Our dog was diagnosed with lymphoma 6 weeks ago. We knew this was coming but I just wasnt ready for it. Today as we were about to go outside and play I realized that our sweet Bailey was gone. I scooted my kids outside with my mom while I took care of the body but they are just so upset. It breaks my heart even more to have to explain things to them and watch them be upset. I just wish I could make it easier on them.
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How heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss!
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I am so sorry. The pain of losing a family pet is horrific. Thinking of you and your family.
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Oh no! I'm so sorry!
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I am so so sorry. It hurts to lose a pet and I'm sure it's heartbreaking for you to see your little ones hurting too. Hugs to all of you!
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I'm so sorry
I know how is to lose a beloved pet.
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Losing a pet is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.
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There is a children's book written about losing a pet...I wish I could remember the name of it! So sorry for the loss!
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Oh no!!!
So sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry
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Oh no! I remember how awful it was to lose a pet. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
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I'm so sorry. Losing a pet is awful and especially sad since they didn't have a chance to say good bye.
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So sorry for your loss
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Oh I'm so sorry!! We didn't have pets when I was little so the first time we lost a pet I was away at college and it still was really hard-- I can't imagine how confused and sad they must be. Kids are resilient though-- I'm sure it's harder on you seeing them sad than it actually is for them.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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So sorry for your loss!
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I am so sorry for your family. ((Hugs))
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"The Tenth Good Thing About Barney" ( http://www.amazon.com/Tenth-Good-Thing-About-Barney/dp/0689712030) and the book, "Lifetimes" ( http://www.amazon.com/Lifetimes-Beautiful-Explain-Death-Children/dp/0553344021/ref=pd_sim_b_3) are both really good books about death and dying. I had them when I was little and one of my grandpas died. I remember my mom reading me both, and I remember them being helpful. I am so sad for your family! Dogs are such wonderful friends, and it is so painful to lose them.
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I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
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I'm so sorry to hear about Bailey, Mrs. Train. Losing a pet is such a hard hard thing. I sending a lot of warm thoughts to you and Mr. Train and the kids.
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I am so sorry to hear about Bailey! Praying for your family!
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Thank you so much for your kind thoughts the boys are doing better but every once in awhile they tell me they miss bailey. @Mrs. Twine: thanks for the book recommendations. My oldest is asking a lot bout death in general and people dyeing so some of those might be helpful.
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@Mrs. Train: I'm so sorry! Losing a pet is horrible! I really hope one of the books suggestions can help explain things to the kiddos!
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I'm so sorry to hear this! You must all be very sad. The poor kids. I'm sure he lived a happy life with your family.
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I'm so sorry
it's so hard to lose a family pet and explaining it to children? Ugh. Hugs!
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Oh no, I am so sorry. Thinking of you and your family.
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I'm so sorry. It must make it harder to see the kids struggling.
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I'm so sorry, losing a pet is so difficult.
Maybe you can do something in Bailey's memory/honor with the kids to help with their grieving?
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Bed time tonight was rough. I had to sit in with the boys for over an hour talking about death. Ugh...... I am drained. If my husband was home this weekend I would have some wine
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Poor kiddos and you and your husband of course, will be sending you guys comforting vibes.
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@Mrs. Train: Sounds like you should enjoy a glass anyway. Poor mama, hopefully tomorrow goes a bit better.
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@Mrs. Train: I was 4 when our dog died. Our cat died the year before that. It's hard.
I had/have 'The Tenth Good Thing About Barney' and to be honest, I don't love it and would not use it to explain a human death, even though the operation of the physical world is the same on a dead cat's body as a human's, you know? (Spoiler: The tenth thing is that Barney makes the flowers grow. 'And that's a pretty nice job for a cat.') The thing is that I feel like small children need some certainty when grieving and 'Barney' briefly raises the question 'Does Heaven exist?' I understand what the author is doing there, but it isn't a rigorous discussion of the subject at all, and the death of a loved one or pet isn't, in my view, the right time to challenge a little child's ideas on that subject. Doubt is something that is naturally occurring and the treatment of it in 'Barney' is superficial. (Also there are some digs at the advocate of heaven that I think are wholly inappropriate.)
I'm really sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose family, friends, and pets.
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I'm so sorry! That has to be tough and even worse for the kids.
Are you planning on getting another dog at some point? I know as a young child, when we lost our dog, getting another one (that I picked out) really helped. Obviously it didn't replace our beloved dog, but having the responsibilities of a puppy really helped take my mind off the events of losing our dog.
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I'm so sorry :(. Losing a pet is so hard!
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i'm so sorry for your loss, it must be so much harder watching all those little face grieve too. i like to think that loving a pet when your young and experiencing the loss of them teaches us to love without fear- to love knowing that it may not work and that love experienced even when we are aware of it's limitations is still love worth experiencing to the fullest. i'm sure your sweet bailey taught them all lessons about what love is and saying goodbye. it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job being there for them while they process what's happened. my heart goes out to all of you!
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Oh, my heart just breaks for you. I am so sorry for your loss. I second the recommendation to get books for them. I know before I could even read, there were some books I just loved and that comforted me, and it might help your boys to be able to look at them when they are missing Bailey.
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So sorry for your family's loss.
Unfortunately, death is a part of life and as tough as it is, I actually think this is a better first experience with death than say, the loss of a grandparent. Getting over the loss of a pet is still much easier than getting over the loss of a person.
Still, it must be tough having to see little children cry over their lost companion.
As PPs have suggested, getting another pet will ease their pain. Maybe adopt an older dog which is already housebroken?
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@honeybear: thank you for your a warning on the book. Our friend brought it over and I don't really like the questioning heaven part either. Our vet gave us a copy of Dog Heaven and I liked that one much better
Thank you everyone for your kind words. The kids are still sad bit they are getting better. We are thinking about adopting another dog. So we will see how that goes. Thanks again!
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I'm so sorry for your loss! I hope the pain your family is zexperiencing will heal soon.
I know how is to lose a beloved pet.
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