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The napping/feeding schedule daycare wants is probably just a general idea. They're not going to strictly follow it and will just figure out what works for your baby as they go. And what works for your baby at daycare may be completely different than what works for your baby at home! Both my kids can go so much longer awake at daycare and still be happy than they can when they are at home!

Depending on how long your LO is going to be with caregivers, I'd provide enough bottles to be given to her every 2 hours, in case she ends up wanting to eat that often. With my eldest, I did a daycare bootcamp the weekend before he started daycare - my husband gave bottles while I pumped so we could figure out how much and how often he needed bottles. But with my second, I just gave daycare a bunch of bottles and said "You figure this out!" My first ended up drinking 5 oz every 3 hours (he also nursed every 3 hours at home). My second drinks 4-4.5 oz every 3 hours (but nurses every 2 hours at home).

Babies will catnap. What she does at home may not be what she does at daycare or with your family. Both my kids tended to just nap in swings at daycare, but nap in their cribs at home. At home, my youngest can go 1.5 hours before needing a nap. At daycare, he might be up for 3 or 4 or 5 hours! Just tell them something general like (naps after 2 hours of awake time) or whatever. They're just going to do whatever works for them anyway.

I don't think you need to keep track of her sleep/naps/feeds for anyone unless you want to do it for yourself. What she does at daycare will be different than what she does with your family which will be different than what she does at home.

I have no advice about the swaddling issue - we swaddle weaned before both kids started daycare so I didn't deal with this.

I didn't have to go back to work till much later, but from seeing friends go through this, I just wanted to say that this daycare schedule thing stresses out lots of parents and most babies aren't really naturally falling into regular schedules that early. So you don't need to feel like you've done something wrong... Could you ask daycare for a sample from other babies the same age? Anybody who takes care of infants must be familiar with the idea that they are unpredictable and inconsistent! Same with the swaddling thing, this must be a common concern. Did thing hey say most families go cold turkey off the swaddle? Do other babies have sleepsacks even if they don't like them?

I would probably want a log, too, not every day but maybe just a few days every few weeks to see how things are going. I don't think that would be neurotic.

We are in a nanny share and not daycare, but I was also very stressed about schedules in the final days of my maternity leave. My LO is now 7 months old and he still doesn't have a schedule in the sense of he eats/naps at exact times every day. I would call it more of a routine and, like @edelweiss: mentioned, I think awake time is a good place to start to have a routine. We still go by awake time vs. a concrete schedule and honestly, it makes dealing with crazy days (e.g., he takes a super long or super short nap or randomly wakes up at 5am) easier to deal with because I'm not trying to pigeonhole him into a 1.5 hour nap at 9am or whatever.

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking them to use a sleep sack - we just use a thin aden + anais one so I doubt it's interfering with "regulating temperature" much anyway. We use it more as a sleep cue like you said.

We are still tracking feedings and naps via BabyConnect, and our nanny does too (I'm kind of a crazy person but also LO has reflux and can be a finicky eater), so if you want validation that it's okay to ask for a log, here you go!

@Oliviapope: It is totally normal to stress over this, especially with your first baby! I was the same way with my eldest! I was like "How am I supposed to write down his nap times when he's so RANDOM???" It's definitely easier when it's baby number two and you know they barely look at that information anyway!

And yes! Eventually your baby will stop catnapping and do some solid naps. Things will make a lot more sense when your LO is down to two naps a day that are predictable! But that may not be for many more months...

@Oliviapope: yes, she always slept in a sleepsack. She still does now at 18 months.