I've always wanted three, but my priorities are changing and I don't know if it can/will/is likely to happen. When did you have your third?
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I was 27 with my first, 28 for my twins and 30 for my fourth
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@Mrs. Train: nooooo! I turn 30 in a few weeks! *sob*
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: echoing your sob over here
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OMG I think you still have plenty of time! I was 33 with my first and still hope for 2 more! Will probably have to space them 2 years apart at the most. If I was younger I would prefer my babies 3-4 years apart.
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@Mrs. Train: the only bright side to this is...after my mom had her m/c, she had twins (not identical). So there is a minuscule hope...
@Mrs. Confetti:
I'm gonna cry in my birthday cake. For the record, my mom had four...me at 20, my bro at 30, and my twin siblings at 32! Keeping the dream alive!
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@Seattlemom: I think the spacing is my problem! I started looking into going back to work recently and that is making me think of delaying. You are right though, I have a totally skewed perspective because I live down south where I am 'old mom' already! But a lot of my college friends are pregnant and in their mid 30s.
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: Ha! I guess in Seattle we are old moms
I have a bunch of friend who had their firsts at 36 or 37. But of course they only plan to have one child...
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With my DDs, I was 28 and 31... I'm 34 now and due any day with #3.
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I thought I wanted 3 but my priorities are changing too. On a lark I enrolled in an entrepreneurship training class taught by a local nonprofit, and now I want to start my own business way more than a 3rd LO. I was 31 w/DD1, 34 w/DD2, and I don't know if I want to be in the thick of owning a new business and add a 3rd child in the mix, seems crazy.
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I'm from Boston and y mom and most of my friends moms were 40-43 when they had us!
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I don't have 3, but I was 38 with my first, 40 with my second and I live in a place where most people have 5 or more kids and are grandparents by my age. Doesn't bug me a bit!
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I was just about to turn 27 with my first, about to turn 29 with my second and about to turn 31 with my third.
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We are planning on two, not super close together, and had the first at 32. I don't think 30 is old at all! But I'm in boston where "old" moms are normal- the only friends I have who had kids before 28 or 29 were oopsies!
My mom had her first at 25 and last at 36- 5 kids total.
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Well I had DS when I was 21, DD when I was 22, and we're scheduled to have my IUD taken out in January to try for LO #3. If all goes according to plan I'll be 25 when they're born.
But I'm a young'n and had no control over my first two
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You're only 30?? You have a solid 10+ years to have more kids! you can def have three if you want!
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I'll be over 35 if we go for a 3rd.
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: Well, I'm almost 32, and we for sure want more kids, so I'm hoping to be done by around 35 or 36.
ETA: I had the boys at 30, and I live in Texas so I'm already an "old" mom, so I might as well be a "really old" mom and just keep going!
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I'll have #2 at 33 and am hopeful to have #3 at 35 and #4 at 37. My grandmother had kids into her forties.
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I plan on having a third in my 30's
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: @Mrs. Confetti: 30 is not old!!!!
I had my 1st about 3 weeks before by 34th birthday. My second is due in 3 weeks and I'm 35. And I hope to have my 3rd by the time I'm 38. And I've conceived easily and naturally each time. I hope I'm as lucky next time. Don't let age scare you!!!
Eta: and both my grandmothers had their last child in their 40s. I live in the south too.
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I am pregnant with #3 and will be 21 when this lo is born.
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@Mamasig: my grandmas were both menopausal at 40, and conception for my first and now what will hopefully be #2 have not been quick - hence my worrying. I mostly just worry because for 3 or 4, I will likely have to not prevent much after my second (assuming I ever get pregnant with #2)
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: 30 is not old. I had my first LO at 33. I will be having my second when I am 36. I plan on having #3 when I'm 38.
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Most people I know did not start having children until they were 30.
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: I will die of happiness if you follow in your mom's footsteps and have twins. Just saying . . .
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I was 30 when I had my 3rd last year.
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I'm 33 and due soon
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I'll be 30 when I have my 3rd in a few weeks....and then I'm thinking done-zo!
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I'm 35, have 2 right now and hope to have my 3rd when I'm 36 (shortly before 37th bday in my perfect world). I like being an "old" mom and don't necessarily feel as old as I probably sound
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@Mrs. Blue: you totally know what it is like! Around here, people have three by like, 27. Or heck, younger! My college friends are a different story, but I'm just talking about the general population/church/etc.
We were at the store and my DH ran into a girl he graduated with. She asked about LO and he was like, yes, this is my first. She was like "oh, my boys are in middle school! I'm so glad to be done with that baby stuff!" Lol, wasn't sure how to take that!
Twins, oh that would be great. Not easy, but you know....I grew up around twins so I definitely see how great that is.
@littlek: My original intention had been three by 33. LOL, so much for intentions. That is still possible for me, but my feeling is.....I just don't want to rush it! I never had the desire to do the "2 under 2" thing. I think if I ever get to 3 (and that is a big IF), it will be by 35 or 36.
@Mamasig: My husband's grandmother also had her last ones in her late 30s or possibly 40s. In very rural Georgia. The catch? She had eight kids! LOL! So she started early and ended late.
@mrsmate: This is the big game-changer for me. After having my m/c, I started to question the logic of waiting around to get pregnant, or making pregnancy a life goal. Not because it isn't valuable, but because it isn't certain to happen. I had been stalling on a lot of things thinking pregnancy would happen easily. Honestly, for me it has been really easy in spite of my m/c, I still haven't had the difficulty that other women have had. But it did make me realize, I just can't put everything on hold hoping for something to happen that I don't have control over! So I'm applying to graduate school now. If I get pregnant, I figure going to grad school will be easier than a 40 hr workweek (this will be my second masters so it is something I feel comfortable taking on, and right now I'm only working part-time). And if not, then at least I will have done something with my time that will put me closer to my post-baby goals.
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@Mrs. Confetti: I feel you about the no preventing after baby 2. I feel like I'd need to have a pretty quick turnaround....!
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I had my third a month after my 30th birthday last year!
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: I want another one and plan on waiting til next year to try. I was 28 with Drake and 31 with Juliet. I want to be done by 35 though so I might do 2 years between Juliet and the last vs 3 with Drake and Juliet. At this point I figure it cant be that much harder and Im not getting any younger either so while I mourn a little of the loss time with Juliet she wont notice as much either since she has never had my undivided attention either the way Drake did before her birth.
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I'm going to be one month shy of 27 with #2, and I'd like to have #3 before 30.
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I totally feel the same way. I live in an area that older moms are the norm though. My co-workers are had their second at 36/37/40. I don't think they are going for a third. The coworkers that have announce recently with their first are 31/35. I don't think they are going for a second.
I want to have more than two also but the journey to 2 has been harder than I thought. I had my first at 28 (shy of 29) and I'll be 31 in 2 weeks.
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I'm from Texas too and I feel like an old mama! I'll be 30 this year and have 2. If we have more it wouldn't be until I'm at least 35.
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Well, I have my first at 28 and I'm 30 now. Plan on 3. My mom was the same and had me at 29, my brother at 32 and my sister at 35. You have plenty of time!
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I had my first on my 29th birthday, my second will be born any day now (I'm 30). We want three (hubby says four if #3 is a third girl - he keeps predicting #3 will be twins!), and I'd like to be finished by around 35 I think. So I might put more space between 2 and 3, as opposed to less than 2 years like I'll have between 1 and 2. ...but I can't wait TOO long in case we DO go for #4.
I'm gonna cry in my birthday cake. For the record, my mom had four...me at 20, my bro at 30, and my twin siblings at 32! Keeping the dream alive!
I have a bunch of friend who had their firsts at 36 or 37. But of course they only plan to have one child...
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