DH's bio dad bailed right after he was born, and DH has never met him. DH's dad adopted him when he married my MIL. We've had some health issues at our house lately, and it's made me think a lot about the fact that we have NO medical history from DH's paternal side. This makes me nervous for his health, but it also means we'll be missing medical history that might be important to our future children's health.

Obviously, I would not seek out this info without DH's blessing. There are tons of emotional issues tied to this and deciding to contact someone who wanted nothing to do with you is not an easy decision. We would be able to find the bio family so that's not an issue. Bio father paid child support DH's whole life, but just never wanted to meet him, be involved, etc.

I was wandering if anyone has been in this situation? If so, why did you decide to contact a bio family? Or why not? How did you go about approaching the bio?