OH and I decided on a middle name. His mother, my mom's mother, and my only aunt (mom's sister) all have the same first and middle name. We chose this first name as a middle name for our little girl due in August. The problem? My mom despises her mother, who she cares for and has serious mental health issues that makes her constantly belittle my mom and make up lies about her (dementia is so bizarre). When my dad died when I was little, my grandmother stepped in and helped raise me rather than enjoying her retirement. My mom has seemed to overlook this and says there is no good left in her mom.

How do I break the middle name to my mom? Just wait until she hears it at the baptism?