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When the baby gets up in the middle of the night, my husband goes in to get him and check his diaper. He changes him if needed. Then I come in and nurse the baby back to sleep. It works perfectly for us because neither of us feels like the other gets out of MOTN duties

When I'm on maternity leave, they're mine. One day a week, I get to sleep in. When I go back to work, we trade off nights. Works great for us because you get a full night every other night, at least. And we each get a weekend morning to sleep in. Now that E is 2, she hardly ever wakes up and since I'm pregnant, DH does most of it. I've always been happy with how we handled it

He is a night owl so he does the first part of the night and I do the second half. As long as I can go to sleep early, it works because I like mornings. So we are kinds happy with the arrangement. It worked better with our son than this new baby. Probably because our son wakes up at 7 every day lol.

I am breastfeeding so I am up every 3 ish hours anyway to nurse so I will always do more. When we night wean he will do more for a short time.

With my first DS, I was EP'ing for the first few mos so DH would wake up and feed him bottles overnight, and I was setting my alarm for every 2-4 hours to pump. The baby slept through the night from about 4 weeks on, as soon as we stopped waking him up to feed him, so I was awake at night alone.

For the second, it didn't make sense for us both to be exhausted with another kiddo to take care of. What worked well for us was that I would wake up with the baby overnight since I was nursing but then would go back to sleep in the morning after the morning feeding (usually around 7) and DH would get up with the toddler, keep both kids up with him, then later put the baby back down for his nap, and I would wake up after his first morning nap so I usually got to sleep till 8 or 9.

When she was really little, I took almost all the night stuff since she had to nurse. It didn't make a lot of sense to us for DH to get up if I was getting up anyway, even if that meant I had to change the diaper too. We figured it made sense for one of us to be functioning close to normal. But if she was having a really bad night and it wasn't time for her to nurse, DH would go in and handle it so I could rest.

The bigger she got (therefore needing to nurse overnight less) the more he took on, though I still took the brunt. Mostly I take the majority but when I'm losing it, he takes over.

I sah and he works full time.

DH gets her, checks her and brings her in. I nurse her, then DH puts her back down. If she's up for more than 15 mins or so, I might swap with him so he isn't stuck up for an hour + MOTN for days in a row.

I would say I have done 85-90% of the MOTN duties for the last 11 months. If it is a particularly bad night, then DH will step in. He usually gets out of bed first in the morning to get DS (not that that is the same thing.) We are working on night weaning, once that happens, then I think DH will do more.

I did all feedings save for a few nights when my husband wanted to help, but we quickly realized it was just easier if I did it. Yes, it was hard-REALLY hard-but now that we don't do night feedings anymore I still do a majority of the wake-ups. My husband goes in there once in a while but it's mostly me, and that's okay. He works full time and I work only part time so I think it's fair that he has the sleep he needs for work. On weekends I make him do more .

When we had my daughter, we were both staying home but I did all the night stuff because I didn't see the point in both of us being that knackered. DH is working now and I will do all the night stuff again because he needs to be on the ball for his job. I would like a break the odd weekend to be honest but LO always wants me when she wakes up.

I am nursing so I do all MOTN wakeups. I don't see a point in waking DH up so I take care of diaper changes as well. He will get our toddler if she wakes up. This will continue even after I go to work.

I've always done all overnights. At first it just made sense, I was breastfeeding and she needed me but not him, so why make him get up. Then she stopped eating overnight but around the same time she started refusing to sleep for anyone but me. This also coincided with the 4 mo sleep regression and she was up alllll the time and I was so tired and my husband legit tried... but she would just scream and scream. And we room shared so I was awake anyways. So I just felt like it was dumb, he should just sleep and I'd get up with her. She actually will let him rock here to sleep now, finally, at almost a year-- but we are both really happy with the arrangement. I handle all overnight stuff (which is not much usually anymore) and he gets up with her in the morning so I get to sleep in an extra hour and he does all the morning crap like give her her medicine and deal with the animals. It works out best for both of us because I do better on interrupted sleep but really hate waking early. He likes sleeping a solid chunk of time and is generally up at 6 anyways so he doesn't mind handling morning duty.

ETA: since we moved her to her room there has been a few times where she has had a long string of bad nights an then he'll offer to take a night or two to let me catch up. So I guess I haven't actually handled ALL overnights. Just the vast majority.

In the beginning he would change diapers and I would nurse, but then I just started doing all MOTN wakings because it was a quick nurse and then she'd be back to sleep.

I do it all and I'm happy with that. We each have things we are good at and I handle nighttime wake ups better and have more patience. Plus I'm nursing. DH lets me sleep in every chance I get (he gets up with our toddler and starts breakfast).
ETA our arrangement works for us partly because I know how to ask for help if I need a break and DH gladly obliges.

I became a SAHM after DD so I did all MOTN feelings M-Thurs and Fri & Sat he would do it.

We divide evenly typically, but lately now that I'm pregnant again DH has been doing more. LO has been up for an hour or more each of the last two nights and he let me sleep right through that while he dealt with it, poor guy.

I'm nursing, so I do MOTN. I do okay on broken sleep and my DH needs his sleep. There's no reason to get us both up.

I do the ordinary motn wakings with diaper change and feeding but any extended wakings when I'm too tired to deal, I wake my husband up and he either gets him to sleep or hangs with him until it's time for the next feeding. This little guy's only a week old but in a few weeks when I start pumping, the first wakeup will also be handled by him, he's a night owl so he usually will still be up. Some nights this feels unfair as dh gets uninterrupted sleep and I'm up 3 or so times, but since I bf the other alternative is to pump which takes longer anyway.

I did all the MOTN wakings bc I am on leave and DH has a 150 mile commute 3-4 days a week plus a home business and night classes. But I started to lose it bc DS never slept and screamed all the time. After helping me for a few nights DH convinced/forced me to sleep train, and then it became totally bearable.