When DH and I got married we formed a compromise with our last names. I was not ready to give up my last name and felt it was unfair that I should be expected to take his last name. At the same time I liked us being a unit and wanted to respect DH's dream of his future wife taking his name. So my sweet hubby agreed to a compromise. If I took his last name as my last name he would take my last name as a second middle name. So both hubby and I have our first name/our middle names-my maiden name/ his last name. It is crazy but it works for us 
Problem now is what to do for LO. Part of me feels like I want to give him the extra name so he is included in the tradition and the history and part of me feels it is mean to strap a kiddo down with that many names. I quite frankly don't have strong feelings either way so I would love to hear others opinions! Please let me know you reasoning too. Thanks ladies!
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Could you just give him your maiden as his only middle? I kept my last name and LO has it as his middle (as will the new LO).
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I gave my LO my maiden name as his middle name. That way he still has my 1/2 of the family as part of his name.
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Why don't you name baby: Name, Your Maiden Name as middle name, Last Name?
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Our girls are firstname, middle, my last name, his last name.
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First name, middle name, mothers name, fathers name, married nameDD is
First name, middle name, my maiden name, DH's name.I definitely don't feel burdened with my five names. They are each so important to who I am.
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Who knows your child may marry a royal and having more than one middle name would be the norm.
In all seriousness I would double up the middle name or just drop my maiden altogether. Whatever you decide for first will likely set the precedent for your second child.
A friend of mine honored her late my mother by giving her daughter her mom's first and middle name as the child's middle names. Her little girl has a bit of a long name, but it's very, very sweet.
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I have 4 names: first name, moms maiden, my maiden, dh's last. I personally hate having 4 names (I really wished if hyphenated!) so I want our los to only have 3, so lo # 1 will have my maiden as a middle and lo #2 will have my moms maiden (or vice versa, depending on sex/name choice)
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I think that you and DH came up with a great last name compromise. Both DH and I kept our last names so our LO is first name, middle name, my last name as second middle, then his last name as the last name. We primarily use the three names (dropping mine) at the dr office etc but it is important to me to have my last name in there.
My mom also did not change her name so growing up I was first name, her name as middle, last name. We thought about that route but wanted to use a family name as the other middle. I have been happy with our choice so far.
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I personally would hate having 4 names, so I wouldn't do that to my kid, but I know a number of people who do have 4 names.
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I didn't (and won't) change my last name. Our kids will be first, my last, DH's last. No "regular" middle name, as their names will already be pretty long and we don't think another middle is necessary. I'm glad they'll have both of our names, but the primary motivator is that we travel abroad regularly to see DH's family and I REALLY want their passports to show their connection to me as well as DH.
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My brother and I both have the same middle name- our mom's maiden name. Growing up I was a little bummed not to have the "normal" middle names that everyone else had, but now I love it!
I added my maiden name as a second middle name, so I'm first name, mom's maiden name, my maiden name, and my husband's last name. I love it this way, most of the time I just go by first and last, but I like keeping the tie to my past.
For our kids we have something that ties in to both families, a first initial for one family and a family name for the middle name. We are still negotiating a first name for baby #2, but he will follow suit.
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Little one isn't here yet but they will be First Name, Middle Name, My Last Name, His Last Name.
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My good friend had 2 middle names (no special meanings, her mom just wanted her to have 2), and she always loved it growing up. She liked being different, and her friends were always jealous that she had 2 middle names
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We're contemplating 2 middle names: Fiona Carmen Marie D____ or just picking one of the 2 middles. Both are pretty special to me Carmen is my dad and late grandfathers name. Marie is my middle name. I have no issue with the double middle even long ones. my 25 yr old cousin is Alexander Carmen Fredrick C_______ and he gets along just fine. Both last names would be there if you had hyphenated instead of adopting your maiden as a middle name. I say go for it.
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I don't think 4 names is a lot. I know lots of people with two middle names. I think it's a nice family tie you would all have!
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