I know I shouldn't gripe since it means that someone else is doing my dishes instead of me - a real help considering I'm usually busy chasing my one year old DS and I'm 36 weeks pregnant with sinus congestion - but do you ever hate the way someone else does dishes?

My MIL - and sometimes my mom - will come over and lend a helping hand around the house. Since I learned doing dishes from my mother, I have absolutely no problem with the way she does dishes. She starts with the glasses, moves on to the plastics so there's no extra residue from food on the plastic. Then plates. If necessary, she drains the water and starts with all new water and soap and then continues. She does this until all the dishes are clean. I like it that way, I feel like all the stuff we don't want on our dishes goes down the drain.

My MIL, however, does things a little different. She scours the sink, then gets the water and suds going. She starts with the glasses, moves on to the plastics, then everything else. Only she doesn't drain the water. She'll drain the water a little, add some hot water to the top of the already dirty water, and then add more soap. It drives me -crazy- and no matter how many times I ask her, she does it every single time. I think it's beyond gross and I usually rewash the dishes after she's gone because I can't stand the thought of all the grease and residue from dirty dishes on my nice clean dishes.

And I know she's trying to help but after she gets done, she starts to put the dishes away - in the wrong place. Every time I go into my kitchen after she's left, I spend just as long re-doing the dishes and rearranging them as she spent doing them originally. It drives me crazy but she loves doing it, to the point that I literally have to tell her whenever she comes over -NOT- to do the dishes!

So how do you do dishes? Am I overreacting or do you think the way she does it is unsanitary too?