We do. DH gets her up and changes her. I make her bottle and nurse her. One of us feeds her the bottle and puts her back down.
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We did in the nb weeks, then in month two, I usually got up because I was nursing and it didn't make sense after DH was back at work.
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We did for LO 1 but not as much for LO 2.
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We do!
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When we were still changing her diaper in the MOTN we would (he would change her then bring her to me and I would nurse her). Now we don't change her diaper, so I do all wakeups because I've got the boobs!
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Yes, we split 50%. Even when I was on maternity leave. Now that I'm back at work, I can confirm that I am not *more* sleepy being at work and sleep deprived than I was being at home and sleep deprived while caring or my baby.
If anything, being forced to shower and dress makes me feel more energized even if I'm running on 5 hours of sleep.
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We do. We take turns. So whoever puts her to bed also does the middle of the night wakings.
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Not really. We work together if we haven't gone to bed yet (D will bring him to bed and one of us will keep him calm while the other changes him), but after we've gone to bed I go to him 95% of the time. That'll have to change when I go back to work, though, because while it made sense for me to get up when I SAH, D works later in the day than I will.
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As in, both of us waking up, no. Whoever was on duty did the whole shebang. But we did try to manage the duties fairly once my husband went back to work.
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Not really. The first 3-4 weeks we did take shifts, I'd still have to get up every 2-3 hours to BF, but I was also pumping, supplementing, etc., so it was a full process. Now that we've been EBF since about 4-5 weeks, I do all the night wakings. I don't see much of a point of making DH get up when I have to be up anyway.
Sidenote: he travels for work so he really is rarely home that much in the first place.
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Nope. I don't think DH ever did a MOTN wakeup.
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Nope...I'm on mat leave for the year and dh has to work early in the morning. Luckily she STTN most nights now
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No, or very very rarely. I can think of a couple of times when he got up with her and it was because I was incredibly sick and could hardly move. Other than that I tend to do them all (since I am still BFing and that's usually what she wants/needs).
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Nope. No point because I was nursing and we rarely did diaper changes in the MOTN. If DD was having a hard timing going back down (rare), DH would take over.
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DH helped a lot in the early days. Getting the baby and bringing him to me to nurse, reswaddling, etc.
Nowadays it's allllll me!
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Nope, but I stay home with Sadie & Dan has to get up at 4am to go to work. There aren't many MOTN wake ups anymore (unless she's sick), but I've always handled them since she was born.
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Not really — at first, we would both just be up with her — I needed help for breastfeeding after my c section — but once he went back to work, I tried to let him sleep. Now that we're both at work, I'm the one who goes in to her if she cries in the MOTN (rare now at 15 months, thankfully), because if he goes in, she just cries more. She's a daddy's girl during the day, but mommy's girl at night. Yay me! He does get up if she's up for a longer stretch at night to see if there's anything he can do (get her some water, the thermometer, tylenol, etc.) which I appreciate.
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We always shared all motn duties until she started sttn at 11.5 months!
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We did when DS was 1 month old. After that, all me.
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No, since I nurse I always got up with her but if she is fussy we take turns soothing/rocking her.
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He helped for the first few weeks, changing her diaper while I dealt with getting set up with nursing pillows and whatnot. Once BFing got easier and more comfortable, I started letting him sleep. Even though I do a diaper change during her MOTN wake-up (or, when she woke up more often, the one closest to the halfway point) it takes all of two minutes so it's not a big deal for me to do it before I nurse her. Also, DH likes to chat with her during diaper changes, whereas I want to keep her as sleepy as possible, so there's that.
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Nope. In the beginning when DH was home for the week or two and on weekends, he would change DS's diaper in between sides when I would BF him but while I was on maternity leave, I did it all. Then when I went back to work, we didn't need to change any diapers in the MOTN so I just BF and put him back to sleep. DS stayed asleep the whole time. I'm not going to pretend that I was super happy about it every time but it was best.
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It was hard to because I was nursing, so I didn't see the point in both of us getting up when I had to get up anyway. He did help out a lot in the beginning by getting her, changing her, and bringing her to me... but after awhile I felt like one of us should get some sleep so he could be more present at other times.
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Yes, we always split. LO has been a terrible sleeper so we literally take shifts to handle her wakeups. He will bring her to me if he thinks she is hungry. Not sure what we will do if/when she starts sleeping better though. She will probably still be nursing at night for awhile so I may end up taking all the motn duties at that point.
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DH always got up with me for MOTN duties. He kept me company while nursing and helped change her. He also got her back to sleep while I went back to bed.
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Yes, from the very beginning. I have super high sleep needs and DH has little to no sleep needs so he was more than happy to get up and cuddle his little man in the MOTN. It helped that I was pumping in addition to BFing so he could give him a bottle. Eventually he ended up doing more wake ups than me because he handled them way better.
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Not while I was on maternity leave. LO was EBF anyway so it made no sense for my husband to get up when there wasn't much he could do and he needed to get up for work in the morning. Often he would end up in the guest room for the second half of the night so he could get rest. Once I went back to work I would handle all the feeding but if she woke and we knew she wasn't hungry he would handle it.
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I was the only one who got up with DS during MOTN wake ups until he was 4 months old and I found out I was pregnant again! Now, DH does all of the wake ups (very few, usually he sleeps 7-7 through the night) and handles everything so I can get more rest. I really appreciate that he does that for me.
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Nope. Dh helped the first night that we were home but then it was all me. dh seemed to clock out around 8pm and didn't help - it still frustrates me even now when lo is 18 months old!
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At the beginning, he would get up and bring Liam to me in bed so I could nurse, but after a while, I would just do it. It got to the point where he wouldn't even know if or when Liam woke up in the middle of the night.
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I do all the middle of the night wakeups. It just makes sense since I exclusively breastfeed. Occasionally though when the baby wouldn't go back to sleep I'd send him and DH into the living room for some bonding time while I went back to bed!
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Lately she's only been having one wake up and...... DH takes it all! We've been giving her a bottle at night because if I nurse her she won't go back to sleep after, so DH will change her dipe and give her the bottle. If she has two wake ups I'll take the second one, but she hasn't lately.
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Yup. DH gets him when he cries, changes him if necessary and gives him to me to nurse him back to sleep. Then I put him back to bed in his pack and play and listen to make sure he falls asleep...otherwise I have to put him in the bed with us so he will sleep. That way DH gets more sleep since he's working right now and I'm not.
LO is 3 weeks old today so we still have 2-3 wake ups a night.
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Yep, he would always change and bring her to me to nurse
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@Anagram: that is encouraging!
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No, never. DH only took a few days off work and I breastfeed, so there's not a lot DH could do anyway. I figured if I had to get up, why make both of us get up... having said that, I think I've spoiled him a bit too much and now he would never expect to get up.
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We do like @septca: mentioned. On tough nights I'll get DH up to tend to her so I can rest a bit, but he's working and I'm still on leave. Since I'm nursing, there's not much point in waking him up unless I need a break because she's not going back down. Even when I'm back at work, I'll do most night things, but he does all the laundry, cooking, and dishes to help even it out.
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We share, mainly because the birth aggravated my previous sacro-iliac sprain so it's helpful to me for DH to get baby out of his hammock and hand him to me for feeding. I imagine that once we aren't feeding on demand and my sprain is fixed it will just be me.
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I do them all since I have the boobs.
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@QBbride: same here! It didn't make sense to me to have both of us up, and now if he gets up ever (sometimes he does a bit of morning time on Saturdays) he feels like he did so much! And we're both at work again now.
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