I am Chinese and the DH is German/Polish so the LO is mixed. People love to debate if she looks more Caucasian or Asian, especially our families. I think each side secretly wants her to look more like them. My LO has always looked more Asian so my family is happy. 
DH's side will say things like "Oh, hopefully she'll look a little bit like us one day". No one says it in a mean way -- I don't think. If your LO is mixed, what type of discussions do people have surrounding his/her looks?
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my kids won't be biracial, but it's my theory that the first lo looks more asian and the 2nd looks more caucasian. see if you can prove my theory, k? lol.
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@tequiero21: yes ma'am, will do.
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OMG, I'm Korean and hubs is Chinese and both sets of grandparents agree that LO looks more Korean. I'm not sure I even know what that means but whatevs! However, LO is a splitting image of my hubs and so my in-laws are secretly thrilled about that.
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@Rubies: haha. Can I say that I think she looks more Korean, too?
But that is kind of weird if you say she is the splitting image of the hubs and yet she looks more Korean? So like if your DH were Korean ... that would be baby Rubies?
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I've always been curious about this. I'm korean and dh is half polish half German... He looks mixed himself!! A lot of my krn friends thought he was half... So my assumption is that our bb will def look more asian... Mil loves it tho, she says Asian babies are beautiful (so sweet)
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@mrsjyw: yeah, your DH does look a little bit mixed!! that is so sweet about your MIL. oh yes, i think my MIL has made one slightly negative comment. she said my LO looks "so different from everyone else".
not a huge deal though ...
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@Andrea: Yeah, totally. LO has hubs' face. I saw a baby picture of hubs and I could easily believe I was looking at a photo of LO.
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@Andrea: @mrsjyw:
Chinese here with a German/Irish husband!Damn, we Asian chicks like the Germans!
Our LO will be here soon so I will let you know!
My friend who's Taiwanese and her husband Irish, their baby I think def looks more Asian.
Do you girls read Jaden Hair (Steamy Kitchen) blog? Her husband is also German and their kids are perfectly mixed imo. You can see the Asian and Caucasian in them
Regardless I think all mixed babies are beautiful! It's like impossible to get a ugly baby when two races mix! haha.
We had a really funny extended family discussion over Christmas eve dinner about what features our baby will get. I hope she gets my husband's eyes!!
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I have a lot of nieces and nephews (via cousins, not brothers/sisters) that are half Korean, half Caucasian and they're a total mixed bag. One set of siblings (1 boy, 1 girl) looks totally caucasian with their coloring and everything EXCEPT they have lovely asian almond-shaped eyes. Another set of siblings (4 boys!) is a TOTAL mixed bag, but most of them look like a pretty even mix. Some of them have light brown hair and some have jet black (their dad is blonde hair, blue eyed Greek) but they all have dark eyes and dark complexion like their mom.
ALL of them are GORGEOUS.
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OK now THIS will throw your theories!
My sister is Caucasian (blonde hair, blue eyes, fair skin). Her husband is Chinese (not mixed). Her first baby girl has dark hair, dark eyes, olive skin....but she actually looks a little like her auntie (me!). She looks more Caucasian than Asian (shes almost 3.5 years old). Her second baby girl has strawberry blonde hair, bright blue eyes, super fair skin.....but looks exactly like dad! She looks more Asian than Caucasian (shes 18 months). They are both gorgeous. Her #3 is on the way (a boy) and we are just dying to see how their genes play out this time!
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@regberadaisy: haha...what are the chances, another asian/german combo!
aww, Jaden's kids are really a mix! it will be interesting to see how our LO's look once they are grown, since that is what really counts.
i knew two chinese/german girls growing up and one looked really chinese and the other looked like more of a mix.
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We're not mixed. Both Easern European, pale skin and dark hair, so LO looks like both of us.
But this reminds me of John and Kate plus eight when the kids would argue about who is more Asian. They are all so cute! I have a friend who's mom is caucasian and the dad is Vietnamese. She looks like such a good mixture of her parents, and she's the most beautiful little girl I've ever seen. I won't lie, I was scared I would think she's prettier than my LO! But of course LO is always going to be the winner in my book.
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@winniebee:
That is SO awesome!!!
Genetics is so funny, there's just no telling what genes your children will get. Sometimes they get the recessive genes! -
so related but unrelated.
Does anyone else have a "slight" concern that if their LO looks most like either race when you're out people will think she is not your or your husband's kids?
I have a slight fear sometimes that if she looked way more asian or way more caucasian that people will tease her that we're not her parents. -
@winniebee: whoa, confusing!! you'll have to let us know how the boy turns out!!
it would be so cool to have a LO with blue eyes. DH doesn't have blue eyes but his mom has the most beautiful blue eyes. she has been a little sad that her eye color has not been passed down to any of children or grandchildren, yet!
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@regberadaisy: one of the blogger bees posted about this... It's never crossed my mind because I assume they'll look more like me... I'm sure dh hasn't thought about it yet either though.
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@Andrea:
My husband's eyes are blue/green/gray depending on his mood. I so want her to have green eyes! hahaha. But brown eyes are the most dominant gene so she'll likely have brown eyes. -
@regberadaisy: the teasing hasn't happen yet...since the LO is still young. but there are SO many asian women/caucasian men couples around here, that hopefully it won't be an issue once the LO is in school because there will be other kids with that combo at least.
but people do ask DH if the LO is his daughter! he says that asian people are very nice to him since he has an asian daughter. bonus?? haha.
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@regberadaisy: green eyes would be amazing! so fun to guess what LOs will look like (no matter what race).
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My brother is Caucasian with brown hair and brown eyes. His wife is half Chinese, half Caucasian (not sure of her roots there). She got her Dad's (the Chinese side) looks with dark brown eyes and dark brown hair. My nephew is 4 months old now and my Mom and I swear he looks like no one in our family. The boy still has blue eyes and is growing some dark hair. He has slightly almond shaped eyes, but they are wider than my SIL's. He has the most beautiful little bow lips and button nose. I can't wait to see what he looks like when he grows up but right now he looks like a good mix of the two of them.
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@Andrea:
hahah that's hilarious that people are nicer to him that he has a Asian daughter. We live Upstate NY so there's not a TON of mixed kids. Yesterday we went to the Asian mart and it's the first time it's warm enough where my bump was exposed. The staff was literally staring at me for a good while. Then their eyes would travel to my husband and back to me. It was kinda funny! hahha
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@regberadaisy: oh Asians and their obvious stares... How cheeky we are, no? Lol
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@regberadaisy: yes, i think asian people stare the most!
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Gotta love us asians..
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mixed babies almost always look asian when they're born and start to look less asian as they get older. charlie and olive look more asian, but they are 3/4. i think they look like a mix of us!
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We seriously are!
I've gotten to the point where I just stare back at them hahaha.
The funniest part is when it happens in NYC....um hello...it's not like we're 1 of 10 mixed couples in your city. -
@winniebee: They sound like an awesome combination!
I had a friend growing up whose father was Japanese and whose mother was Irish. They had 2 boys. One (my friend) looked entirely Japanese. You would have no idea he was half Irish. His brother, on the other hand, looked entirely Irish. It was so strange that there was virtually no mixed traits, but they were full brothers.
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I wonder who our kids will look more like all the time! I'm 1/2 Cuban, 1/2 white, and I look like a brown version of my mom, haha. I got a lot of the German/Irish features in my mom's family (complete with freckles!) but I have dark skin and eyes and dark curly hair like my Cuban side. Even though I think I am the spitting image of my mom, people always say I look more like my dad because of my coloring.
DH is African-American, with very "afro-y" hair and dark skin. I think the fact that they will be 1/4 white and 3/4 "ethnic" means that they will look more like DH to most people who pay more attention to skin/eye/hair than actual features. He doesn't like when I say this though, and always says they could turn out to look more like my family than his!
@regberadaisy: I worry that my kids will not look like me and people will think they are not biologically my children and ask prying questions. I also irrationally worry that if they like look more like DH's family that they will identify with that side of their family more, which is dumb because that wasn't the case for me or my brother.
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@Mrs. Bee: Totally true in our case. Baby Y started out looking pretty much exactly like his dad, but now everyone says he's starting to look like me (I am English/Welsh/German). His hair has gotten much lighter; it's pretty much my shade now (medium brown with reddish highlights) and his eyes have rounded out, too, though they still have a beautiful almond shape and you can definitely see the Asian depending on his mood. He also has my cheeks/mouth, but is definitely rocking his dad's nose. And his skin tone is the same as his dad's.
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@winniebee: Now I want to see pics of your sister's kids!
There was great debate in the hospital as to who Jack Jack looks like. The AA side was swearing that her nose was theirs, while the asian side swore it was theirs. Personally, I think she looks a lot like her birth momma! Still, the nice thing is that because of my dark hair/eyes and olive skin, most people thinks she's my baby at this point and I don't correct them unless the adoption conversation comes up.
I am, however, enjoying hearing how great I look for just having a baby!
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@Mrs. Jacks: Hahahaha to the how great you look comment! That is awesome! I hope you smile and say, "Why, thank you. Some of us are just blessed."
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@daniellemybelle: I just say thank you and smile!
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Haha! Another Asian married to a German! DH is half German and a quarter Irish and something else. I can't remember. I'm Vietnamese.I'm not sure what my BIL and SIL are but my nephews all look more Asian when they are young. Since the dark hair and brown eyes are dominant. With one of my nephews, he turned more Caucasian as he got older. My other nephew is still young.
I know it's a very rare but I wish one of my kids would get my DH's blue eyes.
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@bluestriped bee:
oh, this is too funny. I feel like starting a poll now to see how many asian bees on here are with German dudes! hahahP.S. You never know, it can happen! On my husband's side the blue eyes and blond hair has actually been recessive. On my husband's generation only him and his cousin had blonde hair and blue eyes. But the kids of his generation they almost all have blonde hair and blue eyes! It's like the gene skipped a generation!
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@Mrs. Jacks: our families have the same debate about our LO's nose and mouth all the time, too! DH and I both think they are all nutso.
LOL to the how great you look comment!!
@bluestriped bee: haha, another! what's going on here?
I think we may have discovered a trend!
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@winniebee: That is interesting! I'm white w/ blonde hair, blue eyes and fair skin and my hubby is full Chinese. I always assumed our kids would look more Asian b/c of the dominant genes. This gives me a little hope they will look like me as well.
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My husband is Jewish-Russian and I am cambodian chinese. Our lo definitely looks more asian but he also looks a lot like his dad.
I have a friend who has very fair skin and red hair. Her husband is Chinese. Their little guy is very chinese looking because of his eyes but he had red hair! He is soooo cute!
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Even though I am only a quarter native american with the rest being caucasian and dh is fully caucasian (blonde hair blue eyes and extremely white) lo looks like my mini me with her dark hair, dark eyes and a slight tan. It makes me wonder what this next one will look like!
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Well DH is half Asian (Taiwanese and Japanese) and half Polish. As a kiddo he looked really Asian, but now that he is older he looks more Caucasian than he used to. He still looks mixed to me though. As for the LO, I am very intruiged to see because I am black so we have no idea what she will look like. June can't come soon enough!!!
not a huge deal though ...
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