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I was randomly walking down my workplace hallway when I heard a friend having a phone conversation. Now this friend having a phone conversation has a shaved head, massive tattoo-covered muscles, and wore clothing that Goodwill would use as rags. So it was a little out of place that he would be spouting some nuanced pregnancy wisdom. He was talking to his insurance agent about something and said, "It's like wanting a second child. You have to forget how shitty it was the first time or gloss over it in your memories. Hormones help."

I know for myself, I wasn't sure I wanted (or would be able to have kids) until I hit thirty. Then my darn hormones kicked in and all of a sudden I'm baby crazy. It's not as if I had a lot of friends who had kids at the time (they're all having them now) so it wasn't really peer pressure. But all of a sudden, there was this biological imperative that I reproduce. And for a while, I was a little disturbed and resentful that some hormone in my head got triggered that would change my mind so easily. Darn you (you know those aren't the words I'd normally choose), hormones in my brain! So if your hormones aren't holding you hostage, I envy you.

Also, when good family friends adopted their first child in China, I happened to have been traveling nearby and visited them the day after they picked up their little girl. I was the first to meet her. To this day, though I've not seen them often, that little girl has a special place in my heart. So I'm all for adoption and can heartily say that even tangentially being part of the the adoption process was moving and memorable.

I think its great that you are reframing this for yourself and realizing the many upsides of adoption (besides growing your family of course)! Good luck to you!

@Raindrop: Glad to know I'm not the only one!