DD1 is 3y9m and DD2 is 15m. They've been room sharing for almost a year. Mostly it's going well, with an occasional brutal night with lots of screaming and keeping each other up. But typically they do great. We are thinking of buying a house and likely will end up with a 3 br. Do we separate them? Keep them together and have a guest room for the first time ever? What would you do?
nectarine / 2431 posts
I would have them share a room as long as you can, but be open to them wanting their own space down the road.
persimmon / 1390 posts
Having my kids in the same room has helped tremendously in terms of less stuff to clean up, its way easier to put away laundry, and it’s much easier to put them to bed (one kid doesn’t need to get up and walk to their room). When they’re older I’ll separate them if we don’t have a third, but as long as I’m doing laundry and bed time, they need to stay together. We also turned the other room into a playroom which is great.
grapefruit / 4144 posts
@Mrs. Turtle: For the time being, I would keep the girls together in a room as it is a comfort zone [after a year], and would turn a 3rd room into a guest room, play space, or office until one of the girls wishes for her own space. I state this as any large change (such as a move with a new home and new school/daycare) may affect the girls emotionally. Keeping them together until one requests her own room may ameliorate the situation, or atleast, afford them some familiarity with so much change. FWIW, we have moved all over the country numerous times. My DD has moved 7 times (and attended 10 schools) in her 11 years while DS has been moved 4 times in his 4 years. My DD has always been more emotional and clingy. She has a harder time "leaving the familiar" than does DS. To remedy some of their "stress," we let them select a toy box [each] of favorite toys and we maintain their sleep schedules and bedding (* items and bed position -- Ex. DD's bed always faces the door while DS prefers his bed along a wall and facing a window). There is a fine line with moves ... [we] strive to make the move and new home "exciting" while affording some familiarity and comfort. In any case, it is up to you and your DW to make the decision as you know your girls best.
Good luck with your house hunt!
pomelo / 5620 posts
I would keep them sharing a room. If there isn’t a playroom I’d make the third room guest/toy room.
blogger / pear / 1509 posts
@crazydoglady: thanks! I think this is smart.
@Becky: Good points. I solo parent 3+ days per week so I want to keep things as simple as possible.
@Kaohinani: Thanks. I moved a lot growing up, but only once since we've had kids. The house we are looking at today has 2 living spaces and a small home office area, so I think the third bedroom could easily be a guest room and we could make one living space the play area. I'm trying not to get too excited yet about the idea of more space. Our current cabin is less than 600 sq ft, and while it's been, um, cozy, we are very much ready for a bigger space.
pear / 1565 posts
I'd keep them together too if that's what works! Eventually they'd probably want their own space.