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We're only starting to TTC, but I am already getting down about future comments. I know both our families will say we're too young, should have waited, should have bought a house, etc etc and while waiting to POAS last month I was in tears!

DH had a good comment though..he said that the comments are nothing more than other people telling us about what they would want for themselves, and if we do what everyone else tells us, we end up living someone else's life instead of our own.

He had a really good point..there are definitely days where I feel more nervous than others, but I try to repeat that phrase in my head!

People are scared of the unknown. If you believe enough in what you are doing your strong will will come out. Keep doing what you're doing! It sounds like a lot of hard work but the rewards must be high!

My brother ran into this sort of thing with our parents. He and his wife are agnostic, both raised Baptist. He got to the point where he told my parents "Those are your beliefs, which is fine, but they aren't ours. If you keep insisting that we raise our son with your values instead of respecting our own beliefs, we won't be able to spend as much time with you." They've gotten along much better since. A similar "those are your beliefs, these are ours - respect us as adults" talk might be in order for you.

I think you just have to learn to emotionally detach yourself from the situation and not take their "suggestions" too personally. Honestly, it's hard, especially if you truly care about what they think and how they feel. If your in-laws are similar to mine, they probably don't understand that other people have their own lives and can live it anyway they please WITHOUT being wrong in any way.

Detach yourself -- next time they say something, try to just ignore it. It took me awhile before it got to that point but it was really starting to affect me. If they can't bring themselves to think about how you may feel, then don't put so much effort into thinking about how they feel.

Let it go in one ear and out the other. Like unwanted advice from a weird uncle you only see once a year. Ignore it and laugh about how ridiculous it is. Because sometimes people just won't ever get it and they won't change.

HUGS