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I was a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding when I was in university - she lived 3 provinces away, and not in the same province as my family lived. I've seen her a couple of times since the wedding, but she had kids before I was even thinking about getting married, so we were separated geographically and by lifestyle. We still chat on FB once in a while though!

I've had a few instances of this. When I got married, I wanted someone as a bridesmaid. She treated me horribly in response to this request. I stopped being her friend after that.

The other instance is my college roommate. Her wedding pretty much ended our friendship. We had our really close friend's wedding locally the same wedding. I wasn't in her wedding and DH was in our friend's wedding. We chose not to attend her wedding. I called her excited about her engagement when she announced. I got a really flippant hello, whatever, from her. I spoke to her sporadically after that. She didn't attend my wedding.

Actually, I'm pretty close with the friends who attended our wedding. My trainer at the time is the one that I don't see often, but everyone else, I definitely do.

Yep. At my wedding, there was a "friend" table. I haven't seen 2 of those people since and 2 others (these were couples) I see rarely, when I'm with other mutual friends. But we never get together just us anymore.

I did intentionally decide to only have one person in my wedding party for just this reason!!

Nope, everyone that was invited are close friends from college. we all still hangout at least 3 times a year.

@youboots: Agree our wedding was a snapshot of our lives at the time too. There were a number of attendees we don't talk to anymore, and a lot of that is that we have moved since our wedding, and we got married right out of college.

Yes! Nearly all our friends who came to our wedding fizzled out - except for a 2-3? Mostly all are still single

@cascademom: Woah...someone actually got angry with you for asking them to be a bridesmaid? Maybe good thing you guys aren't friends anymore!

I had the opposite occur. An acquaintance of mine asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. I love weddings and love being a bridesmaid, so I accepted. Her wedding was the last time I saw her. I felt badly, and we kept in touch with phone calls and emails for a while, but we just never got together. We still send Christmas cards to each other, but that's really it.

As for other weddings, there was a particular friend who wasn't a very good friend. After she bailed on my wedding, I went to hers out of courtesy, but we haven't really spoken since. She makes room for the people who she wants to, and I wasn't one of those people, so I stopped trying.

We got married young (I was almost 22), so there were a lot of people we naturally grew apart from. I kept in touch with most for a couple years afterward. Actually, I haven't spoken to 2 of my 5 bridesmaids since last March when we were all in another friend's wedding (my BFF). They are in completely different stages of life and we didn't have any huge argument or anything, but it does make me sad every once in a while. My BFF and I are both married now, obviously, and pregnant (her with #1 and myself with #2) and we live in the same suburbia neighborhood. The other two girls live together a few hours away and are still in the partying/single phase. We're all in our mid-twenties, so it's to be expected. Just crazy how close we used to be and now we haven't spoken in over a year!

I honestly can't think of a single friend i invited that we don't still see on the fairly-regular. I'm married almost 5 years.

Yes! I saw her a few times since my wedding, but not for the past few years. It was really sad actually. We were really close in college, she was a bridesmaid. But during the wedding planning (and we had a budget, low key wedding) she just phased out. Wouldn't let me dress shop with her, didn't tell me until the day of that she wasn't coming to my bridal shower, and apparently wasn't happy to be in my wedding but never told me (and I would have happily respected her wishes!). She made our cake which was amazing and people still talk about it. I really wish she had kept in contact, I tried off and on, but she just pulled back. She's kept in contact with a lot of our other friends from our mutual group, including those that none of us were that close to (including traveling abroad with them!) so that's stung. I was actually excited when I saw she had got something for LO from our registry (because we invited her to my shower, of course, but she didn't come) but she never sent it... Still not very sure what happened

I can think of a couple, yep!

I just looked at my group wedding shot...2 friends I have not seen since my wedding almost 3 years ago. One was a good friend that has kinda drifted away which is sad but the other one I was a former colleague and I moved jobs so I understand that. There are loads of friends DH invited that he hasn't seen...though for some reason he wanted to invite loads of friends from school and uni that he hadn't seen for years anyway!

This is definitely true in my experience. We got married fairly young (23), and I'm just not the type to make a ton of new friends. I invited my high school friends and my MOH was the one good friend I made in college. Of the high school friends, I'm friends on FB with two of them, but haven't seen either since one's wedding the same year as mine, and had a falling out with the other. It might have been a little different if we hadn't moved 1000 miles away after we got married, but we've been back for over a year now and I still don't see them. DH has some similar friends that came to the wedding but he hasn't bothered to see really and is just friends on FB. In his case, it's mostly because they're still all in the party phase of life and we SO are not.

Yup, one of my high school best friends was in my wedding, seemed to really enjoy herself, was very sentimental and sweet. We stayed in touch for like a month and then nothing. She never returned phone calls, stopped texting, got pregnant and didn't tell me herself. I still mourn the loss of this friendship, but it's been almost 5 years, so I've moved on.

My BFFS and bridesmaid stopped talking to me after my wedding with no explanation. Oh well.

(And it wasn't because I was a bridezilla either )

@luckypenny: That's what happened with my one friend! Wtf... if she didn't want to be friends I would have rather her not come to my wedding and pretend/be in the background of a bunch of pictures lol.

I don't talk to one of my bridesmaids. But stuff came out about her and she had an affair with our boss and they both got fired. My husband hated her so he wasn't sad to see her go. She also used to inappropriately text my DH.