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We had good luck with a bottle of pumped BM around our bedtime (like you, 10:30 or 11) giving us a couple extra hours of sleep before the next overnight feeding. On the days I was really lucky, I'd pump more than she was drinking at that feeding time and I could save a little. (We did a bottle instead of nursing because DH could basically go in there and feed her while she was still sleeping....nursing took a lot more work and was more disruptive for her.)

Also, is she swaddled? Around that age we had great luck with a Merlin suit.

Oh, as to the paci, my son could never keep it in his mouth and he would get pissed whenever it fell out so we just ditched it and never looked back. We introduced a lovey to his crib at 4 months. He ignored it for the most part, then started batting at it, and then by 5 or 6 months when he started teething, he began sucking and gnawing on a corner of it to ease his gums. And then that became his soother. He's 21 months old and he still chews on a corner of his loveys at night as he falls asleep or when he wakes up at night and self settles.

So neither of my boys took the paci so I can't help with that but DS1 had a huge sleep association with nursing so the only way we got longer stretches and better sleep after the first wake up was to break that association by nursing at least half an hour before bedtime. Knowing that we've been nursing earlier with DS2 (13w) and putting him in his crib wide awake and letting him fall asleep on his own. Then when he woke up we let him fuss a little and see if he would fall back asleep on his own and if he didn't I would nurse him. He's now sleeping unswaddled (not necessarily because he's ready but because its too hot for the merlin and he's breaking out of the swaddle consistently) and getting him to fall asleep on his own and letting him fuss (absolutely no hysterical crying) has allowed us to get him from waking 4-5x per night when he first went unswaddled to now just 1-2x per night.