grapefruit / 4997 posts
@HLK208: Thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for healing.
pomegranate / 3331 posts
@HLK208: I believe the worst is over now, and the healing can begin slowly. Sending you so much love
pear / 1593 posts
And don't feel like an idiot, I was crying so badly in the pre-op room before my D&C that they shot some sort of drug up my IV "to help me relax" that instant put me into a woo woo state.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
pear / 1852 posts
@HLK208: I"m so sorry for your loss.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Thinking of you!!!!!!!!!
nectarine / 2591 posts
@HLK208: When I woke up and realised where I was I cried too.
pineapple / 12234 posts
@runnerd: @AprilFool: gosh I'm so sorry you guys went through that too. It was a really awful, empty feeling...but reading/hearing about other's experiences makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing.
And thank you everyone for the thoughts, prayers and personal stories. I've been alone today and reading over them has been comforting.
grapefruit / 4903 posts
I've been thinking of you today and following your updates. Prayers for you and your family!
pomelo / 5257 posts
thinking of you
pomelo / 5820 posts
@HLK208: I am so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts.
persimmon / 1045 posts
@HLK208: I'm thinking of you & yourfamily too. Hope recovery goes smoothly. Just know that the hollow feeling will start to ease with time...but in the meantime allow yourself to feel your feelings
pomegranate / 3580 posts
Thinking of you and hoping you are recovering well and getting some rest
pomegranate / 3533 posts
Just wanted to express my heartfelt sympathy. I too broke down in tears in pre-op for my 2nd D+C (blighted ovum. after IVF: the first was for a missed m/c at 11weeks) when the well-meaning nurse began to pry into whether it had been a planned pregnancy and offered reassuring platitudes). Wishing you fast healing, physically, and all the time and grace you need to process your loss..
@FliegepilzHut: gosh. You would think medical professionals would know what to say...the anesthesiologist asked if I was excited in the operating room. Uh?? No? Not in the slightest.
eggplant / 11408 posts
@HLK208: I've been thinking about you all weekend. Coping with miscarriage (x2) is one of the hardest things I've ever done. Know that you are not alone, and that it is OK to feel however you feel. Some people bounce back relatively quickly, others don't. It is completely OK, whatever healing means for you. It took me a very long time to feel like my heart wasn't in a zillion pieces, and I was nowhere near as far along as you.
Be gentle with yourself, ask for help if you need, and snuggle your other three precious babies tight.
@HLK208: also: to that anestestiologist, GAH!!! If I were you, I might consider writing a letter to either the hospital or his practice expressing how INAPPROPRIATE that is. It makes me want to punch him.
pomegranate / 3212 posts
Thinking of you and prayers for a quick recovery
cantaloupe / 6059 posts
@HLK208: You've got to be kidding me. That is so inappropriate. There are no words. I second @LovelyPlum: 's suggestion.
@LovelyPlum: thank you - I keep going from being okay to a total mess. B and E have been gone all weekend but I'm going to cuddle them as soon as they get home. I won't let them go and N has been home but she's mad that I won't play with her as much as I usually do...
And I definitely think I'll write a letter. I don't know if it will help? But it was a really rude, weird question.
nectarine / 2115 posts
@HLK208: he HAD to have been misinformed about what you were in for... Surely! But I am so sorry. Miscarriage is really difficult, and the grieving so complicated! Hope you find the support you need here (and elsewhere).
coconut / 8861 posts
Hugs, I'm so sorry for your loss.
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
@HLK208: This is a really awkward thought, but I wonder if he thought it was elective? ie not a miscarriage? If that's even legal where you are? I can't think of any other reason someone would look forward to that
Sending you huge huge hugs
apple seed / 2 posts
How long did you wait to try after you mistoprostal? I just used it and had two D&Cs for one miscarriage at 10.5 weeks. Thanks!
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