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I would let it go. She will refine her idea of love as she grows up.

My Kindergartener keeps complaining that he wants to marry his 18mo twin sisters because he loves them so much. I told him you can't marry your sister and this boundary bothers him.

I have not bothered to address the bigamy issue with his idea. I'm already struggling to prevent him from identifying one of the twins as his favorite.

I have a 5 year old too, if she came home and declared she loves a boy from class, I would probably say ok, cool. Haha! Or maybe I’d ask her who else she loves and let her redirect herself to loving family, etc.

When my daughter was in kinder her best little boy friend really took to her and declared pretty much every day that he loved her and they were going to get married. She loved it and talked to me all the time about how they loved each other and he was her boyfriend and they would get married when they were grown ups. We had kind of an ongoing conversation about it throughout the year (it went on so long!) and it was nice for her to be so open about it to me - I took it as an opportunity to talk about how I was glad she had such a good friend, and that she has so long before she has to pick who she wants to marry and it’s ok if she wants to change her mind, etc. So I mostly went along with it with gentle reminders. Our situation took a bit of a turn where the little boy started being a bit controlling towards the end of the year and trying to tell her who she could and could not play with, which she let me know bothered her and gave me the chance to talk to her about getting to make her own decisions and not letting a friend (especially a boyfriend) tell her what to do or who to hang out with, and as that went on and she started not liking him as much, that just because he “loves” her so much doesn’t mean she has to “love” him or be his girlfriend. In the end I was grateful to be able to talk to her about these ideas and plant them in her head so hopefully they’ll be familiar when she’s a teenager and it REALLY starts to matter. I am still a tiny bit annoyed that he put all these ideas in her head, but it really did stay innocent in her mind and not really mean anything more than that they were best friends and loved playing together. Now she’s in second grade and still has these ideas (she somehow has three boyfriends now and two other “crushes”) but I ask her what it means to be boyfriend and girlfriend and she tells me it means that they will go on dates in middle school. (Her explanation of dates luckily still just sounds like a play date.) I feel like it’s going to be a rough journey raising a girl (or boy for sure) but am hopeful that by not trying to correct her or make her feel like I’m telling her what to do, the open conversations can continue and will be helpful as we get into harder subjects. whew sorry about the novel, I just really struggled at times with what we went through that year and think it’s turned out ok so far, so I thought it might be helpful to hear!

They don't really say they are "in love" but there is a ton of talk about marriage in my 5 year old daughter's kindergarten class and her 7 year old sister's second grade class. I tend to just roll with it. The party line in this house is that when they're older they can marry whomever they like as long as that person is (a) a nice person (b) also wants to marry them (consent, haha), and (c) isn't already in our family. I try to make them aware that regardless of what they think now, they might change their minds by the time they are old enough to get married (or by next week, haha). I explained to the kindergartener today that I didn't even know their daddy until after we both finished college - her little mind was blown!

As someone else said, it's hard for us to see it from the same naiive perspective that the kids do - I think they're just playing at imagining adult life, because at least in my daughter's classes, none of the kids talking about marriage/boyfriends/girlfriends has any interest in true romance. My oldest bounces back and forth between telling me she's marrying a particular boy and that she and her bff are going to live together and help raise each others' kids and have a dog shelter.