DS turns 3 next week. He has gone to an in home daycare since 4 months. On Monday he started at his big sister’s preschool. He is familiar with it from pick ups and seemed genuinely excited.
Now that he’s started he is begging to go back to his old school and crying a lot according to DD and one teacher. The other teachers say it isn’t bad but I think they are sugar coating it. I know the one teacher is brutally honest. Morning goodbyes are getting tougher each day. Today he tearfully repeated the whole way to school that he wanted to go to his old school. Then he refused to get out of the car and balled when I dropped him off.
DD is helping with her brother the best she can. They are together in the morning and afternoon when the group is smaller.
Any tips besides just to give it time? I know he must be missing DCP since she was like family but I don’t think we should go visit her yet. Maybe DD was just so easy by comparison and this is just worse by comparison (although I get the sense he’s on the crying/clingy side from the teachers).
He is happy at pick up, napping, eating, and using the potty for the most part so it’s not all bad.
pomegranate / 3355 posts
Do the teachers interact with DS as soon as you get there to try to distract him?
My DD had some tearful drop offs and it was bc the new teacher didn't really engage her right away. She'd say "hi AJ" but that was about it... the old teacher always talked to DD, asking her about her night or her outfit or something and it really helped DD transition. After a week of tearful drops I spoke to the director to specifically confirm nothing had occurred that I didn't know about to bring about this change and to note DD's struggle. The next week the new teacher started taking more of an interest in DD at drop off and talking to her and it really helped!!
It's been almost a year and DD will still occasionally ask to go back to her in home provider . Granted she still sees her daily bc we pick up DS after I get DD and she was like family. DD will sometimes say at night that she wants to go to in home instead of preschool and we just explain she doesn't go there anymore. She does get to go when preschool is closed so those are extra special days!
pomegranate / 3438 posts
I agree with @Ajsmommy, try to get the teacher to engage as soon as she sees him.
Our daycare closed (very small center, only 2 classrooms) so we moved DS to a larger center when he was 3.5 (and newly potty trained). The first couple of weeks were tough but the teacher we had was fantastic. As soon as she saw us come in she stopped what she was doing to come over and talk to us. Then she would take DS by the hand (or sometimes pried him from my arms) to either go play, do an activity or eat. He still cried the first couple of weeks but once he got used to the routine it was much better.