sympathy for adults making the same decisions and brining up children in those same beliefs ends.

@yoursilverlining: From what it sounds like, the grandmother's house was the one that they were living in while in AK. They didn't actually own their own home apparently. I think Ben and Jessa live there now. Regardless, it's pretty messed up. Besides, a real legit celebrity would have a PR person denying allegations. Nobody will believe Josh if he says he didn't do it. That being said, he's probably guilty.

@plantains: thank you

Why does this guy deserve criticism for what he did? Well, because he has made statements like these: "“I believe strongly, being the oldest of 19 kids and counting that you know marriage is central to the family and every single child deserves a mother and father,” said Duggar. “And I'm sure grateful for my parents and I'm grateful for my wife and we have our fourth child on the way due in July, and I think it's just such a blessing when you see family and you see that you can honor each other.” (Source: http://cnsnews.com/news/article/lauretta-brown/josh-duggar-being-oldest-19-kids-and-counting-i-believe-every-single)

When you have made statements like that, in public, and it is discovered that you joined and paid for a website that promotes extramarital affairs ... Well, hypocrite doesn't even begin to describe it.

Here is their family statement.

This is so gross:

http://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/8/statements-from-jim-bob-and-michelle-duggar-and-josh-duggar

@T.H.O.U.: So, why mention pornography lmao? Was that a confession that he actually met someone from the site? You can join a dating site but not actually hook up with anyone, I'm glad he didn't try and go that route!

@MrsTiz: Maybe he doesn't want anything else to come out in another few months. If he's like "yeah I'm also a member of a bunch of porn sites", it could spare his wife and kids from more pain later.

Gosh darn it. It keeps giving me an error . I want to read the dang thing!

@MrsTiz: He does say: I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife .

@BadgerMom:

ETA: Bluestriped Bee got it all in there so I deleted mine.

@bluestriped bee: @Mrs. Peanut: Thank you!!!

Ugh. Just ugh. So much for all that "rehabilitation" he went through... Surprise. Surprise.

I feel so bad for his wife. I hope she doesn't feel responsible, but from all the other things they (and people like them) have said regarding this kind of stuff, I imagine she does.

@lawbee11: http://www.people.com/article/josh-duggar-infidelity-pornography-addiction-statement

Lovely.

Hm. I find it troubling when people view things as responsibility on God, instead of themselves. Like, I'm a sinner, only God can help... but then is it God's fault if you are unfaithful in your marriage? Maybe you need to address some of your issues with therapy, or an addictions counselor, or counseling with your spouse. It just seems a little superficial to think God will just fix your problems without you investing in fixing them- I mean you are still you, you have to do it. Maybe you are just doing something that isn't right and you need to address it. The whole thing is reminiscent of ... acting like he's a naughty boy who ate too much pie. Well... no, it isn't hunger or the devil that made you do it, maybe you need to address your psychology.

Anyway, that's my ramble. Gross. There is a bias in US against conservative Christians, apparently, I was just reading about it. They are the second largest group that gets treated with bias. I think it is gross and unideal no matter who is doing it.

@agold: that's just the impression I get, or maybe my misunderstanding.

@Greentea: Ahh... I see. I didn't get that impression at all. Maybe from the preface by his parents, stating that they continue to place their trust in God. Josh Duggar fully called himself out as a hypocrite. Easier to do once you've been caught, but he didn't deny it or hide. He even admitted to more stuff he'd done! Its too bad all around.