I found some older posts on this topic, but I wanted to see if there were any new technology options i haven’t seen yet....
I have family all over the country who will want to see photos of LO once he/she arrives. But I’m super cautious about internet privacy issues and don’t want the baby’s name/face all over Facebook. So I’m looking for an app or webpage that will let me keep photos private/invite only.
My biggest concern is that someone (like my dad or MIL) will forward the link to someone I don’t want to share with, or MIL will download the photo to her own phone and repost to Facebook. Anyone know of a site/app that will let me share photos but will prevent people from downloading?
Right now, I’m looking at a pixieset website because it looks like downloads can be blocked, but I’m trying to figure out if there is anything easier. I like the look of the TinyBeans app, but it allows for invited family/friends to download.
I know i can’t control everything but am trying my best to limit what I can.
apricot / 390 posts
I'm in a similiar situation where we live on the east coast and my dad's family lives on the west coast, with close friends scattered in between. Personally, I LOVE TinyBeans. Seriously cannot recommend it enough. You are right, though, that you can't stop someone from downloading the photos.
Honestly, I don't know of ANYTHING offered that fully like, encrypts photos so they can't be screenshotted or downloaded if someone is really set to do it. Would a conversation with your parents/inlaws about how the internet is terrifying be enough to stop them from sharing against your wishes?
nectarine / 2243 posts
the apps i use all allow for downloads. The problem you might run into with ANY app is that someone could always take a screenshot of the image if they are really intent on saving it to their device. It might be better to have a conversation with whomever you think would repost things and make it explicitly clear that if they do, they will be removed from the app sharing.
I use 23snaps and iPhoto sharing streams and don't have issues with anyone in the groups downloading pics and reposting, but people aren't really that active on social media.
apricot / 322 posts
I think you can change settings on photos in Flickr so people can't download photos but can view them - I don't know if you can have invite-only albums. Maybe Google Photos does the invite only bit?
cantaloupe / 6085 posts
I use smugmug for photo albums and sharing, but it has a yearly fee. You can definitely make the albums invite only, or require a password, and I think you can disable right clicking to download since they also cater to commercial photographers. With my family we also have a shared iPhone stream which they could download from and share. But I agree avoiding screenshots is hard and someone who really wants to can get around your protections, probably.
Is there something you would be ok with that you could offer? Like saying, I really don’t want the kids on fb or instagram, but I’m happy to send you some pics to email to your friends. Not sure if that accomplishes what you wish but maybe something like that could keep them from trying to post without your knowledge because they want a little grandparent bragging. Just a thought!
apricot / 390 posts
Oohhh I should probably add: one of the things I do to prevent them from feeling like they don't have any photos to share is printing them physical copies. Every quarter or so I do a Walmart or Shutterfly prints order for $15ish and each grandma gets a stack of photos to do with what they want. Neither of them is terribly likely to scan or post them, but they like being able to display pictures in their homes and my MIL carries around a "Grandma Brag Book" in her purse so she can show DD off to her friends .
pomelo / 5866 posts
Share a Google Photos album with them or DH and I use Icloud photo album on our iPhone.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
I use 23 snaps, which is invite only, but my dad did once post a photo of my nephew from there to his Facebook. My sister talked to him about it and he hasn’t done it since. Can’t you just talk to your family and tell them it’s not to be posted anywhere else?
pineapple / 12053 posts
whatever you use, i would just have a convo with the grandparents and family invited because that's the best prevention.
pea / 19 posts
Thanks ladies. I agree that there will be a serious conversation with our families about privacy - I’m just trying to reduce the tempatation as much as possible and appreciate the leads!
clementine / 806 posts
I have a locked down/private Instagram account for DS. I only invite or approve people that I personally know.
Yes, someone could technically take a screenshot of the picture, crop it, and then re-post it....but I honestly don't think the grandparents know how to do that.
Bonus: It auto-fills into Chatbooks, and I then I automatically get a little photo book every 60 pictures! It's like a free photo album without the work. And we actually pay for 2 extra copies and have it automatically shipped to the grandparents - so they always have something printed that they can keep on the coffee table.
pear / 1737 posts
We use Flickr and you can limit audiences for each picture or each album and also make it so no one can download. Each person you want to view the photos or album makes an account and then you add them as a family member and set your pictures to “family” privacy so they’re the only ones who can see. It solved all my problems although we had to change it back to downloadable for family as my in laws like to download and print pics, but they’re quite aware of my views on privacy of our kids’ pictures.
grapefruit / 4043 posts
@MrsLonghorn: My husband's mom knows how to screen shot and crop.
If it were me and I didn't want pictures post, I would tell every one explicitly what you do and don't want. I would then send one picture, maybe with your husband holding the baby so you can't really see the baby too clearly, and wait a bit to make sure they don't post the picture.
pomegranate / 3658 posts
We use 23 snaps.
nectarine / 2208 posts
@Clementine12: @Mrs. Goose: Flickr was my suggestion too. You can make your settings so you can’t download, but if you really wanted you could still screenshot.
honeydew / 7622 posts
Honestly I just print and mail photos 3-4 times a year. I used Zenfolio but have not emailed a link for 18.
I think an honest conversation is essential.
pear / 1998 posts
We do a combination. I use Smug Mug for general photo storage backup and share specific albums with family. bhbee mentioned some security measures that I like - link invite only, password required, right-click save disabled. You can also put text in the album so you could say something like - "Please do not share, download, or post these pictures online. Thank you for respecting Baby's internet privacy."
I also have a private instagram account that has less than 30 followers - all close family and friends. We do the automatic chatbooks to the grandparents (since they don't have instagram) and send printed pictures to them a lot.
Although my mom and dad do have Facebook, they have never posted anything without my permission first.
coconut / 8861 posts
I use a Shutterfly share site and disable all of the download links. This way, my intrusive (and picture stealing) MIL can look at the pictures, but not download them. She did this years and years ago to me when I was still dating my husband. Doing the family share site really stopped it.