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I bought the book and just returned it...it didn't seem terribly helpful to me--basically said that you do things very very very slowly and in stages, and if at any point you feel too upset or LO gets too upset, you just go back to whatever works. But basically you work from picking up LO and rocking/soothing them, to soothing in the crib, to standing by the crib, to standing by the door, etc. I've heard it works, but it can take a long time--she even says that you can expect good results in 60 days or something like that. I personally will go insane if I need to wait another 60 days to see results, so it isn't for us.

I will say that she's super supportive of co sleeping and having LO in your room, and talks about how to make sleep training work in all different situations.

How old is your LO?

@Smurfette: hmm...2 months seems like it's a bit young for sleep training, IMO--I think it's usually not recommended until around 4 months at the earliest (although I know people do it before then). I know it's tough when they're so little and will NOT sleep...but I would give it a few weeks. LO's sleep got soo much better around 10/12 weeks (and then it got crappy again around 4 months but that's a different story!). The best thing you can do now is set up good sleep habits, like a good bedtime routine, set daytime routine (as much as is possible at that age), etc. I would maybe recommend The Baby Whisperer--she seems to have good info! Is her problem with just naps? Or nap and night time?

@Smurfette: ahh ok...well in that case any book that makes you feel like a failure isn't a very good book! One thing I can say is that I've heard that a lot of babies actually do better at daycare than they do at home (kind of the way babies always seem better behaved in front of other people than just mom and dad!). If nothing else, day care might help her get on more of a schedule? Plus, they probably have a ton of experience so I bet they'll have good tips for you! Hugs, I know how tough it is to be sleep deprived and feel completely at a loss.

I returned the book too and didn't find it very helpful either. I know this is against popular belief, but we sleep trained N at 6-weeks. If you read Mrs. Bee's post about best times to sleep train, it shows that a "good" sleep training window is coming up for you (between 10-weeks to 4-months). Good luck, whatever you decide to do!

@Mrs. High Heels: @Smurfette: Right there with you! I found Mrs, Hugh Heels two posts about sleep training really helpful, and I've read them a couple times in the last two weeks. I've decide to wait just a little longer since their adjusted age is just 4 weeks, but I think in another 2-3 weeks, I'm going to start being more serious about it. Right now, I'm trying to put them down drowsy, but awake each time, and let them fuss for jut a minute or two, but then pick them up and comfort them, and try putting the down drowsy but awake again. If they still don't drift off, i'll hold them until they go to sleep after a couple of tries. We're batting about 50/50 on whether they will go to sleep, but I feel like at least they are starting to get more adjusted to falling asleep on their own. Basically, I'm trying to give them some "practice" before we sleep train. Hang in there! Also, can you believe our LOs will be 2 months old?!?!?

I just wanted to second Weagle. My LO is a terrible sleeper at home, but when at daycare they just plop her in the crib and she puts herself to sleep and takes super long naps. Babies are clever and know when mama is around. :). Try not to stress yourself out too much.

i was so worried about LO's sleep before starting daycare because he is not a good napper--doesn't put himself to sleep with any ease, and tends to wake up after 45 minutes. we did CIO sleep training around 11 weeks before he went to daycare (at 12 weeks), and it was not a raging success although there was improvement.

at daycare, he gets maybe two 30-minute naps and one 1-hour nap--this is significantly less than the 6+ hours of naps he takes while at home.

i wish he would sleep more at daycare, but i can't do much about it. i tried, but ultimately it was out of my control, and we're still standing!

i guess i'm just saying that whatever happens, it will be okay. i'm also in the camp that says that every family and baby is different, and if you feel that sleep training is the right thing for you guys right now at 2 months, then that's the right decision.