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@Ree723: I appreciate your comment. I am thinking that maybe he is just working out his own issues and that's why he's never said something to me directly.
@Maysprout: thank you for your reply. I'm sorry your sis and dad said rude things to you. I'm glad it's better now! I do think he will get used to it the more he's around it. I think I may casually mention it to my mom. I'm pretty sure she'd tell me to nurse him wherever I want.
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@Foodnerd81: Ditto! I'm pro-BFing and been around a few women who do it w/ or w/out covers, and I always feel awkward but try to make them uncomfortable.
But honestly, my Dad would probably be really uncomfortable and be more outspoken about it, and I would be uncomfortable, especially if someone already made it know that they felt uncomfortable too. I would just go use a private room in someone else's home. Even if it were my parents house. Just my personal feelings.
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I am surprised that so many PPs feel its a respect thing. If it were a different issue, maybe but BFing your kid in your parents house (covered no less!) isn't being disrespectful. It may be awkward, but I feel like the more he sees it, he'll be okay or he can leave until you're done. I love my parents and maybe it's just our relationship but I know they wouldn't want me to be uncomfortable in their house either!
I had friends over at my parents and I was BFing in the living room and my friends husband was there. I feel like if he felt weird (which he probably did!) he could have left. But most people just don't look at me directly if they feel weird.
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Ditto to what @birdofafeather said. I would continue to breastfeed with a cover around him regardless of whose house you're at. I also suggest talking to your mom about how you feel--maybe she can talk to your stepdad, and/or shed some light on the situation. I'm sorry you're dealing with this!
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How long has your step dad been in your life?
From my experience my mom's long term boyfriend would be very uncomfotable in this situation. Eventhough he is a father figure and treats me well, I am not his daughter. Any chance this is the case, where your "kinship" is tested?
I would move to another room with a door that closes off the room. Who knows people who are not uncomfortable with you breastfeeding might just follow you into the room to continue the conversation and your step dad will be all by his lonesome.
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@mrbee: Exactly this. I believe that everyone has the right to set the rules in their own home. I also have the right to stop going somewhere where I felt uncomfortable and disrespected.
Also, it's bs that he can't tell you himself. But that's an entire other issue.
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