So I need to vent. My MIL is staying with us to help out and spend time with our baby, her first grandchild. It has been a challenging visit fir many reasons. The least of which I started to notice that she hadn't changed a single diaper. In fact, she was holding DS when he pooped (she even mentioned 'Alex make poops') and despite him crying and fussing made no attempt to change his diaper. Ok fine. So he spent the next 20-30 minutes crying and she didn't understand why. I told her there are generally three reasons newborns cry - they are hungry, need their diaper changed or are uncomfortable/bored.

Folks it took all I had not to take him out of her arms , but I am trying my best not to be controlling and let her figure out her way. But then she continued to do the same things with DS and I had to listen to him scream. Finally when she didn't understand why he hadn't calmed down, I said I would take him since he most likely pooped (which he had).

So I said something to my hubs thinking that maybe she didn't know how to change disposable diapers (she's Polish and used cloth diapers) but turns out that she is scared. DS is a month old and she is afraid she's going to hurt him. What?!?! How did you raise your own children?

I've just about hit my breaking point with her. She is afraid to change his diaper, afraid to bounce him on an exercise ball which is the best way to soothe him, afraid of the dark, afraid to drive...the list goes on! and so not only do I have to listen to him cry because she can't soothe him we also have to listen to all of her anxieties and craziness. I think what is even more frustrating for me is that she is ok with DS being uncomfortable instead of asking for help. It's very telling though that even my hubs said he wouldn't leave her home alone with our son.

Please tell me I am not alone in this?