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Sorry for your loss.

That's exactly what happened with my first miscarriage. 11 week appt, baby measured 9 weeks. We opted to d&c (with OB's suggestion) because of the sizing. *hugs*

I'm so sorry for your sad news. These decisions are never easy.

I've had 2 miscarriages. With my first, there was no heartbeat @6.5 weeks and I chose a D&C because the thought of randomly miscarrying was too much to deal with (especially if I was at work).

The second one was this past June and I was should have been 10 weeks, but baby died @8.5 weeks. My Dr. Recommended taking misoprostol. I did, it turned out I had an incomplete miscarriage and after a very emotional 2.5 weeks, ended up having a D&C after all.

Take some time, there is no bad decision. Sending you healing thoughts and love.

@HLK208: first, I am so sorry for your loss!

Second, I had a similar situation--went in for 12 wk appt and no HB, stopped growing around 9 weeks by measurement. I opted for a d&c and was glad I did. My doc had some concerns about waiting since it had not happened naturally yet. It sucked but it was nice to have some control over when it happened rather than worrying about a natural miscarriage while taking care of the kids. Please wall me if you want to chat more.

I'm so sorry

I am so so sorry sweet friend

@HLK208: So sorry for your loss. It's incredibly heartbreaking whenever it happens. It's not your fault.

I've had two MC. The first was natural, around 5.5 weeks. The second I lost twins at 9 weeks. They recommended the D&C for worry of blood loss. I think it depends on the type of person you are. I know I wanted it over with and not to drag on. The procedure was straightforward, general anesthesia, day surgery and other than some normal bleeding after I was up and around physically within a day or two. Emotionally took longer. Let yourself grieve in whatever way you have to.

My OB then started me on baby aspirin and progesterone just in case, as they tested but couldn't get results. I was told to wait one natural period after the surgery and we could start trying again.

@HLK208: there was nothing you did wrong. Of that I am certain. Sometimes these things just happen, and it's so crappy when it happens to someone as lovely as you. You'll be in my prayers tonight!

Oh I am so so sorry for your loss.

I think with three kids at home, getting it over with with the d & c will be better. I had a miscarriage at 10.5 weeks (that's when I took the misoprostol) but the baby only measured 6 weeks, so there wasn't too much to pass...
DH did have to take a couple days off to watch ds because I was bleeding and needed to just lie down.

Again, I am so sorry.

At that point, I'd go for d&c. I've heard natural can be really painful and I think seeing the tissue would be upsetting. So sorry for your loss

So very, very sad to read your update tonight. With my MMC, I had a D&C--the fetus died at 6.5w and they caught it at 8.5w, and like yours, my body was nowhere near recognizing it. I was devastated, but I also felt grateful to be in good hands at the hospital and know that it was completely over.

If your doctor can't schedule you until next week, it's also possible that the process could begin naturally before then. Hope you can be gentle with yourself. 1000% it is *not* anything you did or didn't do.

Oh no!! I am so so so sorry. Ahh, my heart breaks for you and your family. So much love your way

I'm so so sorry for your loss

@HLK208: oh honey, I am so so sorry. Especially with the other kids, I think the predictability of a D&C sounds good.

Poor B

Shit. Honey, I'm so very sorry I was so looking forward to this baby. Big hugs to B, that is heartbreaking. Sending your family lots of good thoughts.

I am so sorry. I had a D&C about two weeks ago because I was terrified of it happening naturally. It was an easy recovery physically for me as well as mentally. I will be thinking about you and your family. ️️️

So, so sorry to hear and please know that it was nothing you did! My ob encouraged me to chose a d&c because of sizing (lost mine at 9 weeks). I am glad I did - it was easy and I really hated the thought of having to carry a non viable pregnancy for an unknown period of time. Here's hoping your rainbow baby comes soon

I m so sorry for your sad news I had a MMC at 8w, baby had gone at 6.5w. I mulled it over the weekend through lots of tears and decided to go with d&c and it was best decision for me - no pain & seamless recovery. I know it's not the case for everyone, but I did hear that it can be quite painful to pass naturally even at 8w, so I did not want to deal with that as well as being so upset. I felt so much better after the procedure. Emotionally I was drained for many months though I wish you lots of recovery and good thoughts - it's such a crappy time
PS: I too kept asking 'are you sure?' - was hoping it was a bad dream.

I'm so sorry for your loss.