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I think it's ridiculous but I also do not do jealousy in my marriage. My DH and I were both in jealous relationships before and have agreed to not allow that in our relationship. She either trusts her husband or not, she shouldn't have to worry about social media.

I think it's absurd, frankly, and insulting to her husband, and I feel really bad for her after reading it because it makes me feel sad. I can't imagine feeling that insecure about myself or my husband or my marriage. I don't fault her for baring her private thoughts, but I really don't like them

Not a fan. I feel bad for her and her insecurities. Unless she changes herself, all the covered boobs in the world aren't going to change this bump in her marriage. (Not saying that's easy!)

Well, I can't speak for her husband, but mine is capable of seeing pictures of attractive women and deciding not to look. He is also capable of finding other people attractive, and not acting on those feelings. And, despite my flaws, he is attracted to me. Honestly, this feels like one step away from "women who wear short skirts get raped because men can't control themselves."

People should be responsible about what they put on the internet, but not because somebody's husband or somebody's teenage son need to be protected from hussies and harlots showing off their ankles or whatever. As much as things change, they sure do stay the same.

@rahlyrah: word.

@jetsa: true but there are many young people out there who put WAY too much on the Internet and don't think about their futures. To be honest, I had a difficult time following the blogger's train of thought.

I think she comes off as incredibly insecure.... but I'm someone who checks out women with my husband, so what do I know. I must be twice as godless.

She totally just outed herself as very insecure in her marriage and I also ended up feeling bad for her husband by the end of it. I don't really mind bikini pics of Facebook, but some users could definitely benefit from some modesty. Everyone has their own way of projecting themselves though, and none of it hurts me so I don't care!

@scg00387: @Silva: basically what you ladies said.

I think her post is absurd. How about just un friending those friends or hide their posts if it bothers you so much.

Coming from someone who admits to having a completely unwarranted insecurity/jealous streak at times, I can't even with this article. I just feel sorry for this lady that she can't trust her husband enough to let him manage his access to his own social media accounts.

Haha.. My husband sent me this article a few days ago with a note that said "thank you for not being like this"

@Ms.Pumpkin: YES.

Gotta admit, I feel really good about myself right now. Cause that chick is cray

I am one of the most insecure human beings on this earth, and it most certainly frustrates my husband because he hates me hating on myself, but never in a thousand years would I blame my insecurities or issues in my marriage on bikini pictures on Facebook. This came off as incredibly sad, and kind of degrading to men. They aren't sexual misfits who lose control because of their newsfeed, and they shouldn't be subject to this level of jealousy.

I have different views on modesty than a lot of y'all, but I still found this sad. I just want to shake her. Her insecurity is far less attractive than any flabby tummy or saggy boobs.

My thoughts are twofold:

1. I look like hell right now. Squishy, stretchy, lumpy, milky, bleeding, engorged, Unbrushed, unshaven. I think if my husband found this state sexy, I'd be somewhat concerned, haha. But he loves my body. This is the body that gave him two sons and pushed them out and kept them alive. It's a lot better of a reason to be loved than just looking good. And I trust he likes his family more than he likes the occasional spank bank material. He also doesn't do social media.

I dated a guy for years who was very much like the people in the blog post. He talked about struggling with the way women dressed and how hard it was to walk across campus in the summertime with scantily clad women as he tried to stay pure. It put a lot of pressure on me and I am still recovering from the messed up ness of it all. Dating someone else, I realized not all men obsess about sex and default to thinking about sex all the time. I think certain Christian cultures can obsess about it so much that it becomes a much bigger deal than it should be.

2. What is the point of scantily clad, pursed lips selfies on social media? Wanting people to know you look sexy. I don't have much if a need for anyone to think i am sexy besides my husband. (Not no need, just not much if one.) So I don't have a reason to post that stuff. Some other women do have a desire for others to see them as sexy. I don't think that is the same as trying to arouse them, which is what the blogger is thinking. But I get why doing it is something I can't relate to and frankly find kind of pathetic. I think it's good to find your value elsewhere. Not for her husband's sake but just because it's not a very valuable thing.

@beaker: yesss

I wish I'd never opened this because I'm SO CRANKY now. UGH. As the Mother of a son, this is 100% the opposite of how I ever want him to think. Your eyes, your brain, your problem. As if looking at other people in bathing suits is even "a problem". Oof. I'm done, I swear

She is insecure. That makes me sad.

She's so stripping her husband of any responsibility. It shouldn't matter what is posted or where.. It's up to him to care (or not)!