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Not sure yet, but I think you have to remember that if you're traveling or leaving kids, your age spread helps. So its not like you would have 3 kids under the age of 3.

We are going to have ages 6, 3, and 1. If we go to leave them later on it would be like 10, 7, and 5. All elementary school but a 10 year old can really help a lot with the grandparents or friend that they stay with. Same thing with traveling, the 10 year old can carry their own bags etc and help with the 5 year old.

Honestly going from two to three was easier than going from one to two.
My expectations on what I can get done are already low, I'm used to bringing loads of crap around every where I go, baby sister nurses on the go. It's not that big of an adjustment.
We're knee deep in baby so we just keep in keeping on.
I'm using the car more than I used to and relying on DH for more things but we're both just so used to it now that it's easy. We used to fight about bedtimes and meals and random stuff and now we just do.
I have a nanny for a couple afternoons now and it makes a big difference. Our house isn't a complete disaster and I can get a tiny bit if time to myself. DH and I got a kid free Starbucks run in yesterday which was so great.
We have no family support except when my parents come to visit so having kids has been hard on our marriage. It was only 20 minutes yesterday but it made a difference.
It helps that our girls have been big, healthy, and good sleepers. I don't know what I'd have done with a colicky baby.

I also felt the transition to 3 has been the easiest so far. Maybe its because my babies have systematically gotten easier (or maybe Ive gotten better!! ha!) but it does help too that my oldest is bused to school now was opposed to when I use to have to drive him. He still only goes half day for now so I think next year with him in full day and my middle in some kind of school (we havent fully finalized plans for which and where) itll be even easier for the first time in ages with just one.

I think for me though is we dont travel much and have many plans to travel without the kids yet so that stuff doesnt really factor into my own thoughts of family planning.

I do have some help, my mil comes over once a week for a few hours so I can run errands and I assume my mother is planning on retiring at some point (though its been pushed now for 2 years) and really she isnt as much help anyway in truth. We are close with my SILs and BILs and they do come by on weekends and help us when we are at dinners and take the kids for adventures sometimes so that all makes life a little more enjoyable even if its not an every day thing.

My house lives in a state of ok a bomb went off to ok so a small bomb went off. I cant even remember when I cleaned my bedroom to be honest but we are surviving

The biggest challenge I think is that we are pinned at home a lot as both girls nap still and so we cant get out as much but Ill be honest I rather they nap and I can rest (on weekends when DH is with DS) and have some time on my own too so I wouldnt change this even though I realize this limits our time for fun stuff on weekends etc I also realize these things will still be there in a few years so its not a huge deal we are missing right now.

Following and I can give feedback in a few weeks after #3 is born!

following! we are also a maybe 3 family. It is the traveling that seems so much harder with 3 than 2!