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@lady baltimore: I also work in a school and really wanted a June baby, to get the max time off....but that didn't happen and now I'm having an August baby. I'll get less time for maternity leave, but I've basically made my peace with that now.

If you have a March baby, won't that basically take you till the end of they year and then you have the summer off, too!?

Instead of focusing on some times being "worse" for getting time off, I focus on how much better some times are than others.

I'm not focused on there being an ideal time, but I know that NOW would be the best time (because we get a lot of leave around the holidays). So it's not like we don't give it our all throughout the year, but I do feel more pressure in late winter/early spring because it would be more ideal.

In the beginning we were even trying to plan our baby's astrology sign. LOL!

It didn't take too many months of bfns for me to realize how insane that was. I let go pretty quickly, though when we got fed up of ttc after 8 months it made it easier to stop trying during the months which would have given us a winter baby, which I had originally hoped to avoid.

I used to do that and I would get so excited each month for one reason or another. I don't know why but it kind of kept me optimistic. I don't want to do that next time because I want to be more relaxed about it in general but I know its hard to resist!

DH and I left perfect timing in the way behind. I work asin a school as well so a May/June baby would be best. Originally we planned to TTC to fit this plan. Then we bought a house and moved it back. Where going to wait till May but decided to go for it in Jan. Babies happen when they want to happen not always as planned.

Yah, been there for sure. I would not have picked january and now I have two babies born then. But with if and loss I was lucky to get babies at all and now I think january was great. I used to think about the pros every month and then the cons if I saw a bfn to be a silver lining (like well, it would have been xxx anyway ...)

Perfect timing has always been an issue for us as well, or shall I say imperfect timing. DH is a tax accountant, and is barely home during the end of February, all of March and the first half of April. As of now, if I'm ku (I'm 9dpo and thinking of testing tomorrow) we'd be due in December, apparently right around Christmas time. If not, next cycle we'd probably be due around the end of January.. And that's where the trouble lies. I don't want him to miss the first few months, but at the same time we don't really want to stop TTC. As of now, if I'm not ku I think we'll try for one more cycle then stop until late summer to avoid a due date during next tax season. But it's a tough decision, and we'll see how we feel in a month or so.

The only part of the year I want to avoid is a Thanksgiving through New Year's baby.

I have thrown timing totally out the window. We have been trying for over a year for baby #2 and I will be happy any month of the year.

This is me too! Tried so I would be "not huge" for a wedding that I am in. I would have been happy to be early PP or under 7months along. Now I'll be happy to be KU at all! I still can't stop planning though. I know the due dates for my next 5 periods at all time and what it coincides with regarding events. I try to stop, but I can't.