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I wanted to write a post, for me and for others, about my labor induction. I think it will make me feel better by writing about it and I know if anyone else has to go through what I did, then maybe they can read this and it will ease some fears they might have about labor induction.

We went in to our 20 wk appt and were hoping to find out the sex of our baby. Unfortunately, we found out that there was no heartbeat. This was at 10:00 a.m Wednesday morning. By 5 p.m. I was at our local hospital and admitted into labor and delivery. I was greeted by the nurses, one who is a mom of two of my students, and taken back to our rooms. The nurses were so sweet and hugged us as we got there. I am sure it's hard to know they are going to be helping someone deliver a baby that is stillborn. It's just a sad process for everyone.

They started an IV, which took them three times to do, and then they placed these tablets on my cervix. I can't remember what the tablets were called. I started to get cramps that were like menstrual cramps. By 11 p.m, they were not comfortable at all and I asked for some pain medication. I got some Demerol and it helped a little bit. They put more tablets on my cervix every 4 hours. By the 2nd dose, I was wanting more pain meds, but i had to wait a little bit. I got a full dose of Demerol around 2 a.m. and was finally able to get some sleep and rest. By 3:30 a.m., my water broke on its own. My nurse told me that I should tell her when things start to feel different, if I feel more pressure. It didn't take long before I felt contractions and they were about 30 seconds apart. My doctor arrived and with just a couple of pushes, I delivered our baby girl. I didn't have to dialate to the full 10 cm because the baby was so small, but I did have to dialate some.

Having not delivered before, I was fearful of the entire process, especially since my first one was going to end in heartache. It did help with my grieving process and I do feel like I am a mom because I went through process. I know that I won't fear my next delivery as much because I know more of what I will go through. However, my next pregnancy will probably be frought with worry.

I'm amazed by how many people in my community have gone through the same thing. No one seems to want to talk about it until they know you have gone through the tragedy yourself.

  1. SAHM0811

    grapefruit / 4049 posts

    oh my goodness... I have nothing but complete admiration for your strength at this time. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  2. mrs. wagon

    blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts

    I'm 23 weeks and I just had an ultrasound at 20 weeks. I cannot imagine the grief. I am so, so, so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for writing about the experience because it's important for women to know what can happen and what would then have to happen... I had no idea it was a labor induction and delivery, just as if it was a live birth. Hearing that you pushed out your baby knowing that it would end in heartache all the time just about broke my heart into a million pieces. Part of me thinks I wouldn't want to go through that, but reading through your story, I can see how it can make your grieving process more complete and give you closure.

    Lots and lots of prayers your family's way as you grieve your loss. Praying for the angels bringing your sweet little one up to heaven today.

  3. Mrs. Jacks

    blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts

    I'm so sorry sweetie. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm wishing you peace and healing. Hugs.

  4. Mrs. Yoyo

    blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts

    My dear friend just guest posted about a similar experience. You are definitely not alone. Go easy on yourself for awhile.

  5. mrbee

    admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts

    Thank you for sharing your experience. Much love and support to you and your husband, from our family to yours!!

  6. singingbee

    pomelo / 5073 posts

    @mrs. wagon: Thanks. At first, I was really upset that I would have to actually go through labor. I know my doctor chose it because at this point a D&C would be too dangerous with all the bleeding. It has been so humbling to learn how many women have actually gone through a miscarriage, whether it's early or late, and they never really talk about it unless they know someone else who has gone through it. It was surreal pushing my baby out and I knew when I pushed her out, but know that you wouldn't hear anything at all. I know that if my experience could bring some comfort and knowledge to someone else going through the same thing, then I'm happy to share. I had a close friend that went through a late miscarriage, very similar to mine. She opted to not going through labor and induction. When she found out about our experience, she told me that not going through labor was the one thing she regrets the most. As awful as it is, it does provide some closure and comfort in knowing that your body can do what it's supposed to do, even if you feel like it's failed you in some ways.

  7. lilteacherbee

    cantaloupe / 6791 posts

    @Jennimac: Thank you for sharing. You've been on my mind all day. Reading your story brought tears to my eyes and I'm so, so sorry. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Much love and hugs to you and your family.

  8. tequiero21

    honeydew / 7968 posts

    I'm so sorry. My cousin went through the exact same thing....except I think she was further along. Really breaks my heart. Thinking of you and pray that u have all the love and support u need to get through this tragic time.

  9. umlo

    cherry / 135 posts

    I am so sorry for your loss but I am encouraged by your strength. A friend of mine told me that once you become a mother, you embody this quiet strength. You definitely have this and more so through this experience. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. My prayers are with you!

  10. googly-eyes

    GOLD / pomelo / 5737 posts

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, I know it must be hard to talk about. This is such a sensitive subject that nobody really speaks about, and I admire your strength and courage in telling your story and know that there are others who can relate to you too. I wish you and your family healing.

  11. MsMini

    grapefruit / 4056 posts

    I am so sorry for your loss, but thank you so much for sharing your story.

  12. BSB

    hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for having the strength to share your story. I'll be thinking of you!

  13. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. You are braabe for sharing your story with us. Thinking if you and wishing you the best.

  14. sorrycharlie

    hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing..that couldn't have been easy and was brave of you to post.

  15. Andrea

    GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts

    How heart breaking, but you put a positive spin on it, as usual. Thank you so much for sharing and we are hear to talk, anytime.

  16. Rubies

    hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts

    Thank you for sharing and for being so strong. Your experience will definitely help some people.

  17. LuLu Mom

    GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts

    Thank you for sharing, your strength through this is really to be admired. I'm sorry for your loss.

  18. LAGS

    clementine / 916 posts

    I'm so very sorry for your loss and send lots of love to you and your family.

    Thank you for sharing your experience. Because of the silence there is surrounding miscarriage and stillbirth, I'm sure your post will be a comfort to many.

  19. mrsjyw

    GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts

    I'm so so so sorry for your loss and thank you so much for sharing your personal experience.

  20. Mrs. Sunglasses

    GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts

    You are so strong for sharing your story (so early on) I'm sorry for your loss but I am happy to hear that everyone at the hospital did their job and were super supportive and loving.

    xox

  21. BananaPancakes

    grapefruit / 4817 posts

    I am so terribly sorry you're going through this. I've been thinking about and praying for you since you posted on Wednesday, and I'm glad your delivery has brought you some closure. I cannot imagine what you are going through and you have been so strong to share this with us. Lots of love.

  22. Nskillet

    persimmon / 1099 posts

    Thank you for having the courage to share your story with our community. I cannot imagine the loss you and your spouse are feeling and hope you know you have the boards here to come should you ever need a place for support.

    Best wishes and prayers.

  23. heffalump

    GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts

    So sorry you had to go through all of that. Wishing you a quick recovery, emotionally and physically, and hope you never have to go through something like that ever again. So great that you shared your story, so many women will be able to relate and it always helps to know that we're not alone.

  24. singingbee

    pomelo / 5073 posts

    Thanks everyone. I don't think I could keep the story in, even if I wanted to. My husband says that I'm as extroverted as they get, whatever I'm feeling, saying, thinking is out of mouth or you can read it in my body language despite the fact that I might want to keep it private.

    I didn't mention that both my doctor and my dad, who is a pathologist, looked at the baby and noticed that something was wrong with the umbilical cord. So, even from the beginning, something didn't develop as completely as it should have and the baby could never go full term. I think from the beginning I had little fear or nagging feeling that something wasn't completely right about everything, but I chalked it up to first time mom nerves. Now I think I just knew deep down in my heart.

    From the time that my husband spread the news that we lost our baby, the number of people that emailed me or texted me to say that they had this same thing happen to them and still feel sad about it and feel they can't share it, has been enormous. I guess I just hope that we as women can be open with each other and have that support that we want and need. I am really glad that I have this outlet too right now. I'm sure I'll be on all day just to give me somehting to do.

  25. Running Elley

    coconut / 8681 posts

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us. You don't hear the actual details of stories like this very often (just as you mentioned) but I think that sometimes they really need to be shared. I appreciate it. You, M and your daughter have been in my thoughts!

  26. mrskc

    bananas / 9357 posts

    Thank you for sharing your story. I had two MCs but I still can't imagine what it must have been like for you. It helped me tremendously reading about other women's stories so thank you for having the strength to share yours. My heart goes out to you and your family.

  27. chopsuey

    hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts

    Thanks for sharing.. So sorry you had to go through this experience. Sending love and prayers your way.

  28. mrbee

    admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts

    JenniMac was kind enough to share her story on the blog. I will post a link there, and close this thread so that comments are in one place:

    http://www.hellobee.com/2012/04/09/loss-at-20-weeks/

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