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I think it is totally reasonable to ask 12+ be vaccinated for indoor visits. We’re lucky that we don’t have this issue in the family, and we mask elsewhere indoors.

The timing didn’t work out but I probably would have let our kids mix with the cousins at my mom’s even though none are vaccinated yet since <12. But they’re also way less likely to spread it than adults according to the data. I also figure an unvaccinated adult may have other risky behaviors I am not comfortable with. I’m sorry you have to make these hard choices!!

I’m glad your husband recovered. I think being your house you have the choice of who you let stay. It is your job to protect your family. You also have the choice of where to go and stay. If you are not ready to be around people who aren’t vaccinated just be polite about it. As long as both parties respect each other’s choice it shouldn’t be a problem.

We still have much stricter rules where we are and haven’t had to deal with this yet.

@MamaG: I guess I’d take it on a case-by-case basis, but I agree with the other PP who said probably a vaccine skeptic is also a Covid skeptic, and engaging in more risky behaviors (but hey, maybe not, which is why I say case-by-case).

We have been in SEVERAL awkward situations with my family because I have a sibling who isn’t going to get vaccinated (neither is their spouse), and my kids are the only ones on my side not eligible to be vaccinated (other grandkids are older).

And we bought a vacation house, so suddenly my family wants to all come see us, but I had to basically say everyone who is vaccinated is fine, and if you aren’t, you can’t come. And it’s been hard, and awkward.

But at the end of the day….my kids, my house, my rules. And this sibling also doesn’t wear masks anywhere (even tho Unvaccinated), had never stopped socializing in groups. Their spouse works in a hospital (and is also not vaccinated), so I just feel like they are high risk to bring Covid to my unvaccinated kids, and it is what it is.

And you know, like…we would be providing essentially a free vacation to people who don’t respect my (and my husbands, and let’s be honest, it’s his job that makes us able to afford a vacation home) viewpoint in safety for my kids. I mean, I’m going by the CDC recommendations about mixing households unvaccinated indoors (they said don’t do it). So….it is what it is.

But it hasn’t been fun, it’s been surprisingly tough to have these conversations. And I think it’s eroded family ties quite a bit. But I’m blaming them for that (I’m sure they are blaming me for being “hard core). 🤷‍♀️

If you've all had Covid, and the adults are also vaccinated, you're already quite safe. You're not a hazard to your unvaccinated relatives, and they are not a hazard to you.

But of course you can ask them to stay in a hotel, and stick to meetings outdoors.

Not at all unreasonable but if you actually have family members who don’t want the vaccine, they probably won’t like you asking them to. All my friends and family are vaccinated, but I would not let any unvaccinated adult see my kid inside. Outside with a mask, okay. I do let my kid see a select few unvaccinated kids inside but rates are extremely low where I live.

@MamaG: totally makes sense—our parents and siblings also got TDAP boosters when our first was born, so I agree that wanting people to be vaccinated to be around vulnerable kids isn’t a totally new concept!

I just came to the boards to see if anyone had posted on this topic. We haven’t seen my in-laws since Christmas 2019. They are refusing to be vaccinated and have fallen into all kinds of conspiracy theories. At this point I don’t want to see them until our kids are vaccinated. We did remote learning, we still mask when shopping, at the library, etc. DH and I are vaccinated as are my parents and siblings so the kids have been seeing them regularly. My older DS has gone to some half day camps this summer unmasked and in small groups. I feel like he needs that socialization to get ready for going back to school in August which will be in person. I really don’t think the relationship with my in-laws will ever be the same after this. And it makes me sad and anxious if I think about it too much.

I agree with everyone. I have been at work (masked even though I'm vaccinated, semi-high risk environment) and DH has been at work (possibly unmasked recently since everyone is vaccinated. I should probably check on this ) DS and DD have been at home with a nanny the whole year, but DS will be at outdoor summer camp next month, masked. We will see other kids outside with masks on, and have recently started visiting with other vaccinated adults indoors, but I wouldn't have my kids with other kids or unvaccinated adults indoors, especially with people who have maybe not been super careful this whole time.
The only exception we made was to visit my in-laws over Memorial Day. All the adults are vaccinated, but my nieces are too young. One has been in school, masked. We spent lots of time with them indoors over the weekend at their homes. I was honestly a little nervous, but it was worth the small-ish risk to be able to finally see them all again.

Vaccination is a non-negotiable for us. My parents came to visit and stayed over Memorial Day and that was because they're both vaccinated and so are we (but kiddo isn't since she's 8). My brother is not allowed to stay with us because he won't get a vaccine and I have zero qualms about it.