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First of all your sanity is important. If you need to set him down for a break that is fine.

Personally. I think it's way to young for CIO. At this age they cry because they need something. However I don't think that letting him cry to sleep is the worst thing in the world as long as he's clean and fed.

It's tough how fast they change!!

Is there anyone that can come help when your DH is away? When my DH goes out of town I always have my mom come sleep over.... it's just easier that way since I also have a pup to take care of and of course she loves it.

Is it common for your LO to cry a lot? Is there a lot of spitting up? Do you think it could be reflux? Is the crying often after feedings? Especially after he's been on his back after a feeding? My LO had reflux and she would cry and cry and cry and nothing would sooth her, it was soooooo awful until I finally realized what it was and we were able to get her some meds and help her to feel better.

Personally I'm not a fan of CIO at all for me and my family, but I don't think a baby that young would respond to it anyway. I would try a walk in the stroller, a car ride, etc.

Here is my story: my son screamed 12 hours a day from the moment we brought him home. He only stopped because daffy didn't bring him in to nurse after midnight. He would also just put him down and scream cause it was too much.
Solution: dairy and soy intollerance so we pulled those from the diet.
Issues: he didn't trust us or sleep. It's been a long and hard process. He is a perfect baby/toddler except for sleep.

I second what @thehistoryofus says about going outside for a few minutes. I don't know why, but if I tried all of my tricks and nothing worked I'd take baby out to our porch and the fresh air would calm him down. He's 3 mos. now.

yes! take baby outside for a bit! almost always works when my son has a total meltdown and all other bases are covered.

that is way too young for CIO, but I agree with other posters that you need to set him down for a moment for your own sanity. Also with HBOTB and the outside trick. Liv used to do this, but she had colic and it was 5-6 days a week. Im hoping for you that its only a one time thing!

@lydg: DD was a good, easy baby, but she did have occasional nights like this. I think it was the second night homw from the hospital that she screamed for 5 hours straight. Nothing worked to calm her down! She often had major breakdowns around bedtime; sometimes it would take me hours of vigorous bouncing/running in place/really loud shushing to get her to sleep. Eventually (around 6 months, maybe) she just grew out of it. Looking back, I think a big part of the problem was that she was probably overtired. When she was overtired, she became a mess and would fight sleep like her life depnded on it. Anyway, if you eliminate all medical issues that might be causing his fussiness, it might just be something he needs to grow out of. Some babies just have "witching hours" and they are incolsable during those times, regardless of what you're doing to help.

At that a age, a baby is absolutely crying because they need something. Way too young for CIO (IMHO).

Awh, I feel for you There were times when LO would just scream for no reason whatsoever. Her diaper was clean, she was fed, she had been burped, she was swaddled, etc, etc, etc. Nothing I did helped. There were a couple times when I totally thought I would lose my mind so I just put her down in her crib and walked away for a bit to clear my head. Like as @cocobee said, if the baby's crying in your arms, it's not much different than crying in the crib. Although your LO is too young to CIO (in my opinion), if you need a breather, I think it's fine to put him down for a bit to gather yourself together. Good luck!