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Thank you all for all the advice! It's very helpful to hear my thoughts echoed, since I tend to talk myself out of most things. I hate jumping to conclusions/thinking the worst so I tend to make excuses well maybe xyz...and talk myself out of mentioning it, when it is something that's bugging me.

I tried to keep it in line with most of the advice and asked to talk before she left. I kept it brief and didn't mention how I knew and just noted that I had some concerns with cell phone use and would prefer she used it only for important calls on an occasional basis. She immediately apologized and mentioned she had to call the Pharmacy today. Which was a little awkward because that's the type of call I wouldn't really have an issue with and I don't want her to think that was the extent of my issue. So I noted that's not really what I meant, I meant more recurring/internet browsing. I didn't mention how I knew/why I was saying it. So hopefully she understands and it was clear enough what I'm wanting.

Regarding those that suggested dropping by, so hopefully she won't want to be seen on her phone, I may have to try to do this in the future. Honestly one of the reasons she was probably so comfortable using her phone because I really try to not pop in through the day. My daughter doesn't really like it if I just walk through the room without giving her some attention for an extended time. So one of the reasons I use the monitor in her room is I usually power it up for one minute to confirm they are in her room, and then make a bathroom trip/fill up water...After my daughter mentioned the cell phone usage, I had watched social media for a few days and was upset. Then last night - my daughter has one of our old school cameras and she likes to take pics of us/her toys/etc...she was showing me photos last night and she was doing a photo shoot with Ariel I could see nanny in the background on her phone thru a series of photos...I forgot to mention that earlier. Typically her room monitor is aimed at her bed, but this AM I turned it to her little chair (where she was on the phone during my DD's photo shoot) and when I checked if it was clear to use the restroom today, that's when I saw her on the phone. And then I just couldn't stop watching until she put the thing down. Also, it wasn't like my daughter was happily playing independently, she was having a picnic and kept trying to involve nanny (handing her food) but she'd just take it, be like 'mm hmm', and back to phone. Only reason she put phone down was when DD took her shopping cart and left the room.

I really hope it improves.