-
@Raindrop: Thanks for the link and summary!
@MaryM: That picture is awesome!
@dc yoga bee: Every month I say I want to start accupuncture. But I stress about how to fit it into my schedule... I'm being counterproductive about it and I haven't even started! The lady I want to use isn't a medical doctor so she isn't covered by the insurance. But she's recommended by a fertility clinic so I'd cringe and pay out of pocket to use her if and when I do.
-
@dc yoga bee: My obgyn wouldn't talk to me until twelve months in. I really wanted blood work so I went to my general doctor and she ordered fertility blood work. But as an aside, my obgyn ordered bloodwork as part of the preconception appointment I asked for. So try requesting that specific appointment or seeing your gp. Good luck!
-
@MrsMcD: We moved here recently, and don't have a doctor period. I should probably look for a gp as well as a lady bits doctor. But as you said, time is precious!
-
@MrsMcD: That sucks that your OB won't do anything till 12 months. I had friends that suspected they might have issues because of wonky periods and such... that were able to get treated earlier. I agree time is precious!
-
@Raindrop: Well... my ob would, but my insurance wouldn't. One of the bummers about HMO insurance.
-
@MaryM: that is hilarious!
@MrsMcD: sorry your insurance is making you wait till 12 months!
@dc yoga bee: it never hurts to ask if they'll see you/do tests before 12 months! I started testing at 6 months- I just asked at my annual exam if I could get blood work to check my progesterone levels since I have a short luteal phase.
-
@charmed: Lucky me, my 12 months is up! Woo hoo! (Saddest woo hoo ever).
But seriously, I've managed to have blood work done twice plus a pelvic ultrasound all in the name of fertility. So HMO be damned!
-
@charmed: I have a short lp (I think)! It's 10-11 days
-
@MrsMcD: at least you'll get some answers soon! But hopefully this is your month and you won't need any more testing!
@dc yoga bee: my lp was just getting shorter each month - was 10 days, then 8, then 6
Because of it, my doc wanted me to start clomid, but I was going to be out of town the week I'd need to be monitored. So we did progesterone instead, then if this month is a bust I'll start clomid.
So definitely mention the short LP to your doctor! -
On the topic of acupuncture- DH found a place that does acupuncture in a group setting (big room with 10 recliners) and you pay $15-40, whatever you can afford, no sliding scale. You might try looking online. I had a migraine shortly after acupuncture twice (making me miserable and not able to function) so I stopped doing it. DH talked to a different acupuncturist who thinks I just need fewer needles, but I am very hesitant.
-
I just got off the nurse chat line. She said I'm in my peak fertility, and the number one thing stopping me from getting pregnant is stress!
-
@dc yoga bee: such helpful advice! /sarcasm
@MrsMcD: I just have crap timing. I Od earlier than expected, so we only BD O, O+1, and O+2. And the O doesn't even count because we hadn't had sex in at least a week before that, so it wasn't "fresh".
Good luck with the SA! When do you get the results?
We have a lot of us right in the same time frame! Hopefully that's a good sign!
-
@dc yoga bee: Are you still thinking about moving to FL? I went to my OB before 6 months because I had a very short cycle. I think if there is a **problem they will order bloodwork earlier.
-
@dc yoga bee: That is not helpful... telling you not to stress is more stressful.
-
@AmeliaBedilia: I don't blame you for being hesitant to try acupuncture again! Migraines are no fun
@dc yoga bee: ugh, that is not helpful at all!
@crystal: even with less than perfect timing, you still have a chance
-
I think all of our medical charts should have a list of "do not say" phrases in them:
It's just stress
You haven't been trying very long
Have you thought about relaxing?
Take a deep breathI think we should be able to stab any medical professional who says those things. Not that I have violent tendencies or anything.
What else should go on the list?
-
@dc yoga bee: When I got established with my OB/GYN, I went in for a preconception visit. She asked me about my cycle history, and immediately ordered blood work and a pelvic ultrasound, even though we were only about 5 months off BC at that point. I think once you find a Dr you want to establish with, go in armed with all of your cycle info, and ask for tests! It can't hurt.
-
Today is 16DPO. Still no AF. Temp little higher today than yesterday. Last took progesterone Sunday night. I have had very mild nausea. BFN on 12DPO and at night on 13DPO. I am traveling for work. I brought some wondfos, but I don't want to test without DH. I resigned myself with the second BFN that this wasn't the month, but the longer this goes, the more hopeful I get. I used tazorac at 13DPO since I had the BFN. Now I am a little worried. Agh!
-
@AmeliaBedilia: Oh man, fingers crossed!!
-
Just watched the TED talk - loved it! Here's my favorite quote:
So, when you reach out to others under stress, either to seek support, or to help someone else, you release more of this hormone (oxytocin), your stress response becomes healthier, and you actually recover faster from stress.
Isn't that so appropriate to this group?!? We are all helping each other out and seeking help in dealing with stress, which is good for our health. Go us!
-
@dc yoga bee: Have you found a doctor you liked?
@AmeliaBedilia: FX!!!
I completely forgot to temp this morning- Oops. I'm 7DPO, but I honestly don't think we did it this month. Then again, I have had great timing most other months and nothing happened, so maybe crappy timing will be the ticket.
-
@Crystal: I totally agree with you on timing. It's a crapshoot! One physician/midwife group can see me next week, and are at a really good hospital but were really rude and he practice has below average reviews. The other midwife,group with amazing reviews can't see me until June 13th, and are 10mi away in the city. I don't know which to go to!
-
@MrsMcD: I've just lost all hope at this point that this is going to happen naturally. I feel like it would have already. It's been 16 months, after all. That's why I'm not hopeful.
Oh, and I agree with you about the stress factor. I don't buy that stress = no pregnancy. I mean, if you're so stressed it's borderline anxiety, then yes, I can see how that could inhibit getting KU. So, I try to not get stressed about not getting stressed!! @mrs. tictactoe: Ha, I love your "crazy." I often think that way in terms of due dates, too!
@bhbee: Ya know, this is the first time it's occurred to me that the cup size is to help with the catch!! I always wondered if any man has been able to fill the whole thing...just, ew.
@dc yoga bee: Um, I agree w/ @Crystal. What "helpful" advice. NOT. Medical professionals should be banned from saying things like that.
@AmeliaBedilia: Eeek!! When would you potentially test? Would you wait it out until tomorrow? When do you get home from your trip? So hopeful for you!
I'm 9dpo. AF should be here Saturday.
-
My two cents on acupuncture... I liked it, I found it relaxing. But I also wonder if it F'ed up my last cycle... I almost always O around CD20ish with 31-32 day cycles. Last cycle I Oed early, I guessed around CD18 and had a 27 day cycle. I was stressed more than usual, but that's suppose to delay O, not move it up... So now I wonder if it did more harm than good?
-
@LindsayInNY: That's my fear too. I think I'm going to wait until my annual visit either next week or June depending,on which group o go with!
-
@dc yoga bee: I would definitely go with the place I found to be nicer or more supportive, even if it was a longer drive.
I switched to an OBGYN that is 30 mins away, at a hospital 40 mins away bevause I liked that dr so much better than my previous one.
@LindsayInNY: that significantly shortened your LP!!! Are you going to try it again?
-
@littlek: I'm sorry, I just now saw this! I'll find out if I got an interview in a couple weeks, but my supervisor just offered me some supervisor responsibilities here, and I've been here 1yr 4months. I'm progressing really really fast and maybe I should stay put !?!
-
@Crystal: I think crap timing still keeps you in the game. No one can be sure of when ovulation occurs. So just try to put that out of your mind.
@HeartAbandoned: I don't think anyone should say "Just try not to think about it." Ugh... which is what I sort of told @Crystal: above! I need to take my own advice!
@AmeliaBedilia: No AF is a great sign! And I don't think you need to worry about the one time you used tazorac. I don't think there are any studies that evidence any harm to a fetus. But stay off it now, lady!!!
@mrs. tictactoe: I have also found this group to be helpful in lowering my stress. I like talking with you ladies!!
@dc yoga bee: I'd go see the doctor that's 10 miles away. Would it be a huge hassle for you to get to that office? If not, I'd feel more comfortable with a nicer office staff.
-
@LindsayInNY: it's my understanding that the earlier you O the better, within reason. I've read that eggs are better in the vicinity of cd12-cd18 so I'm not sure you should write off an early o as a bad thing. See what your RE says though of course.
-
@doxielove: @AmeliaBedilia: FX!
@dc yoga bee: I agree with others.
I would totally go to a nicer practice.
-
@MrsMCD "10 miles" but driving into downtown DC or taking the metro (don't plan on taking the metro if in labor)! The mean people are kinda across the street. I can see it from my bedroom window. I've also heard The midwife group in dc are kind of militant with the diet, but have really really good reviews. I think I'll give them a try because I'm trying to get pregnant and am looking for any help they may be able to provide.I can always reevaluate if I ever get pregnant.
-
@dc yoga bee: How close are you to GW? My friend went to a OB that practiced at GW but she ended up having her baby at Fairfax. Personally, I would not drive into DC for a doctor. But that's because (1) I live far from DC (2) I can not parallel park to save my life and (3) I hate parking garages, I think I will get into an accident.
-
@dc yoga bee: I ended up choosing an OB that delivered at Fairfax because IMO it's the best hospital in the area. The NICU is the best in the area as well. Again, these are my opinions. My brother is a nurse and he's worked at all the hospitals in the area including the NICU and hands down he said Fairfax was the best. I also really like their womens center.
-
@littlek: LOL! I'm in Alexandria. Parallel parking is fine, and I park at a garage daily in my building. For me, it is the chaos of driving into dc period. Everyone keeps talking about Fairfax. Are you talking about Inova? Inova Alexandria were rude as hell. They refused to tell me if they accepted bcbs federal. Just come in. Um, no my time is precious. Cutting into my hellobee time lol. Do you have someone you can recommend? I have 26-28 day cycles but am concerned about the 10 day lp. I want to be taken seriously too, and I worry they may be like try again for 6 months before talking to me
-
@dc yoga bee: INOVA Fairfax. There are a ton of INOVA hospitals in the area. The INOVA closest to me is INOVA Loudoun, but I commute to my OB so I can deliver at Fairfax. I don't know any MW recomendations because I'm high risk for a ton of reasons: heart condition, preterm labor, etc. I love my OB though and he's super responsive. If you choose to go the OB route, I can give you his info. I'd suggest checking out @septca's MW group as well. It sounds like a very good practice. The only issue would be convenience of getting into DC.
-
@littlek: I prefer an OB. Yeah, the DC one is @ septca group. Close to office, not as close home.
-
@dc yoga bee: Dropping in again.
I went to Physicians and Midwives Collaborative off Seminary Rd. for a while and I HATED it. I'm not sure if I just had a difficult doctor, but she was not what I imagined from a midwife practice.
Later I found out a coworker had used the same doctor, and she confirmed it was not just me.
I'm now using a Catholic practice in Fairfax that delivers in Fair Oaks. I'm not sure if you'd be into that, but if you are I can give you more details.
They don't prescribe BC so they're not for everyone. But they've been super on top of helping me have more regular cycles. Even before DH and I were TTC they did blood work to figure out I had a progesterone issue and were able to get my cycles back in check. The doctor said if I wasn't pregnant in 6 months, we'd discuss using clomid.
-
@MaryM: OMG Physicians and Midwives group were the mean people with bad reviews!!! And they deliver at Inova Alexandria who were also rude! Cancelling that apt!
-
@dc yoga bee: I just went you a long message re: the MWs. I didn't add this, but if I were you I would look into an OB at GW. The OB practice - because of the MW influence - is extremely natural birth friendly, but without the the requirements of the MWs. Given your family history, a really "liberal" OB might be a better bet. If you are interested in that route, there are a couple of specific doctors I would recommend.
-
@dc yoga bee: I only saw one doctor, so I'm not sure if I can accurately rate them...but I'm seriously not sure why on earth I saw her for several years (I guess cause it was just one appointment a year??)
I'm kind of bitter because I went in complaining about horrible AF (bad cramps, migraines, etc)
They put me on BCPs with no breaks so I wouldn't get my period. Easy solution huh?
Years later when I went off BCP (after being on them for 10+ years) a doctor finally looked at WHY my AF was so odd and my new doctor discovered PCOS and treated it. I'm kind of angry it wasn't looked into earlier. I had SO many signs other than wonky periods...
But seriously, I've managed to have blood work done twice plus a pelvic ultrasound all in the name of fertility. So HMO be damned!
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
1568 comments